neowulf Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 WHY? What made me this way? Where does this insane drive come from? Am I programmed that way? So, how unique am I really? How unique is anyone else around either? So, are we just highly functional highly evolved robots mass produced in a factory in the dungeon of mother nature? It's so nice and comforting to be able to say "we have choices in life"--or is that the way we'd like to think, after being subjected to years of mind conditioning. What made you this way? Mostly likely the genes determining the structures of our brains, along with our environment and conditioning. We are ultimately a reshuffle of the material that was used to make us. People have talents. Things that they naturally find easier to understand and master. That usually comes down to the way they're wired. So yes, after a fashion, it is in the wiring of our brains. How unique are you? Or any of us? That depends on how you want to define "unique". Are we each one of a kind? Absolutely. No two human beings remain completely identical, even twins grow and change through their experiences. No two human beings live the exact same experiences, in the exact same ways. Does that mean we share no commonality? Of course not. We share base emotional states, love, hate, arousal, fear, sadness. We share much of our base biochemistry and anatomy. And the way we view the world, the way we remember and structure information. Yes, some of us share those workings in common. But not all. You are not alone in feeling "different" from those around you. You're not the first, nor the last person with the desire to "loose themselves on the road less travelled", yet your journey, your experiences, the essence of you is utterly unique. That journey, the twists it takes all come down to choices. Our choices shape who we are. They may be informed by our history, our education and culture, but it is we who pull the trigger. We are all unique. Yet, we are in many ways, the same. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
WaitingForBardot Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 Read this today... Can Myers-Briggs Tell a Couple If They’re Compatible? https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/memory-catcher/201207/can-myers-briggs-tell-couple-if-they-re-compatible This is good stuff... “I work best with an ESFJ,” he said. I scanned the guide for this four-letter combo and read the description. “A warmhearted type who caters to the needs of others.” As it turned out, he liked dating geishas. As do I, but alas it was not to be..., my wife is an ENTJ. ..lol.. Thanks for the link. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
edgygirl Posted March 2, 2016 Share Posted March 2, 2016 A lot of people I know who bash it in real life are typically SJs. They think this is "putting people in a box" and that it doesn't make sense to do it, that people can't have specific labels on because we are all... different individuals. The funny thing is them thinking like that, explains SJs... By ignoring it, you waste considerable time, waste money, subject yourself to heartache, second guess yourself. Why do you think so many organizations and employers (including the US military), professional sports teams invest so much money into these personality assessments? I was part of a fellows program that did this assessment and it absolutely helped me understand my co-workers in the way that they think and process. Why would people not want to understand this in terms of relationships? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Larryville Posted March 2, 2016 Author Share Posted March 2, 2016 Because I've been out with and have met like a million guys, and nobody normal and decent ever liked me before, so should I be concerned if anyone does like me that there must be something wrong with them? I’m borrowing the quote no disrespect intended… this quote is a thread starter under dating… this is EXACTLY what I am taking about Edgygirl, YOUR QUOTE HITS HOME 'We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are.' ― Anaïs Nin Link to post Share on other sites
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