johnrussel88 Posted February 19, 2016 Share Posted February 19, 2016 we have been together for few months . We like and love each other and are ok , but I'm a bit jealous and feel weird that my girlfriend only wear skirt to work and when she with her friends but only wear jeans when we go out for a date. The skirt is so short above knee and I'm so jealous when guys checking on her. any advise from the ladies**** Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted February 19, 2016 Share Posted February 19, 2016 Tell her how lovely she looks in a skirt. She will probably then wear them while on dates with you 3 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted February 19, 2016 Share Posted February 19, 2016 I'm a bit jealous and feel weird that my girlfriend only wear skirt to work and when she with her friends but only wear jeans when we go out for a date As long as she doesn't only wear a skirt, there's no problem. Maybe she just feels more relaxed around you. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted February 19, 2016 Share Posted February 19, 2016 we have been together for few months . We like and love each other and are ok , but I'm a bit jealous and feel weird that my girlfriend only wear skirt to work and when she with her friends but only wear jeans when we go out for a date. The skirt is so short above knee and I'm so jealous when guys checking on her. any advise from the ladies**** You have to be careful regarding your jealousy. Advising your gf not to wear short skirts, or making it obvious you do not like it, is seen by most as coming under the heading of "controlling" behaviour and is a form of domestic abuse. She should be allowed to wear exactly what she wants to wear, no matter how uncomfortable that makes you feel, she is an adult, she is NOT your property. I guess she wears skirts to "dress up" and when going out with you she feels more relaxed. OR you said once you love her in jeans, and she is trying to please you. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
LoveRefreshed Posted February 19, 2016 Share Posted February 19, 2016 Telling her not to wear a skirt is extreme jealousy that is manifesting in a controlling manner. The only way to deal with jealousy is to realize that you're going to push her away from you if you act with anger. What you need to do is to react with love and honesty. Hey babe, I think you look ****ing sexy as **** in skirts. I would really like it if you dressed like that occasionally for dates and not just work! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted February 19, 2016 Share Posted February 19, 2016 we have been together for few months . We like and love each other and are ok , but I'm a bit jealous and feel weird that my girlfriend only wear skirt to work and when she with her friends but only wear jeans when we go out for a date. The skirt is so short above knee and I'm so jealous when guys checking on her. any advise from the ladies**** What type of business? What is her job? What do the other ladies there wear that do the same job? Link to post Share on other sites
Just a Guy Posted February 19, 2016 Share Posted February 19, 2016 (edited) Hi John, if you feel uncomfortable with your girlfriend wearing skirts to work or when she goes out with her girlfriends but only wears jeans when out with you then you have one of two options to choose from. One is to just ignore your misgivings and put up a nonchalant face to her. The other is to split from her and find someone with whom you are more comfortable. You have not said how long you have been with your girlfriend or how strong your relationship with her is. Depending on your answers to these two queries one could advise you more effectively. Others have offered sage advice so you can pick and choose what you want to use and what you want to discard. So choose wisely. By the way how do you know guys are checking her out when she is wearing her skirt when she only wears jeans when she is out with you? If she is good looking guys will check her out anyway whether she is in skirts or jeans. If she is good looking and has chosen to be with you then you should feel proud that other guys find her attractive but she finds you attractive and not them. I would worry only if she were to flirt with all and sundry and any one who compliments her or tries to strike up a conversation with her. Edited February 19, 2016 by Just a Guy Link to post Share on other sites
soleilesquire Posted February 19, 2016 Share Posted February 19, 2016 If you'd like her to dress up for your dates, you can nicely ask. You have zero say over what she wears to work....no matter what other ladies do or what kind of office it is. Period. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted February 19, 2016 Share Posted February 19, 2016 Guys will be checkin her out even if she wore sweat pants, it's a losing battle....guys look anyways. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted February 19, 2016 Share Posted February 19, 2016 Take her out to a dance club or to a classy restaurant, she will have no choice but to wear a dress or skirt. Link to post Share on other sites
