brokengirl85 Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Aww is funny because you're so sweet and naive, broke flower I wish everything turns out well for you. Regarding this guy, I'd just forget about him, but if this is impossible for you, then send him a text, ask him how he's doing. Link to post Share on other sites
brokengirl85 Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Sorry, can't edit my message, I wanted to write "loveflower" not "broke flower" my apologies Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveflower Posted February 23, 2016 Author Share Posted February 23, 2016 Sorry, can't edit my message, I wanted to write "loveflower" not "broke flower" my apologies Most likely naive. ..and extremely dumb too I am just glad you talked to me.....need to have a social life. Used to have a few friends. ..they seemed turned out to be disappointement.so didn't want to keep in touch. Guess i just have to accept that is life. I am a very purist. ..that's why. What if that guy removed me from his list? That is the reason he disappeared from my list? Then? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Most likely naive. ..and extremely dumb too I am just glad you talked to me.....need to have a social life. Used to have a few friends. ..they seemed turned out to be disappointement.so didn't want to keep in touch. Guess i just have to accept that is life. I am a very purist. ..that's why. What if that guy removed me from his list? That is the reason he disappeared from my list? Then? We can't possibly tell you why. But I can assure you - if he hasn't reached out, he's not interested. Period. Interested men act interested. Work on your self-image. Find activities that boost your confidence. Until then, you will very likely project that insecurity and negativity on the men who come into your life. And that will turn them off. Forget this guy. Hanging on to hope where I realistically don't see any is unhealthy for you. Link to post Share on other sites
brokengirl85 Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Most likely naive. ..and extremely dumb too I am just glad you talked to me.....need to have a social life. Used to have a few friends. ..they seemed turned out to be disappointement.so didn't want to keep in touch. Guess i just have to accept that is life. I am a very purist. ..that's why. What if that guy removed me from his list? That is the reason he disappeared from my list? Then? You mean your Facebook "people you might know" suggestions?? No one can remove you from a suggestion list. It's random. Facebook suggest you friends based in which profiles you look at. But his list is different than yours. If he never looked at your profile or if you two don't have friends in common, you're most probably not part of his list of suggested friends. You're trying to grab air, loveflower. This guy probably doesn't imagine the level of desire you have for him. and he'll probably find it weird if he discovers you've been creating this romantic view of him for so many years. Love just don't work like that. There has to be two people who are in the same tune to start a romantic relationship. Don't dream anymore about him. As I already told you, he's not interested. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 then why he checked me out in social media? He checked me out FIRST. I never checked him out before. I only follow his social media AFTER I saw him show up in my social media. so I blame him for causing me this trouble if he is not interested. He shouldn't have done that. Can you please answer brokengirl's question? How do you know he checked you out on social media? Did he friend request you or follow you? If you are referring to the "people you may know" feature in Facebook, he has nothing to do with that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Ok. He is a stranger who probably doesn't even really know you exist, BUT that is no reason you can't send him a friend request and if he accepts, ask him to do something with you (you better remind him that you met before though). Just be prepared for him to ignore your friend request since he really doesn't know who you are - don't let that hurt your feelings. If that happens please figure out how to stop obsessing on this stranger it is not healthy!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveflower Posted February 23, 2016 Author Share Posted February 23, 2016 Can you please answer brokengirl's question? How do you know he checked you out on social media? Did he friend request you or follow you? If you are referring to the "people you may know" feature in Facebook, he has nothing to do with that. You people are over the top...we are member of a professional social media. It time stamp exactly who and when visited you. He did it twice on this one. Facebook once...people show up on the list when they checked you out. Believe me this....i am on the IT field. Don't worry people i am completely sure he knows who i am. Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Facebook once...people show up on the list when they checked you out. Believe me this....i am on the IT field.FaceBook uses many different criteria for determining who shows up on the "People You May Know" list. Most of those criteria do not involve viewing your profile or searching for you. However, since he did view you on another site (I'm guessing LinkedIn), then it's likely he viewed you on FaceBook as well. With that being said, you're fixating way too much and this will likely end badly for you. If you must, reach out to him and say hello. That's a better idea than just sitting there and driving yourself crazy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveflower Posted February 23, 2016 Author Share Posted February 23, 2016 FaceBook uses many different criteria for determining who shows up on the "People You May Know" list. Most of those criteria do not involve viewing your profile or searching for you. However, since he did view you on another site (I'm guessing LinkedIn), then it's likely he viewed you on FaceBook as well. With that being said, you're fixating way too much and this will likely end badly for you. If you must, reach out to him and say hello. That's a better idea than just sitting there and driving yourself crazy. I know....but that's one criteria definitely works. you can try! not linkedin...you can hide your visit there, he never show up there! It also hold monthly local events... Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted February 24, 2016 Share Posted February 24, 2016 Alright, he checked out your profiles online. What are you going to do about it other than sit there and wonder? Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveflower Posted February 24, 2016 Author Share Posted February 24, 2016 (edited) Alright, he checked out your profiles online. What are you going to do about it other than sit there and wonder? don't know...I was thinking friend request him after I get a new job. He always on the list, but now gone...I know for sure if you click on the remove button...that person will disappear both on your list and you on that person's list. that's how it works. but it might also randomly disappear. that was why I was panic and got kindda mental. Just drove 4 hours round trip for an interview with a major bank for a middle class job...they always want some experience that you don't have:( I have another similar prospect though, but who know what else, and when! Edited February 24, 2016 by loveflower Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveflower Posted February 24, 2016 Author Share Posted February 24, 2016 Reached out to 2 of my friends though...I was a bit disgruntled with them, so didn't really contact them for a long while. felt better after talking with this friend. this friend really knows how to enjoy life and be happy, even though she always to want find a man to count on and doesn't really want to work kindda of woman. we are opposite. but...there are something I can learn from her. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 24, 2016 Share Posted February 24, 2016 As long as he did not block you or whatever because of you contacting him, meaning that you know he is hiding from you -- as long as you know it's not that, then you have nothing to lose by contacting him however you want and saying, "Hey, saw you online (or wherever). Wanted to say hi. What are you up to these days?" Then if he doesn't answer, you know to forget about it and move on. But if he answers in a pleasant way or tries to contact you more often, that would be a good sign. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveflower Posted February 24, 2016 Author Share Posted February 24, 2016 Thanks for the input. sigh...I think the real problems are that I am highly insecure and have rock-bottom confidence. I don't think I can stop him from finding a gf (maybe he already has). Try to forget and try to stop thinking he is going to with somebody soon...but damn he look so cute... Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveflower Posted February 24, 2016 Author Share Posted February 24, 2016 I am not tall, not young, not rich and don't have a cool career. not well traveled, don't have a lot of friends...don't know what I am good at. Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveflower Posted February 25, 2016 Author Share Posted February 25, 2016 Sent...let's hope for the best. Generally people won't refuse, except he doesn't remember you at all or dislike you. no need to make such a huge deal out of it. It doesn't mean much by itself. I am insecure and no confident, but nobody is perfect! whatever happens, I did it and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveflower Posted February 25, 2016 Author Share Posted February 25, 2016 He is just a stranger/acquaintance that I find interesting. Life is too complex and too complicated, few things turn out to be what I imagine. I shouldn't let my imagine runs on its own and too wide without too little facts. I should have the courage to face reality, the music and be brave. yes. Life is difficult... I just do what I have to do Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveflower Posted February 25, 2016 Author Share Posted February 25, 2016 In the job market...there are many showed interests and even interviewed me...but still not result. so it's a long long road in anything in life. nothing has ever been easy for me. The least I deserved is a peace of mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveflower Posted February 25, 2016 Author Share Posted February 25, 2016 Thanks this forum for letting me vent and people's reading and replies. I now know. I am really after all a social animal. Link to post Share on other sites
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