Meetups geared to meeting the "Plus Sized"

[LookAtThisPOst]

Yes and it's hosted and organized by a woman. I didn't know these existed until I had seen it recently advertised in my region. It's geared towards men with this fetish and I saw it posted also advertised on POF as an event.

 

I guess women prefer to objectified for a man's fetish desires? Some claim to be looking for a "relationship", but I wonder if men with just the fetish are looking for a roll in the hay?

[angel.eyes]

Why do you automatically assume these women want to be fetishized? If they state they're looking for a relationship, why wouldn't that be true?

 

If fat women aren't your thing in dating, move on! That's why the group exists. To weed out men who wouldn't be interested while providing a forum for those who are interested in dating them.

 

You spend so much time criticizing women you'll never date. Honestly, if you were to focus some of that attention inwardly, do a little self-examination, and make a few changes, you would probably struggle less with the whole dating process.

[ZA Dater]

Amazed such a group would exist, here in SA if one is looking for plus size, its extremely simple, sign up a dating site of choice and prepare to be spoilt for choice.

[WaitingForBardot]

Why do you automatically assume these women want to be fetishized? If they state they're looking for a relationship, why wouldn't that be true?

 

If fat women aren't your thing in dating, move on! That's why the group exists. To weed out men who wouldn't be interested while providing a forum for those who are interested in dating them.

 

You spend so much time criticizing women you'll never date. Honestly, if you were to focus some of that attention inwardly, do a little self-examination, and make a few changes, you would probably struggle less with the whole dating process.

And OP why do you assume that all men that like plus-sized women have a fetish?

 

Although at least some women are suspicious of this themselves. I was rejected on two occasions in my youth by women that accused me of being a chubby chaser. I had actually never heard that term before then. Of course it's possible I simply didn't click for them and it was the easiest way to reject me.

[dreamingoftigers]

Yes and it's hosted and organized by a woman. I didn't know these existed until I had seen it recently advertised in my region. It's geared towards men with this fetish and I saw it posted also advertised on POF as an event.

 

I guess women prefer to objectified for a man's fetish desires? Some claim to be looking for a "relationship", but I wonder if men with just the fetish are looking for a roll in the hay?

 

Well maybe not all are looking for a relationship.

 

If I was looking for a fling, it would make sense for me to go to a group like this. And then I wouldn't care if I was " fetishized." That would kind of be the point. To be temporarily fetishized.

 

But truth be told, I wouldn't need to go to the group.

 

Lots of guys out there have no problem being forward with me. I assume it's because they figure I'm "easy" because of my weight. Makes me laugh a bit. Been married for ten years and just because you say something sexual to me at the grocery store (when I'm dressed like my mother in the clothes she bought me for Christmas no less) doesn't mean I'm going to trip and land on your cock by the Bell peppers. Some guys, sheesh.

[Imajerk17]

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I'm not really sure how to answer the topic here, except to say that plenty of men are physically attracted to women w curvier builds no matter what the thiness-obsessed media would have people believe. You sure do seem to have a rather interesting dating pool in your area. Where do you find the time to track this stuff down?

Edited February 19, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[LookAtThisPOst]

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I'm not really sure how to answer the topic here. You sure do seem to have a rather interesting dating pool in your area. Where do you find the time to track this stuff down?

 

They just show up on the random column banners on the Meetup site.

Edited February 19, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[stillafool]

 

Lots of guys out there have no problem being forward with me. I assume it's because they figure I'm "easy" because of my weight. Makes me laugh a bit. Been married for ten years and just because you say something sexual to me at the grocery store (when I'm dressed like my mother in the clothes she bought me for Christmas no less) doesn't mean I'm going to trip and land on your cock by the Bell peppers. Some guys, sheesh.

 

It's not that they think you are easy they are genuinely attracted to you.

[WaitingForBardot]

Well maybe not all are looking for a relationship.

 

If I was looking for a fling, it would make sense for me to go to a group like this. And then I wouldn't care if I was " fetishized." That would kind of be the point. To be temporarily fetishized.

 

But truth be told, I wouldn't need to go to the group.

