Are black guys the only minority group attractive white women in the US go for?

[Ian Fleming]

Ever since getting into a relationship with a white girl that looks good, I notice that I receive a lot of unwanted attention which is mostly bad. I live in an area of the US where a couple involving a white girls with anyone that isn't white or black are practically unheard of. So I was thinking about where in the USA it would be common to see white women with boyfriends or husbands that are asian, arabian, indian, pacific islander, and/or brown latino (think wilmer valderrama). Are there places like that in the US?

 

I hear that white women with latino men is very common in Texas but rare in California which confuses me. Also curious about other places in the US where my girlfriend and I won't stick out too much from the crowd (she's a blonde and I look like sami kheidera).

[R3d]

I thought the California dating scene was relatively accepting of going interracial?

[Ian Fleming]

I thought the California dating scene was relatively accepting of going interracial?

 

Well, apparently not in the bay area, it works differently there. You see a lot of white men with asian women and to a smaller extent women of other minority groups. Rarely do you see white women in the bay area dating asians, indians, or mexicans despite the large population of those groups there.

[taiko]

It is accepted in all of California's larger urban areas along with nearby military bases. If you're expecting the same numbers as with women crossing cultural lines give it another generation.

 

Trust me my parents grew up under Jim Crow. I knew no white folks, aside from teachers by name before enlisting in the Army yet a third of us are in interracial marriages. And our kids are beating that rate.

[Imported]

OP, I think it's just you with the problem. I am Asian/white and I usually go out with white women and have done so all over California as well as other states, including Alabama. People don't give me ****.

 

Did you get picked on a lot growing up or something? Do you look like you don't stand up for yourself?

[KaliLove]

I live in LA and it's pretty normal here. I'm a white girl and I dated a dark skinned Latino guy for 5 years. For the record, we broke up because he's batsh*t crazy, not because of his skin color.

[guest569]

Wow, this is like another world to me. Where I live is so diverse that noone cares about this stuff, I dunno about percentages but so many are "interracial" what an eye opener, so glad I don't live over there.

[amaysngrace]

Wow, this is like another world to me. Where I live is so diverse that noone cares about this stuff, I dunno about percentages but so many are "interracial" what an eye opener, so glad I don't live over there.

 

Nobody cares about it here in my state either. OP head to New Jersey. We're too focused on ourselves to worry about what anyone else is doing.

[preraph]

Well, number one, you have to have something in common with them. They need to be a part of your overall social friend group and fit in well there. There's just no reason for someone to cross cultural lines to date someone if they're not already doing so with friends. And the cultural differences have to be not huge to fit into a blended group of people. They still have to have something in common, whether it's that they grew up in the same neighborhood or are all on the soccer team or whatever.

 

I'm not going to give any hypothetical examples because they'd be bad generalizations, but recently on this board, a guy in China in love with a cute girl there is under tremendous pressure to adhere to their cultural requirements and either marry her right away before she's 23 or leave because they at least have him convinced that once she's 26, she is a dried up old spinster over there. Now, see, I wouldn't want to get involved in that or any culture where someone was telling me what to do about important things like marriage or having children or where to live, etc. Cultural differences can be a dealbreaker.

 

Here in little pockets all over the U.S., there are blended social groups of all types. And you are right that you need to find your niche, but unless I am mistaken you are probably the same Asian guy who wrote some time back that you are ONLY interested in white women, so that is not very blended of you and before you can be part of a blended social group, you'll need to get over that thinking. If you are not that guy, my apologies.

 

Work on your overall social skills and on making friends and see where it leads. Keep looking for your geographical mecca as well.

[CarrieT]

Well, apparently not in the bay area, it works differently there. You see a lot of white men with asian women and to a smaller extent women of other minority groups. Rarely do you see white women in the bay area dating asians, indians, or mexicans despite the large population of those groups there.

 

I think you are totally wrong. I have lived in the Bay Area for more than a dozen years and in that time, I personally dated two Asians, two Indians, and three Mexicans - as well as a handful of African Americans, an Arab, a Saudi, and a Samoan.

[bathtub-row]

I live in a major city in Texas and we don't bat an eyelash to interracial marriages. You'd fit right in. I would think that would apply to any of the major cities Texas - Houston, San Antonio, Dallas and Austin - but I think Austin and their motto about "Keep Austin weird" would really suit your needs.

