Mental health, resigning from my job, second thoughts?

[Daaanz]

Hi all,

 

So I recently posted here about how my job was ruining my mental health and since then it has only got worse . I'm only 22 and feel like I am wasting time in my life when I should be enjoying myself.

 

I have found myself a new job, somewhere I have worked previously and I was comfortable and happy there.

 

My mental health issues have only started during the last year, and I've never really suffered in the past. I know it's down to my job but panic attacks, anxiety and depression are now starting to affect my life massively outside of work.

 

I handed in my notice beginning of this week, they accepted it and they already knew about my problems. They have said to me instead of handing in my notice they will support me and make adjustments in any way that they need to to make me comfortable and happy again, desk moves, reduced hours. I said no. They then went on to tell me that they feel I am making a bad decision. I currently work for a huge company lots of opportunities to move around and benefits etc and that moving to a small company will not help me because I am just going back into my comfort zone and not actually dealing with the issues that are there. However I feel I need to be comfortable to start to feel better.

 

Has anyone been through a similar situation or can give me any advise? I'm now beginning to doubt everything, am I making a bad decision?

[truthtripper]

No, I don't think you're doing the wrong thing at all. I also suffer from severe anxiety/panic(which is improving over time). There was a time where I had to quit work altogether and chill out just simply doing nothing for two whole years. I qualified for sickness allowance. It's better to be as comfortable as you can, when battling anxiety. The less work you can do the better, otherwise it can take longer for you to heal. Try to minimise stress in your life as much as possible.

 

There is mind/body therapy called Feldenkrais which is extremely effective for releasing anxiety. It has helped me so much. Check it out.

[HarmonyInDisonance]

If you are miserable even with the money, then what is the money doing for you? You could make adjustments if needed to reduce expenses. I guess what I am saying is that if you can afford it and you happy at your old job go back.

 

However.

 

It is exceedingly rare for any corporate entity to accommodate one to such a degree. Do you think it is possible to work through it with a slightly reduced stress level. What level of mental health issues are you having? You may not like the idea of it, but they may be able to provide you access to some professional help that most of us can only dream of accessing.

 

I would have to have more details about what is expected of you and your mental health problems to be of any further assistance.

 

Good luck.

[Elsy]

Hi all,

 

So I recently posted here about how my job was ruining my mental health and since then it has only got worse . I'm only 22 and feel like I am wasting time in my life when I should be enjoying myself.

 

I have found myself a new job, somewhere I have worked previously and I was comfortable and happy there.

 

My mental health issues have only started during the last year, and I've never really suffered in the past. I know it's down to my job but panic attacks, anxiety and depression are now starting to affect my life massively outside of work.

 

I handed in my notice beginning of this week, they accepted it and they already knew about my problems. They have said to me instead of handing in my notice they will support me and make adjustments in any way that they need to to make me comfortable and happy again, desk moves, reduced hours. I said no. They then went on to tell me that they feel I am making a bad decision. I currently work for a huge company lots of opportunities to move around and benefits etc and that moving to a small company will not help me because I am just going back into my comfort zone and not actually dealing with the issues that are there. However I feel I need to be comfortable to start to feel better.

 

Has anyone been through a similar situation or can give me any advise? I'm now beginning to doubt everything, am I making a bad decision?

 

I suffer from chronic major depression and have a high-stress job. I don't see here where you say that your job is actually causing you stress other than you think you need to be more comfortable. It is incredible that your current employer is willing to accommodate your needs. That means they value you as an employee and want to work with you. I don't believe changing jobs is going to help you unless this job is THE source of your anxiety and depression. If you have an organic problem (not situational) changing jobs will not help.

 

If you have not seen a psychiatrist I highly recommend it. And the wonderful benefits at your current company would be a blessing. You may need medication and there's nothing wrong with that. Just because you were able to overcome some stuff in the past doesn't mean you can do it on your own now. Certain mental illnesses can get worse over time. They also tend to be episodic; they can flare up out of the blue or because of some trigger.

 

I first became aware of "feeling down" at age 14, and went on medication around age 30. My employer does not know about my illness and that is by design since I am a woman in a management position in a male-dominated industry. I take "staycays" (stay at home vacations) when I start to feel the burnout and am grateful for the medical benefits since my meds would be very expensive without. Over the years I have changed, added and deleted medications depending on what has changed with me, how I react to them, and even when new medications become available.

 

Sometimes changing your physical situation such as where you live or work is exactly what is needed for your emotional wellbeing, but unless you know that for sure, it's a bad idea to make major decisions when you're not feeling your best. First try to identify exactly what is going on with you and see a doctor if necessary. Or try talk therapy if you think you just need help figuring things out. Maybe both are in order. I tell you though, panic attacks are no joke and need to be dealt with.

 

You are so young, now is the time to get a firm grip on whatever is going on with you. Don't become the person who can't or won't hold down a job or maintain any other long-term commitments (like a relationship). Get the help you need. You won't regret it.

Edited March 25, 2016 by Elsy

[candie13]

having second thoughts is actually a sign that you have mental issues. No one healthy will go into a place making them sick.

 

Let's put it differently: right now, that job - you cannot handle it. If you don't leave now, you will get damaged that severely that your work will suffer and they will kick you out. It's a dead end.

 

So accept that as it is, the situation cannot be solved. Focus on getting better and on your healing. After you've gotten rid of the panic attacks and understood the key source of it as well as being armed with high arm munition against future panic attacks, you can try to go back.

 

But now, for now, you are without defense. LEarn to identify the cause of your mental issues and fix them. The career will be there, after you get better.

 

don't be too ambitious at the expense of yourself. take it easy and put yourself first.

[PogoStick]

Things like schizophrenia and bipolar can start to show up around your age. Get into some mental health care and keep ahead of any potential problems.