 

Lots of guys out there have no problem being forward with me. I assume it's because they figure I'm "easy" because of my weight. Makes me laugh a bit. Been married for ten years and just because you say something sexual to me at the grocery store (when I'm dressed like my mother in the clothes she bought me for Christmas no less) doesn't mean I'm going to trip and land on your cock by the Bell peppers. Some guys, sheesh.

Don't sell yourself short!

 

But you remind me of a Margaret Cho joke (paraphrasing from memory): "I'm tired of all the guys thinking us fat girls are easy, just because we are!"

[losangelena]

Yes and it's hosted and organized by a woman. I didn't know these existed until I had seen it recently advertised in my region. It's geared towards men with this fetish and I saw it posted also advertised on POF as an event.

 

I guess women prefer to objectified for a man's fetish desires? Some claim to be looking for a "relationship", but I wonder if men with just the fetish are looking for a roll in the hay?

 

This post is about 10 shades of problematic.

 

Not all men who are into plus-sized women have a fetish. Is that unbelievable to you?

 

I think an event like this is a smart idea. It gives larger women a place to go where they know the men will find them attractive, where they won't have to worry about some stupid sh**head insulting them.

 

As a formerly obese person, I can tell you that it's very easy to parse out men who are into the fetish aspect of weight as opposed to the ones who are genuinely attracted. Both exist.

[preraph]

I think there's a better than even chance that a lot of men joining the site will also be plus-sized and both sexes will probably be older, because I'm sure they're shunned on typical OLD sites as well.

[losangelena]

I think there's a better than even chance that a lot of men joining the site will also be plus-sized and both sexes will probably be older, because I'm sure they're shunned on typical OLD sites as well.

 

This is also true. I know a woman who (before she got married—to an averaged-sized man) went to these types of events and said they were great fun. They provided a relaxed environment for people to meet one another without a fear of judgement. What a great thing.

[LookAtThisPOst]

They provided a relaxed environment for people to meet one another without a fear of judgement. What a great thing.

 

This can very well be accomplished in a regular social venue.

[Michelle ma Belle]

I don't understand your point.

 

Why does being plus size and having a club or gathering of like-minded people make it a fetish?

 

Is it really that unheard of that there are people out there who prefer larger sized partners? It's no different than anyone else having a physical preference of some kind. What so wrong with it regardless if it's just for sex or something more?

 

 

You don't like it? Then don't date them but to sit there casting stones like you're some perfect specimen is quite disturbing.

[JustGettingBy]

Also, maybe some of the 'plus sizes' going are men. Just because its organized by a woman doesn't mean 'women only'.

[LookAtThisPOst]

I don't understand your point.

 

Why does being plus size and having a club or gathering of like-minded people make it a fetish?

 

Is it really that unheard of that there are people out there who prefer larger sized partners? It's no different than anyone else having a physical preference of some kind. What so wrong with it regardless if it's just for sex or something more?

 

 

You don't like it? Then don't date them but to sit there casting stones like you're some perfect specimen is quite disturbing.

 

I just find it rather odd that there are organizations that cater to specific body types. This is the first time I've witnessed this to be an actual Meetup.

 

I mean, I have an affinity for Asian women, but I don't go to events geared specifically for that.

 

Now there Meetups for those who appreciate an Asian culture, but if women there caught wind of a guy saying, "Oh, I joined this group because I have a thing for Asian women." Then he would then be chastised and probably be booted out by the organizer altogether.

 

The site is even sexualized with obese women pictured in lingerie which is indicator of such a specific fetish.

[losangelena]

This can very well be accomplished in a regular social venue.

 

Really? You try being a 300-pound woman in a "regular social venue." I guarantee there's nothing relaxing about it.

 

I don't understand your hang up about this. Let fat people meet each other comfortably in peace, jesus.

[loverboy69]

I guess a good question in this discussion needs to be asked: What constitutes a fetish when it comes to sexual preference?

 

One online dictionary describes a fetish as: "a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.'

 

I think it's okay to actually talk about this (and have this conversation) even though some people automatically take offense. I actually think people should OWN their fetishes instead of being ashamed of them or pretending they don't exist.

