youdunsay Posted February 25, 2016 Share Posted February 25, 2016 Will you continue a date when you realised there are no sparks? So I'm hanging out with a guy who is very nice and polite. But sometimes we would go totally silent and have nothing to talk about. He seems a pretty laid back and I'm usually attracted to guys who are competitive or assertive or able to strike an intellectual conversation. I've discovered pictures of him with some other girls and pictures of him with a girl in the pool. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted February 25, 2016 Share Posted February 25, 2016 I wouldn't rule someone out just because of a couple of silent patches, no. I've discovered pictures of him with some other girls and pictures of him with a girl in the pool. Err, so? Most of us have been standing next to other girls and been in pools with girls at some point in our lives, and many had pictures taken. Unlike in the olden days when such photos could be thrown away, hidden under the bed or burned, the proliferation of social media means these pics are there for the world to see forever. If you're looking for someone who's never had a pic taken with another girl I think you'll be looking for a long time... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author youdunsay Posted February 25, 2016 Author Share Posted February 25, 2016 I didn't stalked him. He kept the pictures in his computer. He said they were just friends. Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted February 25, 2016 Share Posted February 25, 2016 (edited) Will you continue a date when you realised there are no sparks? So I'm hanging out with a guy who is very nice and polite. But sometimes we would go totally silent and have nothing to talk about. He seems a pretty laid back and I'm usually attracted to guys who are competitive or assertive or able to strike an intellectual conversation. I've discovered pictures of him with some other girls and pictures of him with a girl in the pool. It's a question only you can answer. I have discovered that there is almost always a trade off in personality. In other words, people who are assertive and competitive are typically NOT down to Earth. They think they are, but they aren't. In contrast, people who are down to Earth usually don't take control, work a room, win at the cost of others, etc. So, it becomes a question of which one do you prefer? Edited February 25, 2016 by JuneJulySeptember 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted February 25, 2016 Share Posted February 25, 2016 I didn't stalked him. He kept the pictures in his computer. He said they were just friends. What is wrong with having a pic of a girl who is just a friend on your computer? I have pics of myself with girls who are just friends on my computer. Sometimes people do tell the truth, you know. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author youdunsay Posted February 26, 2016 Author Share Posted February 26, 2016 He was hugging the girl in the pool. And there are a few pictures of her bikini pictures taken in the pool. What does that means? Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted February 26, 2016 Share Posted February 26, 2016 He was hugging the girl in the pool. And there are a few pictures of her bikini pictures taken in the pool. What does that means? It means someone took her picture while she was in the pool. Where are you going with this? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author youdunsay Posted February 26, 2016 Author Share Posted February 26, 2016 It means he took the pictures because he was alone with her and that the pictures are in his computer? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted February 26, 2016 Share Posted February 26, 2016 It means he took the pictures because he was alone with her and that the pictures are in his computer? Yes. Is there anything wrong with that? Some pics hugging a girl and wearing a bikini in a pool? What do you wear in a pool, a burkini? Why don't you ask us the questions you actually want to ask us, rather than beating around the bush? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted February 26, 2016 Share Posted February 26, 2016 It means he took the pictures because he was alone with her and that the pictures are in his computer? It doesn't necessarily mean he was alone with her. Someone else had to take the pic of them together. (I know, PnP, selfies, go ahead). And yes, many people store their pictures in their computer. Or phone. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted February 26, 2016 Share Posted February 26, 2016 Yes. Is there anything wrong with that? Some pics hugging a girl and wearing a bikini in a pool? What do you wear in a pool, a burkini? Why don't you ask us the questions you actually want to ask us, rather than beating around the bush? I guess not does the men she dates not only have to be virgins they have to of never dated a girl before as well. I did my courting during the BC era. Before computer. So I do not have pictures of women on my PC. If I did and my wife wanted them gone they would be gone. If I had them and I had put an engagement ring on my wife I of would of gotten rid of them before she found them. Only to avoid who's that girl in the bikini conversation. If he is not cheating, do anything make you suspect cheating, there is nothing wrong with those photos. They are in a public setting, appropriately dressed. Not doing anything that can't be done in public. Link to post Share on other sites
Author youdunsay Posted February 27, 2016 Author Share Posted February 27, 2016 Ok but the thing about having no conversations make me feel like I was trying too hard? And I also noticed he sometimes couldn't help it but ogle at girls when we were hanging out. Is this normal? Link to post Share on other sites
Author youdunsay Posted February 27, 2016 Author Share Posted February 27, 2016 Additionally, I am not a very exciting person. My day-to-day life is routine or letting-life -goes-by. I don't do fun activities every weekend. I stumbled whenever he asked me what were my plans for weekends. Link to post Share on other sites
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