Mikep88 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 Hi guys, So on the 1st March it will be our 2nd anniversary. Long story short, my wife told me she wants a divorce and a few days later she kisses her co-worker and flaunts to everyone at our local bar that she is having a divorce. Currently they are together and the divorce will be finalized middle March. So far I haven't spoken to her since the 4th of February, just via sms to sort out some payments. Do you think I should message her on our anniversary or would that take me all the way back to square 1 from all the progress that I made. I know for a fact that she won't be coming back...so yah. Last question...do you think it's wise to keep all the memorabilia we collected over the years, throw it away or pack it in a box and put it in storage? I have thrown some away but certain stuff i keep just for that peace of mind when what if she is coming back... Link to post Share on other sites
Be_Strong Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 If you have kids together, keep any memorabilia involving the two of you and the kids. If no kids, treat your soon to be ex-wife exactly like you would any other girlfriend you've had in the past and dump the memorabilia. Your next girlfriend won't like the idea of you keeping boxes of old stuff involving your ex-wife. Plus, you need to move forward, not dwell in the pat. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Be_Strong Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 And I forgot to add that you should not message her anything at all about your anniversary. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Peach Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 I agree not to message anything about your anniversaries. You aren't together anymore. As for the things, it depends. I would keep whatever level of items you keep during a breakup. I would make sure to put it somewhere you can't easily get to. It's best to stay as NC as possible and just not have any of that around. If you have kids I agree I would keep some items around. XH wanted to get rid of all the wedding pics and stuff but I kept my favorites to show the kids as they got older. I think it's good for kids to know their parents were happy at some point. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KBarletta Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 "I know for a fact that she won't be coming back." In that case, I would not contact her again unless you have children and have to arrange care for them, I'd go to strict NC. She's already out acting like a single person. I would advise you to let her own that decision and get on with the business of getting on with your life. Link to post Share on other sites
strow Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Do you think I should message her on our anniversary or would that take me all the way back to square 1 from all the progress that I made. She's with a new guy and isn't coming back. Not sure what you have in mind about messaging her but anything you write that has to do with your anniversary will be shared between the two of them and they will laugh at you. Last question...do you think it's wise to keep all the memorabilia we collected over the years, throw it away or pack it in a box and put it in storage? I have thrown some away but certain stuff i keep just for that peace of mind when what if she is coming back... Throw it in a box if you aren't sure you want to get rid of it. But don't do it because you hope she's coming back. Even "if" she broke up with this guy and wanted back in, do you REALLY want to be plan C? Link to post Share on other sites
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