Tca Posted February 21, 2016 Share Posted February 21, 2016 So basically I've been seeing this girl for about three months, thing have been going great, she's funny, kind, stunningly pretty and intelligent and I've really fallen for her. however I found out last night that she had been kissing another girl pretty passionately when she went out the other night. we've said we are exclusive, I've just been with her for the weekend and she said nothing and acted like nothing was up. . I don't really know what to do, should I confront her about it?? Or wait till she tells me?? I know she's bi and has been with girls before. I can't help from feeling that if she's done it once it will happen be it with a guy or girl. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
introverted1 Posted February 21, 2016 Share Posted February 21, 2016 So basically I've been seeing this girl for about three months, thing have been going great, she's funny, kind, stunningly pretty and intelligent and I've really fallen for her. however I found out last night that she had been kissing another girl pretty passionately when she went out the other night. we've said we are exclusive, I've just been with her for the weekend and she said nothing and acted like nothing was up. . I don't really know what to do, should I confront her about it?? Or wait till she tells me?? I know she's bi and has been with girls before. I can't help from feeling that if she's done it once it will happen be it with a guy or girl. Yep. And it doesn't matter. Same sex infidelity is still infidelity. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
kgcolonel Posted February 21, 2016 Share Posted February 21, 2016 ask her about it in a non-confrontational way....Hey, the other night, I saw this.....I think we should talk about it..... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted February 21, 2016 Share Posted February 21, 2016 Obviously she just can't help herself.....if it were me I would next her out the door. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 So basically I've been seeing this girl for about three months, thing have been going great, she's funny, kind, stunningly pretty and intelligent and I've really fallen for her. however I found out last night that she had been kissing another girl pretty passionately when she went out the other night. we've said we are exclusive, I've just been with her for the weekend and she said nothing and acted like nothing was up. . I don't really know what to do, should I confront her about it?? Or wait till she tells me?? I know she's bi and has been with girls before. I can't help from feeling that if she's done it once it will happen be it with a guy or girl. Of course she isn't going to just up and tell you. confront, and when she asks you how you know, you just say "I know". Do not reveal your sources or it will be a blameshiftng festival about privacy and secrecy. And be willing to follow through with dumping her if that is what you want to do. You don;t have a lot of time invested in the relationship so it should not be too difficult to kick her to the curb. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 I agree, it's infidelity. A good definition of cheat is saying anything or doing anything that you wouldn't do in front of your significant other. Then, it's cheating. If you were in the room when this happened, chances are it wouldn't have happened. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Try Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 I found out last night that she had been kissing another girl pretty passionately when she went out the other night. we've said we are exclusive, I've just been with her for the weekend and she said nothing and acted like nothing was up. . I don't really know what to do, should I confront her about it?? Or wait till she tells me?? I know she's bi and has been with girls before. Being exclusive means being exclusive. If as a bisexual she is kissing someone other than you "pretty passionately when she went out the other night", then she is cheating plain and simple. There is no gray area here. Confront now and decide what to do based on how she reacts. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 Yeah, and if you do confront her about this, do let her rug sweep this with excuses like, "Well, it was another girl so it doesn't count! Most guys would find that sexy!" News flash, there's a lot of guys that wouldn't find that sexy. Guys that would find that sexy are guys that aren't too invested in their relationship and just don't care. Link to post Share on other sites
Try Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 ask her about it in a non-confrontational way....Hey, the other night, I saw this.....I think we should talk about it..... I am sorry, but there is no reason to confront her as if cheating is no big deal that you only "think" that she should "talk about" with you. I would not pussyfoot around with it, and straight up tell her something like "I know that you cheated on me the other night. When did you plan on telling me that you no longer wanted to be exclusive with me and wanted me to end our relationship?" Link to post Share on other sites
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