PTL349 Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Thanks in advance for reading and any thoughts or advice you might offer. Am going to give the highlights in point form to make it a quick read. Feel free to ask questions if you need more info Met a great woman at a business event while traveling - turns out we live in the same city Had a fun first night while traveling getting to know her and asked if she was interesting in seeing each other when back home. She agreed 18 year age difference - Yep - I am 49 and she is 31 Got back home and started to see each other on a semi regular basis- 2 to 3 times a week - kept it somewhat casual but exclusive. I am very aware of the issues associated with the age difference - I get it. I am hyper aware of everything it brings. It kept me from really getting too close to her (and her to me, most likely) We spent a great 5 months together - had fun- traveled- you know, the normal stuff. Sex was great (obviously) - we had fun Spoke about the age difference regularly - it seemed to bug me more than her 5 months into it - she tells me she is moving out of the country (Eastern Canada to Western US), but she is moving to a city that I travel to often.. I assume we are done (LDR is not really my thing, but she has done it before), but we keep it going for a few months with regular visits, etc - seems to be going fine. Just before Christmas - she decides to end it for the expected reasons (distance, age, life situation, etc). I am divorced - college age kids, financially strong, living life, etc etc. We don't go full NC for whatever reason-- we kind of go partial no contact - which was fine with me - I wasn't struggling that hard with this breakup (knew in the back of my mind that it could never be a long term thing), etc She would text occasionally, I would do the same. I was fine with it. She suggested on both of my latest trips to her city that we get together for a drink or dinner or something - so I did. It was fine. Didnt really set me back on my "recovery" Second trip out there - at dinner, she asks me if I have slept with anyone since we broke up. I told her no. Asked her the same, she also said no. She suggested we should have sex. I seriously thought about if it was a good idea, would it set me back, etc. Net net - next night - we had sex. Was good but no longer great like it used to be. I know it broke every rule about breaking up and moving on. Then we happily go back to partial NC for a week or 10 days at a time. New News - moving back to my city for at least a year in the next few weeks. So...what is going on here. Was it a momentary weakness? Over me and just wanted some fun. Setting the stage for reconciliation? None of the above? Should I go full NC to purge this from my life? I am not really struggling - just need some insight into the mind of a much younger woman. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 It just is what it is I think. Women get lonely and horny too. There's no hard, fast rule that says you have to be either on or off. There is what works for the two of you given your goals, feelings and situational stuff. But that being said, if one or both of you are wanting a real, committed relationship with a future and you know this one isn't it, then by remaining involved you preclude other possibilities. You won't actually be available for a serious relationship until you're clear of this one. Link to post Share on other sites
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