S2B Posted March 3, 2016 Share Posted March 3, 2016 When we talked last night he said that he hates her and that she tried to make him lose his job. And I stated it might be smart to not bicker with her in work environments and he said he "can't control" the anger when he sees her and what a bitch she is basically. Some men like a bitchy gal. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedchica Posted March 3, 2016 Author Share Posted March 3, 2016 Some men like a bitchy gal. Stop implying that he has feelings for her. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted March 3, 2016 Share Posted March 3, 2016 Stop implying that he has feelings for her. He CLEARLY does have feelings for her They might not be Hallmark Card feelings, but they are enough for him to blame her for acting like a total jackass. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
VeveCakes Posted March 3, 2016 Share Posted March 3, 2016 Get your head outta the sand girl! He's so obsessed with her he's going to lose his bloody job. Dump him!! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedchica Posted March 8, 2016 Author Share Posted March 8, 2016 I picked him up yesterday from work and he was taking long so I parked and decided to go inside to see what's the hold up. I go inside and notice that they have a long line of customers which is why he wasn't ready yet. She asked him to borrow his set of keys and he says "anything for you" and she only said "thank you". I went back to the car. Finally he came out and I asked him about it and he says he was just being friendly to her so that they can end the drama. I told him that comment was inappropriate. He tells me he doesn't think it's that serious Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted March 8, 2016 Share Posted March 8, 2016 Your boyfriend is clearly a clown. A lying clown in love with someone else. Don't be his clowness. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedchica Posted March 8, 2016 Author Share Posted March 8, 2016 I told him if he's saying things like that obviously she's not bothering him and I seen her reaction she said thank you (for the keys) Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted March 8, 2016 Share Posted March 8, 2016 I want an invitation to your wedding. Will she be your maid of honour? Or maybe, the way things are going, it will be their wedding and YOU will be maid of honour. That's far more likely, as things stand, because you can't seem to see your own hand in front of your face, let alone what kind of a person he is..... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedchica Posted March 9, 2016 Author Share Posted March 9, 2016 I want an invitation to your wedding. Will she be your maid of honour? Or maybe, the way things are going, it will be their wedding and YOU will be maid of honour. That's far more likely, as things stand, because you can't seem to see your own hand in front of your face, let alone what kind of a person he is..... Why would she be maid of honour at our wedding? ? Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted March 9, 2016 Share Posted March 9, 2016 Why would she be maid of honour at our wedding? ? Would you consider being a Maid of Honour at their wedding? Oh, Good grief..... I made the comment to illustrate how blind you are being about this situation. Many people in this thread have advised you to quit this relationship, because he is still so involved with her, and it seems from what you lately say, that they are actually a lot more 'together' than he admits. You are the third wheel. He is not 100% committed to you, because he is still hung up on her. He has less interest in you than a committed, dedicated and loving BF should have, because he is still permitting himself to be hugely distracted by her, and his feelings for her, however positive or negative they might be. Why are you apparently settling for less than you deserve? You don't seem to be able to see this. you have obstinately continued asking the most odd questions, and failing to see the real point of the issue. The point of the issue is that you should exit this relationship, or tell him that he either quits his job and seeing her, or you leave, and she can have him. I would, in your shoes, run a million miles in the opposite direction, and double-quick. He. Doesn't. Love. You. Not in the way he should, Not by a long chalk. His affection for you falls wide of the mark, and is a long way away from how deep it should be. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedchica Posted March 10, 2016 Author Share Posted March 10, 2016 Things finally came to an explosion. We all attended an award ceremony for his boss. It was a formal event. Of course she was there. I seen him staring at her whenever they were in a group setting talking. Whenever she talked he'd stare at her the entire time she was talking. He'd look away sometimes but would go right back to staring at her. I questioned him and he said I'm "being ridiculous ". I walked away and discreetly made my way back. They were in an area near the stage talking. I sat down with a group of people and none of the group even noticed. So I took advantage. I heard a guy say to her that she's a nice person and my BF made a face like "are you kidding". She then said she was upset with the guy for a smart comment he made and my BF said "just give her chocolate she will feel better" (apparently she likes chocolate) . They then started guessing her weight (she's very petite) and my BF chimed in and said "110" . The guy then said something about how small she is and my BF said "it's more fun that way. You can pick them up. Toss them around. Throw them around" . That's when I walked over and told him I heard everything. He asked me not to make a scene I told him it's very inappropriate what he did and said . I explained to him that they are battling over sexual harassment and he's communicating with her that way!! So he tells her he's with me and isn't interested in her. She seemed unbothered. Why the hell would he go through all of this to then tell her he wants to be with me? We aren't in a good place right now. Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted March 10, 2016 Share Posted March 10, 2016 Things finally came to an explosion. We all attended an award ceremony for his boss. It was a formal event. Of course she was there. I seen him staring at her whenever they were in a group setting talking. Whenever she talked he'd stare at her the entire time she was talking. He'd look away sometimes but would go right back to staring at her. I questioned him and he said I'm "being ridiculous ". I walked away and discreetly made my way back. They were in an area near the stage talking. I sat down with a group of people and none of the group even noticed. So I took advantage. I heard a guy say to her that she's a nice person and my BF made a face like "are you kidding". She then said she was upset with the guy for a smart comment he made and my BF said "just give her chocolate she will feel better" (apparently she likes chocolate) . They then started guessing her weight (she's very petite) and my BF chimed in and said "110" . The guy then said something about how small she is and my BF said "it's more fun that way. You can pick them up. Toss them around. Throw them around" . That's when I walked over and told him I heard everything. He asked me not to make a scene I told him it's very inappropriate what he did and said . I explained to him that they are battling over sexual harassment and he's communicating with her that way!! So he tells her he's with me and isn't interested in her. She seemed unbothered. Why the hell would he go through all of this to then tell her he wants to be with me? We aren't in a good place right now. Honey, I hope you bow out of all this drama he's causing. I can't imagine a reason to stay involved with his little triangle. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
266696687 Posted March 10, 2016 Share Posted March 10, 2016 (edited) Things finally came to an explosion. We all attended an award ceremony for his boss. It was a formal event. Of course she was there. I seen him staring at her whenever they were in a group setting talking. Whenever she talked he'd stare at her the entire time she was talking. He'd look away sometimes but would go right back to staring at her. I questioned him and he said I'm "being ridiculous ". I walked away and discreetly made my way back. They were in an area near the stage talking. I sat down with a group of people and none of the group even noticed. So I took advantage. I heard a guy say to her that she's a nice person and my BF made a face like "are you kidding". She then said she was upset with the guy for a smart comment he made and my BF said "just give her chocolate she will feel better" (apparently she likes chocolate) . They then started guessing her weight (she's very petite) and my BF chimed in and said "110" . The guy then said something about how small she is and my BF said "it's more fun that way. You can pick them up. Toss them around. Throw them around" . That's when I walked over and told him I heard everything. He asked me not to make a scene I told him it's very inappropriate what he did and said . I explained to him that they are battling over sexual harassment and he's communicating with her that way!! So he tells her he's with me and isn't interested in her. She seemed unbothered. Why the hell would he go through all of this to then tell her he wants to be with me? We aren't in a good place right now. Seriously? You've been given really good advice all through this thread but you refuse to see the truth. Your boyfriend is staring at her because he is in love with her. He is using you - to make her jealous. What other reason would there be for him to tell her he wants to be with you? He is rubbing your relationship in her face. He will keep you around for as long as you serve this purpose. Apparently you are willing to allow him to use you for this. He is fighting with her because that's the only way he can secure her attention and ensure she is thinking about him. He is talking about her sexually because he still thinks about her that way. He remembers what she likes because it's important to him. He remembers how much she weighs for the same reason. How blind are you? Seriously take the blinkers off! You are going to get burned by this guy and will kick yourself for the next 10 years for allowing this guy to get away with it. You'll be asking yourself why you didn't listen to all the good advice you were given. You see it coming but just absolutely refuse to pull your head out of the sand. I'm beginning to think that you are so desperate to stick with this guy that you will turn a blind eye to whatever wrong he does. You should seek therapy to work on your self esteem and learn some self respect. You've already been given everyone's advice. Get a backbone and dump this guy! You must think so very little of yourself if you are willing to put up with this! You can walk away. You should walk away! Edited March 10, 2016 by 266696687 4 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted March 10, 2016 Share Posted March 10, 2016 Things finally came to an explosion. ..... <snip> .....We aren't in a good place right now. On the contrary, you are in a very good place right now. Right by the exit with your hand on the door. Why are you still there?? I think I figured it out. It's exciting. It's a diversion. It adds a bit of drama to a relationship that would otherwise have absolutely nothing going for it. He's a cheater. If he wasn't still so wrapped up in her, he would probably be finding another girl to cheat with. Remember: if he will cheat WITH you - he will have absolutely no qualms or crisis of conscience with cheating ON you. Really - ? Are so blind to how ridiculous, stupid and utterly pointless your relationship is - ? He is totally disrespectful of you AND her. Please answer these questions: What exactly has he done, in all of this, to convince you he is worth so much? What exactly, do you see in him that makes staying with him so attractive? