FocusStrider Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 Hi, It has been a while since I last posted this. I have one question (actually two) Long story short, I met a co-worker that I suspect likes me. She has a lot of the signs pointing that she likes me (playfully hits me, legs crossed with her feet pointed to me, her smiles and jokes with me a lot, etc). Sometimes she asked me to come with her downstairs to get a coffee. Now, question #1 Earlier today, when I walked down to my office, she talked with one of my co workers and saw me walking by.. she attempts to block my path (of course with a smile)... and then eventually let me by as I got close... So, my first question is... if a girl playfully blocks your path.. does that give you a hint? Question #2 Later that day, I stopped in her office after finishing my work. We joked about the words "I love you". She talked to one of her co workers about that.. She told him she loves him. Later, I joked with her and told her "ohhh, now I see where it goes.... no argument". She was like "what... excuse me.. ohhh you're so jealous." (she was sarcastic). I was like hmm.. "me.. jealous? no way." (of course I was sarcastic too). She gave me this dirty look and was like... "well, you know what I mean.". We ended up laughing about it so hard because it was really funny. Now, here is the question: did she do that on purpose to gear my response? Any help would be nice. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 You two are flirting. What is your end goal? To ask her out? Beware the risks of dating a coworker. Link to post Share on other sites
Alamo657 Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 (edited) There is sexual tension going on there. But as usual with women, fantasies play a huge part in how playful they are with you, and she might come out as "i just wanted to be friendly". The question is, who, how and why would you take it further at the workplace ? In any case, asking her out for coffee after work is your only solution. Edited February 20, 2016 by Alamo657 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author FocusStrider Posted February 20, 2016 Author Share Posted February 20, 2016 You two are flirting. What is your end goal? To ask her out? Beware the risks of dating a coworker. That's what I am thinking.. I usually will not date a coworker because of what you mentioned "the risks". Sometimes I feel like I should have go ahead and ask her out... I will just ask her out for coffee and see where it goes carefully. Thank you for your input. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author FocusStrider Posted February 20, 2016 Author Share Posted February 20, 2016 There is sexual tension going on there. But as usual with women, fantasies play a huge part in how playful they are with you, and she might come out as "i just wanted to be friendly". The question is, who, how and why would you take it further at the workplace ? In any case, asking her out for coffee after work is your only solution. Yeah you are right, that is why I am not sure if she is just being friendly or something like that.. it doesn't seem like she is trying to be friendly, but I will ask her out for a coffee and see what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 That's what I am thinking.. I usually will not date a coworker because of what you mentioned "the risks". Sometimes I feel like I should have go ahead and ask her out... I will just ask her out for coffee and see where it goes carefully. Thank you for your input. Good luck. A lot of the coworker risk thing depends on your job. Is it a transitional job where one or the other of you will eventually move on? Or are you entrenched in a true career, where you're both going to stay put, and your behavior would affect work performance, evaluations and such? Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 I know of many men that married co-worker and have had great marriages. So my question is you left out the fact on how you feel about her. Wife potential, want to put your hands all over her? Then date her. You only want to hit it and run then pass. Link to post Share on other sites
Author FocusStrider Posted February 20, 2016 Author Share Posted February 20, 2016 Good luck. A lot of the coworker risk thing depends on your job. Is it a transitional job where one or the other of you will eventually move on? Or are you entrenched in a true career, where you're both going to stay put, and your behavior would affect work performance, evaluations and such? For her, I am not sure. For me, I am entrenched in a true career. She does mention that she wants to stay put at my job, of course it is not up to us to decide who stays or who goes. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author FocusStrider Posted February 22, 2016 Author Share Posted February 22, 2016 I know of many men that married co-worker and have had great marriages. So my question is you left out the fact on how you feel about her. Wife potential, want to put your hands all over her? Then date her. You only want to hit it and run then pass. Yeah, you are right. I know of many men who married their co-workers and have successful marriages. When I first met her, it was nothing but just a co-worker that is my friend (I did not have a feeling for her at that time), but the more we hang out.. the more I start develop feelings for her. I am pretty sure she has developed a feeling for me. I still need to ask her out for a coffee and see what happens. I will see her tomorrow so I will start doing that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 Yeah, you are right. I know of many men who married their co-workers and have successful marriages. When I first met her, it was nothing but just a co-worker that is my friend (I did not have a feeling for her at that time), but the more we hang out.. the more I start develop feelings for her. I am pretty sure she has developed a feeling for me. I still need to ask her out for a coffee and see what happens. I will see her tomorrow so I will start doing that. I think you know her well enough and long enough to ask her out on a date. Link to post Share on other sites
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