[preraph]

^ It is very multicultural here, but his particular interest, Asian male with white female, been here 40 years and only seen it once. He was in with the music crowd. Of course, I'm not in high school and not seeing what if anything is going on there.

[Ian Fleming]

I am in Florida and here it is a major issue. For some reason I find that people in this state are very confrontational and crazy compared to other places I have visited. In other areas of the south at least people were gentle and had manners but here almost everyone is looking for confrontations. I cannot believe how much hate and racism goes on in this state, really, I can't! We have so many crazy people here and racism is a major issue. Just a while ago a video went viral where some woman stepped into a Dunkin Donuts and started hurling racial slurs at the employees there who were Indian.

[KaliLove]

I am in Florida and here it is a major issue. For some reason I find that people in this state are very confrontational and crazy compared to other places I have visited. In other areas of the south at least people were gentle and had manners but here almost everyone is looking for confrontations. I cannot believe how much hate and racism goes on in this state, really, I can't! We have so many crazy people here and racism is a major issue. Just a while ago a video went viral where some woman stepped into a Dunkin Donuts and started hurling racial slurs at the employees there who were Indian.

 

You should move, and then Florida should break off and sink into the ocean. It's definitely our worst state.

[Ian Fleming]

You should move, and then Florida should break off and sink into the ocean. It's definitely our worst state.

 

Tell me about it. My girlfriend came here from another state and some of the stories she shares are bizarre. She told me about how one older woman was following her around and flirting with her. The woman would start to touch her in inappropriate places before my girlfriend decided to run.

 

Then the past week we were out some guy started to follow us around and tell us about how the white race is going extinct because of us.

[preraph]

In Florida, you always had a big clash of conservative monied retirees from the East Coast and then the really laid back easy going water-loving younger more liberal crowd going around half naked and enjoying life and up until about 20 years ago, it was mostly those two groups. And then the Cuban "boat people," they called them came and took refuge and it changed Florida forever, being a big influx of poor immigrants. Miami was always high-crime even before that and then Miami also became a big clubbing hub, which it remains today, and that seemed to bring more crime, but I'm not sure why. More people, more problems. I imagine if you get outside of the big cities in Florida, it's still the glorious place it used to be, though.

[Ian Fleming]

You have no idea what you are talking about and yes it is me who said he exclusively prefers white women. My friends might come from all races but I only date and get into relationships with women that are white, deal with it. That is not even the subject of this thread, my preference towards exclusively preferring white women is not changing. All I ask for is a place where I can live in peace with one that I am dating and I am not imagining a thing.

 

Florida is a crazy place, the younger crowd is just as openly racist and backwards as the older crowd. People here are wild and violent compared to other states. The only plus is the fact that girls here are loose but no one in their right minds would raise their kids in this state.

[Ian Fleming]

Well, number one, you have to have something in common with them. They need to be a part of your overall social friend group and fit in well there. There's just no reason for someone to cross cultural lines to date someone if they're not already doing so with friends. And the cultural differences have to be not huge to fit into a blended group of people. They still have to have something in common, whether it's that they grew up in the same neighborhood or are all on the soccer team or whatever.

 

I'm not going to give any hypothetical examples because they'd be bad generalizations, but recently on this board, a guy in China in love with a cute girl there is under tremendous pressure to adhere to their cultural requirements and either marry her right away before she's 23 or leave because they at least have him convinced that once she's 26, she is a dried up old spinster over there. Now, see, I wouldn't want to get involved in that or any culture where someone was telling me what to do about important things like marriage or having children or where to live, etc. Cultural differences can be a dealbreaker.

 

Here in little pockets all over the U.S., there are blended social groups of all types. And you are right that you need to find your niche, but unless I am mistaken you are probably the same Asian guy who wrote some time back that you are ONLY interested in white women, so that is not very blended of you and before you can be part of a blended social group, you'll need to get over that thinking. If you are not that guy, my apologies.

 

Work on your overall social skills and on making friends and see where it leads. Keep looking for your geographical mecca as well.

 

Oh ya so you expect me to date black and asian women who have no attraction towards what so ever to make some two faced liberals happy? Not happening, get lost.

[KaliLove]

In Florida, you always had a big clash of conservative monied retirees from the East Coast and then the really laid back easy going water-loving younger more liberal crowd going around half naked and enjoying life and up until about 20 years ago, it was mostly those two groups. And then the Cuban "boat people," they called them came and took refuge and it changed Florida forever, being a big influx of poor immigrants. Miami was always high-crime even before that and then Miami also became a big clubbing hub, which it remains today, and that seemed to bring more crime, but I'm not sure why. More people, more problems. I imagine if you get outside of the big cities in Florida, it's still the glorious place it used to be, though.