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedchica Posted April 22, 2016 Author Share Posted April 22, 2016 My boyfriend and I dont usually use condoms. Recently however he has been using them. Idk if he may have misinterpreted something I said. Not too long ago I told him I wanted to start using "things" when we have sex but I didn't mean condoms. I meant to spice up our bedroom. Recently when we were about to get the deal going he grabs a condom. I asked him why he's using one and he said "you said you wanted to" and I said no I didn't?? And he said " well for protection" and I said " you don't trust me??" And he said. " protection from pregnancy". This for some reason has me really worried. Idk why but it really bothered me. I asked him if he has a baby on the way with someone else is that why he wants to use condoms and he said "No!! Why would you think that??" I made up some story that someone told me that and I said "idk I guess people like to say things to irritate me" and he said "obviously". After asking guy friends they all said that usually the reason for condoms is NOT because they have a baby on the way already and that I was silly for asking that. Last time we slept together he used a condom but I didn't even question him about it.... It still bothers me though idk why Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted April 22, 2016 Share Posted April 22, 2016 So, err, are you trying to get pregnant, or what? Or just playing Russian Roulette with someone else's life? He is sensible and mature for using protection. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted April 22, 2016 Share Posted April 22, 2016 Sudden use of condoms. 1) They KNOW that getting their partner pregnant is the last thing they want as they are not that committed, or they do not trust her to use her own methods of contraception and having a kid would be a disaster. 2)They are screwing around with other women, so are suddenly using condoms at home in case they infect the wife/gf and they would then have to come clean. How is he getting on with the ex gf these days? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedchica Posted April 22, 2016 Author Share Posted April 22, 2016 Sudden use of condoms. 1) They KNOW that getting their partner pregnant is the last thing they want as they are not that committed, or they do not trust her to use her own methods of contraception and having a kid would be a disaster. 2)They are screwing around with other women, so are suddenly using condoms at home in case they infect the wife/gf and they would then have to come clean. How is he getting on with the ex gf these days? Hmmm idk he hasn't spoken of her in awhile Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted April 22, 2016 Share Posted April 22, 2016 Hmmm idk he hasn't spoken of her in awhile Spoken OF her is different to speaking WITH her. I just can't believe you are still having sex with this man. Who, in using condoms is probably making sure neither you nor she get pregnant. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedchica Posted April 22, 2016 Author Share Posted April 22, 2016 The last thing I found from her was a long text I think I don't want to be involved with u anymore.... I'm sure I don't actually. You proved to me how much u don't care And you're sketchy. You Posted a pic with your gf only hours after sleeping with me.... Ur all over the place. U don't even know how to PROPERLY have a thing on the side lol. God Knows what else idk about. U said I always throw ur gf in ur face but I mean.... That is gross she dated your bestfriend for years!! lol but look at who I'm talking to. ... Oh gosh I'll just shut up.... Lol bottom line find someone else that you like having sex with Or tell your girl how then you won't need me at all doll. Plus youve backstabbed ppl. I don't wanna be near u when ur karma comes back....Ur too all over the place for me. To me.... U aren't worth it .... Bye honey ☺️☺️ That was from a month ago she texted him that. I think she was just jealous because he posted a pic kissing me on the cheek with the caption "my boo" Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted April 22, 2016 Share Posted April 22, 2016 I repeat my question: WHY... ARE.... YOU.... STILL.... WITH.... THIS... PERSON....?! After everything he has put you through? After receiving - and keeping - a text like that, from his ex? Why do you think so little of yourself, as to disrespect yourself so deeply as to stay with Mr Crud? Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted April 22, 2016 Share Posted April 22, 2016 omg **smacks forehead.......... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedchica Posted April 22, 2016 Author Share Posted April 22, 2016 I think she was only jealous because he post pics of me online and he never did of her. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted April 22, 2016 Share Posted April 22, 2016 I think she was only jealous because he post pics of me online and never her. We don't care about her. We care even less about him. Please answer the question, instead of deflecting. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted April 22, 2016 Share Posted April 22, 2016 I just can't believe you are still having sex with this man. Who, in using condoms is probably making sure neither you nor she get pregnant. To be fair, that is the one thing he has done which she should count as a blessing. If she were to get pregnant to this guy, I would really feel sorry for that poor kid. OP: What on earth are you doing? Dump this idiot already. He is clearly cheating on you. Why are you just ignoring that? Link to post Share on other sites
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