Chi townD Posted February 24, 2016 Share Posted February 24, 2016 I have a feeling that you got burned pretty bad in a past relationship. And that is making you have a hard time trusting. Some people don't spend 24/7 with their partners. Even if it's a local thing. People may not share the same interests, so it's okay (and in most cases) healthy for people to do their own thing. Doesn't mean that they love you any less. Just as an example, a guy may like to fly R/C airplanes and does it competitively. You might think that it's boring as hell and would rather be shopping. He's got a competition coming up on a Saturday. It's okay to let him go do his thing and for the two of you meet up later for lunch! Or he may like hiking and would love for you to come along. But, the idea of the woods and bugs isn't your thing. AND THAT'S OKAY! Let him go hiking over night, but he needs to make it up to you with a nice evening out. Now, you might say that hiking and R/C airplanes aren't the same as a trip to Peru. But, the foundation is pretty much the same. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Eighty_nine Posted February 24, 2016 Share Posted February 24, 2016 We are 6 months together and there IS NO WAY we would travel without each other. NO way I bad already booked my trip prior to meeting him. But now, we WOULD NEVER wanna travel apart. We see our lives as together not apart unless it's for work or a college placement. .... He didn't sound that into you sorry. This is ridiculous. I'm a frequent traveler, very in love with my partner and I'm going to China with my best friend in two weeks. BF can't afford it since we just went away plus I'm going to visit a friend living in China. Point is a good relationship doesn't mean doing EVERYTHING together. I also went to Peru last year, just with friends. And to this end, I've never cheated while out of the country. Or anywhere else. So it's not about this trip, OP, it's about you not trusting your boyfriend. And if you don't trust him, how can you stand even a single night apart- know what I'm saying? I can't tell if you're paranoid or have a real reason for being suspicious. Also cheating and porn are not the same. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Lorenza Posted February 24, 2016 Share Posted February 24, 2016 Wow. I went to South America for THREE WEEKS last year. I had a new boyfriend. We skyped daily. He was never too busy for me; in fact, he initiated contact most of the time and would notice when I didn't contact him regularly did didn't like it. He liked to feel connected. Because he was the one left in his daily surroundings and routine. You don't how frequent your contact would be if he was the one traveling in South America. Neither of us went out and drunk or partied alone. We don't think it's appropriate to do without your partne. Although we are introverts and seldom go out with friends at all. Extroverts who love to party don't tend to settle down as early due to their social nature and more opportunities for finds and the options thrown in their faces. Good that it works for both of you, but don't set it as a perfect scenario for a relationship. Many people would get suffocated from living as conjoined twins. Besides, extroverys are perfectly capable of settling down and at the same time attending social gatherings. We are 6 months together and there IS NO WAY we would travel without each other. NO way I bad already booked my trip prior to meeting him. But now, we WOULD NEVER wanna travel apart. We see our lives as together not apart unless it's for work or a college placement. .... He didn't sound that into you sorry. This is what many people would call unhealthy. It's perfectly fine to want to want to spend time apart from each other and not just live and breath for your partner. I always travel to my home country by myself and I had no problems with my previous partners travelling abroad on their own, if we keep contact. It seems like OP have other issues rather than not being ok with some time apart. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Michellinda Posted February 26, 2016 Author Share Posted February 26, 2016 Thank you i know the last two posters are right. He said its only 10 days and even gave me the option of him not going. It is my issues and me not tristing him because of certain things. I am just going to send him off happy and get busy here with my own things. I am not going to lie I am scared of losing him but if I do it wasnt meant to be. Link to post Share on other sites
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