GunslingerRoland Posted February 19, 2016 Share Posted February 19, 2016 I know you asked for advice from women, but here are some classic words of wisdom from our old friend Dr. Hook "When you're in love with a beautiful woman It's hard When you're in love with a beautiful woman You know it's hard Everybody wants her Everybody loves her Everybody wants to take your baby home When you're in love with a beautiful woman You watch your friends When you're in love with a beautiful woman It never ends You know that it's crazy You want to trust her Then somebody hangs up when you answer the phone When you're in love with a beautiful woman You go it alone Maybe it's just an ego problem Problem is, I've been fooled before By fair weathered friends and faint hearted lovers And everytime it happens It just convinces me more When you're in love with a beautiful woman You watch her eyes When you're in love with a beautiful woman You look for lies Everybody tempts her Everybody tells her She's the most beautiful woman they know When you're in love with a beautiful woman You go it alone When you're in love with a beautiful woman You watch your friends When you're in love with a beautiful woman Yeah it never ends When you're in love with a beautiful woman You watch her eyes When you're in love with a beautiful woman You keep looking for lies " Bottom line is, you don't own her. She's good looking, men are going to look at her, and hit on her. If you're not comfortable with that, your relationship will not work. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Mrin Posted February 19, 2016 Share Posted February 19, 2016 Ya dude, just say how much you like her in a skirt where you can see her legs. She'll probably start wearing them more with you. But ya, you can't do the whole "don't wear a skirt when out with friends" thing. That's pretty third world-ish. One other thing - when she goes out with her girlfriends and gets all dressed up - you have to also realize that women are very competitive with each other so of course she is going to want to look her best. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted February 19, 2016 Share Posted February 19, 2016 is ok for your girlfriend to wear skirt? I love it when they show off the goods so yes, it's ok. On the jealousy thing, I think that has more to do w/security. Are you afraid she's shopping around or sth? Link to post Share on other sites
MrMeh Posted February 19, 2016 Share Posted February 19, 2016 If you completely trust her and her intentions then the type of clothes she would wear would be a non-factor. Just give her a Dark Sidious costume. Maybe she'll take the hint.. Link to post Share on other sites
Heer Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 Hi john!! I personally think skirts are great!! I have to admit that I haven't wore any skirts for quite some time, but I think I have a few laying around. I usually wear denim shorts nowadays because they're more comfortable and apparently the guys:rolleyes: like them... I don't usually show off my legs, but your gf might like it. Kisses Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 It's OK for any woman anywhere to wear whatever makes her happy. She can wear skirts, bikinis, tight pants, sexy undies . . . anything that makes her happy. If you would prefer that she dress up . . . wear skirts on your dates . . . tell her how attractive she is & how turned on you would be if she wore a skirt for you. But understand if you try to tell her how to dress expect to unceremoniously dumped. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Guildford Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 If dOnnivain's suggestion does not work, then buy your dating cloths at the Goodwill-Thrift shop and dress shabby for the next date. When your girlfriend complains tell her you will dress up if she does. You have just as much right to dress casual as she does. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 If dOnnivain's suggestion does not work, then buy your dating cloths at the Goodwill-Thrift shop and dress shabby for the next date. When your girlfriend complains tell her you will dress up if she does. You have just as much right to dress casual as she does. The OP never said that his date dressed shabbily. He was only upset that she wore jeans (covering her legs) on dates with him but showed leg at work in a skirt. At no point did he say she looked unkempt so I don't understand why you are encouraging him to dress sloppily. I got the sense that OP felt short changed because the date wore jeans around him but easy access clothes to work. I also go the sense -- which is where I took umbrage -- that because he's a guy the OP thinks he gets to tell somebody else how to behave & that is a big no no. Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 OP, Are you kidding me? You are worried about her wearing skirts? Really? Really? REALLY? Young man you need to think very hard about even addressing this with her. You have only been going out with this girl for a few months. If you are so freaked out about her wearing skirts at work and even bring this up I will bet you will be looking for a new girlfriend in the very near future. Just let thsi go. No good can come out of being upset over her Job wear. Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 Note from moderation: the thread-starter left soon after starting this thread and they haven't been back, so we'll close it up pending their return. If they wish for more feedback, they can use the Alert Us button on this post to have it opened again. Thanks, ~6 Link to post Share on other sites
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