jen_jen_heartbroken Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 Everyone seems to have a different definition for these weight categories. How do you define them? What kinds of body types do you prefer in the men/women you like to date? How thin is too thin? How heavy is too heavy? Does height matter? Does a pretty/handsome face carry more weight (no pun intended) than having the perfect body? Just curious to see what other LS people think.
chaos70 Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 Me personally, I've been attracted to all shapes, sizes, and colors. For me, it's chemistry and confidence. Nothing sexier than a women who is confident in herself.
Fetish 2 Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 Well i can only say what I like and what my boyfriend likes....Everyone has different likings As for me, I like a toned manly figure, arms especially, however I like them to have a bit of a stomach rather than a 6 pack.6 packs are good to look at but not nice to hug and lie down on...And to me that's most important For my boy, he doesnt like stick thin figures. He, like every other male loves big boobs, but he likes a nice full butt and a curvacious figure. Legs... shapely rather than sticks, bums round rather than flat haha i dunno
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted June 12, 2005 Author Posted June 12, 2005 But in order to find out if you have chemistry with someone, there has to be that initial draw....the physical attraction usually occurs within the first few seconds of meeting someone, even if you decide that the chemistry doesn't go beyond the physical.
Sal Paradise Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 Originally posted by jen_jen_heartbroken But in order to find out if you have chemistry with someone, there has to be that initial draw....the physical attraction usually occurs within the first few seconds of meeting someone, even if you decide that the chemistry doesn't go beyond the physical. Yes but sometimes that initial draw isn't based on looks. It could just be the way they laugh or smile. A girl can smile no matter her body shape and melt your heart when you lock eyes.
chaos70 Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 I agree totally with Sal Paradise. Yes, guys can be dogs and drool over the "eye candy", but nothing beats a girl who sees you look at her and give a coy smile and look away. Doesn't matter what the package is inside, but you can't hide what's behind the eyes...and the smile is a bonus.
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted June 12, 2005 Author Posted June 12, 2005 Originally posted by Fetish #2 For my boy, he doesnt like stick thin figures. He, like every other male loves big boobs, but he likes a nice full butt and a curvacious figure. Legs... shapely rather than sticks, bums round rather than flat Hmmm....does he have a single brother? Perhaps one who likes curvy brunettes with glasses?
strange love Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 Curvy brunette with glasses !!! Be still my heart!
delishious Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 I've dated all types. Shorter than me, taller, skinnier, fatter (yes even shorter and skinner - i could likely beat him up if i tried). It didn't matter about their body physique - facial features were important to me, as is/was personality and level of motivation/success. Its a weird mixture of ingredients really. My feelings on this might be skewed because I've dated a taller, athletic drop-dead gorgeous man who was a lazy cheating bastard. After I fell hard for him, I swore up and down that I would not be swooned by a pretty face.
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted June 12, 2005 Author Posted June 12, 2005 Facial features are very negotiable for me. Boyish faces, chiseled faces....these different types appeal to me. But the one thing I'm stuck on is tall men. I'm 5'8" and I can't seem to be attracted to any man who isn't at least 6' tall. I know...it sounds horribly shallow, but I've tried to date short men, and I'm just not attracted to them, no matter how good looking they are. Also, I'm more attracted to guys who are just slightly teddy-bearish in build. Not fat or anything, but most definitely not slender. Clean cut blue-eyed men with salt and pepper hair are also very yummy.
westernxer Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 I won't date a girl if I can't picture myself sleeping with her. Whether it happens or not is another story, but that's my only pre-requisite (of course I'm not gonna tell her). The fact that she's sweet or smart means nothing. I have to be into her physically or it's a no go. I have dated a wide range of girls with different body types... from model thin to a little bit of junk in the trunk to an inch or two taller, but I was always physically attracted within the first few minutes. I think chemistry had a lot to do with it, too.
chaos70 Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 Even before she lost all that weight, I thought she was stunning hot. Yes the redhead from that show. Maybe I have a thing for redheads, haven't dated one. Anyways, this whole thing I started was simply to reconfirm that you should want to look like how you feel inside. You shouldn't try to change your looks to fit a preconceived body type. While I've never been able to shed the gut, just reduce it, I'm fine with it. As long as I'm a healthy guy and can still do the things I used to do like dunk a basketball or bench 300lbs...I'm cool with whatever shape/size I'm in. Women IMO have alot of hangups about how they look. And they sometimes think they are unattractive for just having some pounds here or there. I became good friends with the girls that lived in the hall above mine at college. All shapes, sizes, and creeds. I noticed that they all vied for my attention since I was the guy that visited all the time. They all thought that the "hot" girl would stand the best chance, but I never even considered dating her. I dated the girl they all least likely thought, because she just had something in her eyes that would just capture me. She wasn't a size 1, or had big boobs...but we were all drinking at a bar...and I asked her how her nose was. She looked at me confused, and I said when I drank...I lost feeling in my nose and just tapped the tip of hers. She blushed and smiled, and I was hooked from that point on. Granted we dated for a couple of months before we went our seperate ways...but I guess my point is that you don't have to be supermodel to get the guys. The eyes and a smile is all you need.
chaos70 Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 Originally posted by jen_jen_heartbroken I'm fair-skinned and so usually attracted to men of northern European decent as I am. A lot of girls like Italian or really tan guys, but that's not usually the look that grabs my attention. Did you ever notice how some of the most adorable couples are told that they look like they could be related? I think people are generally attracted to the same kinds of features they grew accustomed to when they were growing up. But not in an incestuous way. I guess I must agree with that. I typically date white girls myself since I grew up in a white neighborhood back in middle GA. Have dated some hot African Americans, Asians, and Indians. But a majority has been either blond or brunette fair skin girls.
