NTYCE Posted June 12, 2005 Share Posted June 12, 2005 well this is a pretty long story and i dont have anyone who i can talk to besides everyone from this forum. heres the story.. i used to have this best friend, that i used to be very good friends with for about a year, after meeting him i started dating his cousin, which at the beginning he was fine with the idea. few months down the track he was going through alot of trouble with the girlfriend and his family quiet alot.. one day when he was going through alot of trouble at his home i drove to pick him up, i opened up my house to him where he stayed for about a week. when everything calmed down he moved back home. we started drifting apart when i started getting more hours at work, but when we started talking on IM all he said to me was, "stay away of my cousin" "my family will kill you if you touch her again" and things along those lines. i was shocked and confused so i told me girlfriend which then told her mum which then started a big family fight, . because my old b/f wanted to get back on his familys good side by trying to get me out of the picture... after this i fully stopped talking to him and blocked him out of my life now the family issnt talking to each other and his kicked out again, and his girlfriend left him too. when we were still friends, i introduced him to alot of my friends, hoping he will join the circle, so now his kicked out again, his staying with one of my old good friends. i found out recently that my friends from that circle all hate or want to "kill me" (i found that funny) because his going around talking alot of s**t... what should i do? should i just leave it and move on and make new friends or try and sort things out. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony Posted June 12, 2005 Senior Moderators Share Posted June 12, 2005 Stay away from everybody and let time pass. This sounds like a royal mess. Life is too short for the drama and there are too many movies and television programs where you can get that. Ultimately, you will learn that you have no control over these sorts of things. People will react in insane, irrational ways and try to suck you into that vacuum. Stay away and take the high road. As long as you're comfortable with what you have said and done, that's fine. If you've done anything you regret, apologize and move back. Let all this sort itself out. It could take a year or two. Meanwhile, watch out how you select your friends and what their families are like. It's a difficult world out there. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted June 12, 2005 Share Posted June 12, 2005 I've learned the meaning of friendship as I've gotten older... most of the time it's a pain in the ass. Tony's right about drama, and you certainly don't need it, even though you'll discover that most of your friends thrive on it. I'm now in my thirties, and I have very few friends, if any real ones. I cut ties with most of them, because they were dragging me into their web of negativity. Misery loves company; misery can have it. The truth about your friend will eventually surface, especially if he's been talking smack about you. Shame on the others for believing him, but would you really want to hang around people like that, people who are gullible and easily swayed to take sides without putting some thought into it? Let's hope not. Link to post Share on other sites
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