 

There are men who love women in general and are open to relationships with a varying type of body, hair color etc. These guys are open and opportunistic.

 

Then you have guys who can only get off by smelly feet.

[dreamingoftigers]

I don't understand your point.

 

Why does being plus size and having a club or gathering of like-minded people make it a fetish?

 

Is it really that unheard of that there are people out there who prefer larger sized partners? It's no different than anyone else having a physical preference of some kind. What so wrong with it regardless if it's just for sex or something more?

 

 

You don't like it? Then don't date them but to sit there casting stones like you're some perfect specimen is quite disturbing.

 

Truth above.

 

Frankly, me and the guy who runs marathons probably aren't as compatible as me and the guy who wants to pickup the pizza on Friday night.

 

It's not healthy, sure, but at least I'm honest about it.

 

Now if there was a marathon with a pizza at the finish line, that might be something worth entertaining.

[dreamingoftigers]

I just find it rather odd that there are organizations that cater to specific body types. This is the first time I've witnessed this to be an actual Meetup.

 

I mean, I have an affinity for Asian women, but I don't go to events geared specifically for that.

 

Now there Meetups for those who appreciate an Asian culture, but if women there caught wind of a guy saying, "Oh, I joined this group because I have a thing for Asian women." Then he would then be chastised and probably be booted out by the organizer altogether.

 

The site is even sexualized with obese women pictured in lingerie which is indicator of such a specific fetish.

 

Really? I've gotten ads on THIS SITE For Russian and Asian singles.

 

There's a group in my city for Jamaican singles looking for mates and Philippina singles.

[dreamingoftigers]

I guess a good question in this discussion needs to be asked: What constitutes a fetish when it comes to sexual preference?

 

One online dictionary describes a fetish as: "a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.'

 

I think it's okay to actually talk about this (and have this conversation) even though some people automatically take offense. I actually think people should OWN their fetishes instead of being ashamed of them or pretending they don't exist.

 

There are men who love women in general and are open to relationships with a varying type of body, hair color etc. These guys are open and opportunistic.

Then you have guys who can only get off by smelly feet.

 

My husband would have done well to find the female equivalent of this.

[losangelena]

I guess a good question in this discussion needs to be asked: What constitutes a fetish when it comes to sexual preference?

 

One online dictionary describes a fetish as: "a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.'

 

I think it's okay to actually talk about this (and have this conversation) even though some people automatically take offense. I actually think people should OWN their fetishes instead of being ashamed of them or pretending they don't exist.

 

There are men who love women in general and are open to relationships with a varying type of body, hair color etc. These guys are open and opportunistic.

 

Then you have guys who can only get off by smelly feet.

 

For sure there are men who like fat women on a fetishistic level. But not ALL men who like fat women fetishize the weight.

 

What I find problematic about OP's post is that very notion, that somehow an organized meeting of plus-sized women (and their admirers) is only about fetish. I'm trying to argue that it may just be a more comfortable setting for these overweight women to let their hair down, so to speak. He brings up the example that these kinds of meetings don't exist for Asian women, but to that I'd say, Asian women aren't stigmatized the way fat women are.

[elaine567]

Yes and it's hosted and organized by a woman. I didn't know these existed until I had seen it recently advertised in my region. It's geared towards men with this fetish and I saw it posted also advertised on POF as an event.

 

I guess women prefer to objectified for a man's fetish desires? Some claim to be looking for a "relationship", but I wonder if men with just the fetish are looking for a roll in the hay?

 

Plus sized women are a fetish?

What nonsense is that?

[xxoo]

Yes and it's hosted and organized by a woman. I didn't know these existed until I had seen it recently advertised in my region. It's geared towards men with this fetish and I saw it posted also advertised on POF as an event.

 

I guess women prefer to objectified for a man's fetish desires? Some claim to be looking for a "relationship", but I wonder if men with just the fetish are looking for a roll in the hay?

 

Did the ad use the word fetish?

 

Or did you assume it is a fetish?

[clia]

Given how many men I've seen on this site who are positively disgusted at the idea of dating a woman larger than a size 2, I think it's a great idea for these women to specifically seek out men who are interested in women their size. It saves everyone a lot of time!