 

I lived in a small town in Florida for a couple of years during high school. During my freshman year, there was more than 1 occasion where someone drew a swastika on my locker.

 

When I moved there, I was more than 2 years ahead of the other kids in my class because the educational system is so slow and bad. Less than half of the kids in my graduating class were able to get into colleges outside of the state system.

 

The dumb and irresponsible healthcare system in Florida killed my mother.

 

Do any of these things sound 'glorious' to you?

[preraph]

No, they don't and so sorry for your bad experiences there. What town were you in so I'll know never to go there?

[Noproblem]

NYC and California ..Been there and saw how it's natural there to be with other people out of your color, race circle!

 

But don't get me wrong, you will always get that unwanted attention

 

Wherever you go, you will get that..

 

You might as well accept it!

[KaliLove]

No, they don't and so sorry for your bad experiences there. What town were you in so I'll know never to go there?

 

Thanks but I'd rather not say for fear of revealing too much info about myself.

 

It wasn't just the town I was in. It's the whole state. I assure you there is nothing glorious about the state of Florida.

[preraph]

I have spent some time there and my sister lived there and never ran into trouble, but we're nature-oriented people and not mixing with people that much. And Florida's great for nature stuff.

 

They say the same things about Texas they say about Florida, and that's where I've lived for a long time now. While it is perfectly awful politically and there are too many gun fanatics in the news, on the street and in general, it's a nice place to live. Bad things can happen anywhere, though, and they do.

[Ian Fleming]

In high numbers that is, I know you might occasionally see one or two Asian, Hispanic, or Indian guys out of a thousand people who is dating a good looking white woman and it will almost always be the case where they are one of if not the very few couples in the neighborhood, town, or city like that.

 

As an Indian guy who dates a hot blonde (not even attracted to blondes as much but this was was special), I notice that my life is different for it. My girlfriend was in a college sorority known for having a lot of hot girls in it and I was in a fraternity during that time. I notice that because of being with her as an Indian guy, I get a lot of open racism for it. Like people literally go out of their way to make it clear to me that hot white girls do not date Indian men.

 

Now my black friends who have been in a similar situation (dating hot white girls), do not receive the same hostility and it seems like Americans have pretty much accepted the fact that hot white girls are going to go for black guys.

 

On the other hand, come to think of it, you don't usually see good looking white American women going for other minority groups as much. The All American hot blonde types or the attractive Megan Fox brunettes, you don't really see them going for guys who are from minority groups but not black.

 

Then again, my experience is just limited to the East Coast of the USA but I have a few friends from California who tell me things like despite Mexican, Asian, and Indian guys being common in California, it is very rare to see good looking white women dating those races. Mostly all of them tell me that as an Indian guy dating a good looking blonde, I would receive a lot of racism and hostility in California for it because Californians are not okay with Indian men dating the hot blonde types, they want foreigners to pretty much stick with their own kind.

 

Ideally, I want to finally move to an area of the USA where my girlfriend and I won't be harassed for being together. An area of the USA where people are somewhat comfortable with a guy from a more exotic looking minority group dating a good looking white woman, especially if she is blonde because I didn't seem to face as much hostility when I was dating a brunette.

 

I think that if there are areas of the USA where men of non-black minority groups are dating attractive white women in higher numbers, my girlfriend and I won't face as much animosity there.

[CarrieT]

Then again, my experience is just limited to the East Coast of the USA but I have a few friends from California who tell me things like despite Mexican, Asian, and Indian guys being common in California, it is very rare to see good looking white women dating those races. Mostly all of them tell me that as an Indian guy dating a good looking blonde, I would receive a lot of racism and hostility in California for it because Californians are not okay with Indian men dating the hot blonde types, they want foreigners to pretty much stick with their own kind.

You are generalizing to an Nth degree that is becoming offensive. YOU only want "hot blonde" types and are looking for a place where it acceptable?

 

It is not the race - or hair color - that makes a person acceptable. My goodness your thread that you start just THREE DAYS AGO on brunettes who dye their hair where you ask if you are overthinking is just the tip of the iceberg. You have been on this site - and started threads like this - for over two years.

 

The answers are not different. And, for the record, if you seriously only want natural blondes, move to Sweden or Finland.