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted June 13, 2005 Author Posted June 13, 2005 Originally posted by chaos70 The whole image thing in society today is scary. When did rail thin become the standard of what is attractive? Damnit...eat a piece of fried chicken and not throw it up! I agree. Children are growing up with even worse body image issues than what kids of the 70's and 80's had to deal with. There is a direct correlation between societal perception of beauty and financial status. Back in the days before liposuction and other plastic surgeries, a full, curvaceous figure was considered beautiful because the wealthy had access to rich foods of refined sugars and fatty meats. The poor primarily ate whole grains and vegetables....they worked the farms and stayed chiseled and slender. Wealthy city dwelling women were soft and round, and women didn't work out or go to gyms. They wore corsets and dresses to enhance their curves. As time changed and women entered the workforce and stayed in even after they started families, they were now competing with men for jobs. Femininity was replaced with an image of the strong, do-everything mother/career-woman. Now that the upper classes of developed countries have access to everything from plastic surgery, gym memberships, and teeth whitening, those things which keep one slender, firm and athletic are now considered perfection.
nicki Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 I am a size one, small everywhere...always wished i was a voluptuous woman with big boobs! Funny though, every man i've ever been with has loved my body, commented on my booty...seems like men are just happy to have a naked woman who wants them! As far as what i like in men, I like real men, no Adonis perfect men. I like little bellies, etc...hmm, maybe i just like naked men!
westernxer Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 There's a girl at my job who's totally adorable... not slim or as beautiful as some of the others lurking on my floor, but good enough to get my imagination going, plus she seems like a very genuine and good-natured peson. In other words, I get a really good vibe from her, but I don't date women in the office. I also think the earth is flat.
crazy_grl Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer I also think the earth is flat. Isn't it? You know, if I were a lesbian, I would totally be into slightly plump, bubbly brunettes with curly hair being a big plus. Not the ones that dress trashy and try to fool themselves into thinking that they can pull off wearing low rise jeans and a belly shirt though. That's just gross. I'd want a girl who knows she looks best in more conservative clothes and isn't trying to live up to a model standard or to look like her 'hotter' friends. Any guys with me on this? Edit: BTW, I'm not describing myself here in case anyone was thinking that. I don't really fit any of those criteria.
Merin Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 While a physical attraction in needed IMO in order to WANT to know more about a person, there have also been times I've met a great looking Guy who turned out to be a complete ass-pony so it made him less attractive. I've gone out with all sorts of different looking Guys, and found something amazing about them physically.. could've been thier eye's or smile... but most definately confidence in themself was a big factor. My BF now is 6'3 to my 5'5 he's the tallest Guy I've ever dated and I'm the smallest girl (height and wieght) he's dated... I think too it isn't uncommon when you've been with someone that looked a certain way and the relationship ends to seek out (even if it's not on a conscience level) a person who looks simular to the person you had been with.
alphamale Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 Originally posted by crazy_grl Any guys with me on this? No
crazy_grl Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale No Of course, you wouldn't. I was asking the real men. And I mean that in the most loving way possible. I do respect your opinions and understand how you can have them even though I think they're BS.
mental_traveller Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 Obese = Rosanne Barr Full figure = Oprah Winfrey Curvy = Kate Winslet Average = J-Lo, Beyonce Slim = Paris Hilton Anorexic = Calista Flockhart, Kate Moss I generally prefer the curvy figure, but average is good too, and there are some slim & fuller-figured girls who look great too. I can't stand anorexic or obese women though. Ideal height IMO is 5'5-5'6, but I'm not too fussed. I'd rate a pretty face a bit above a sexy body. Overall though, it's mainly about individual chemistry. You can get a woman who on paper shouldn't be attractive, but just is - and vice versa. Sex appeal and aesthetic beauty are two different things.
SexKitten Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 i just won't date anyone smaller than me in any way.
scratch Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 Originally posted by SexKitten i just won't date anyone smaller than me in any way. Does this tend to pose a problem? I know a few girls 5'9 and up who struggle with this all the time. They look high and low for guys who aren't shorter then them in heels.
chaos70 Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 Originally posted by scratch Does this tend to pose a problem? I know a few girls 5'9 and up who struggle with this all the time. They look high and low for guys who aren't shorter then them in heels. I guess they can only date basketball players then. Seems kinda of silly eliminating so many good guys because they are short in height. But I guess that's just the flavor of some people.
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