Got a thing for older women ;)

[alphaa]

hey guys whats up. Like my thread says, i got a thing for older women. well im 22 and i recently got out of a 3 year relationship. i dont really want anything right now im just really investing time in myself right now to make myself better.

 

So yes i like older women, there cooler, mature and aint like some of these [young women] out here. [] So yeah its what im into right now. In work theres alot of older women and by that i mean late 20s and 30 year olds. im into them all really even some 40 year olds. Lol hope this thread doesnt become a comic.

 

So i wont try anything in work because these ladies are my friends and i have respect for them and i wont do anything to jeopardize what we have. but outside of work tho .. im up for it you know id love to start getting together with some older women. im just not very sure to how to begin my journey.

 

Im a good looking guy, tall a bit brown but safe to say im a head turner. and i get along very well with older women. I know alot of these women around that age would be married and stuff but im gonna be a dic* here when i say i dont mind, once we dont get caught.

 

so thats basically it. any tips on how i can start this ?

Edited February 26, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[mrldii]

Yeah...stop referring to women in their late 20s and 30s as "older women"; they're not...they're simply "older than you".

 

At 22, there's few women who aren't older than you, so really...the world's pretty much your oyster! Live it up!

 

 

 

Good luck to you, OP...

[alphaa]

Im sorry. didnt really specify my thread. but yes women who are older than me. And i dont mean get together in terms of sex, i love hanging out with them if its just drinks or lunch or whatever. If we have fun after sure.

 

[] i dont wanna get involved with young bad girls right now.

Edited February 26, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Reference to redcated language removed.

[joseb]

Lol hope this thread doesnt become a comic.

 

 

Judging by your username, membership length and content I'm guessing you might be hoping that's exactly what will happen

 

If you are serious about it, then you might want to try tinder.

Edited February 26, 2016 by joseb

[alphaa]

No not really. was just watching this guy on youtube and got the name there. im just really looking for some advice.

[Buddhist]

I seriously doubt any older woman with her head screwed on right will touch you at all. Your post screams that you lack mental and emotional maturity. If a 20 something is a dumb bitch to you than what are older women? You see how that works don't you?

 

And why would any older woman who's already been on the 'just want some fun' merry go round be interested in that? Just because you are young and think you're good looking does not instantly make you attractive to a woman older than you.

 

My previous bf was 12yrs younger, my current one 15. There is no way in hell I would consider dating or having casual sex with someone that displays the kind of attitudes you do. My guess is you like older women because you think they will be easier to get into bed, as if we don't have better options just because we are over 30. You will find that is not the case. You are not some rare bird just because you are 22 and are willing to have sex with.....gee gosh someone older than a teenager. There are plenty of younger men (in their 20's) who not only desire a mature partner but have a lot more to offer than you seem to be. It's not an easier route to free sex.

Edited February 26, 2016 by Buddhist

[alphaa]

I think you missed one of my replies where i said i wasnt aiming for sex with the women i tend to meet. Like i said i enjoy hanging out with them as i have hung out with older women before. I really didnt want this thread to be the way its looking like and unfortunately its looking exactly at what it is and i dont wish to change it.

 

I asked a question and for some tips if im burned for that i understand and if i do get helpful tips i appreciate it.

[alphaa]

a buck.. how come?

[AMJ]

Yeah, I'd say as an "older woman" that I'm interested in men with maturity. I didn't even date guys who were 22 when I was 22. There's just something nice about a man who knows how to do things. "Things" can apply to anything. I've dated younger men but they were usually didn't act much younger than myself.

[Buddhist]

I think you missed one of my replies where i said i wasnt aiming for sex with the women i tend to meet. Like i said i enjoy hanging out with them as i have hung out with older women before. I really didnt want this thread to be the way its looking like and unfortunately its looking exactly at what it is and i dont wish to change it.

 

I asked a question and for some tips if im burned for that i understand and if i do get helpful tips i appreciate it.

 

Why would a woman in her 30's and beyond want to hang out with an immature 20 something? There's not much in your post to suggest you are very deep, what with thinking you're a head turner and all..... Guess what honey? Every young guy who ever lived thinks he's a head turner. It takes them all a while to figure out they're not quite the catch they thought they were.

 

So lets see a vain 22yr old who thinks women on his emotional level are dumb bitches. Wow, yeah I'd like to spend my Friday night in the company of that.....

[alphaa]

thanks for replying.

[alphaa]

Anyway guys thanks for the input.. have a great night.

[Shanex]

I used to have a thing for older women, this has subsided having aged myself. No real tips needed, go for what you like or prefer. The usual 'warning' is these women are more established in their lives than you probably are... but that's not really a big deal, I have examples of 30s ladies with early 20s guys and they have children.

[todreaminblue]

i feel you shouldnt categorize women and limit yourself to specific groups....i think you should see women for who they are not their age...age doesnt equal maturity and coolness.......be open to nice women...young or old...be friendly ..be engaging...be honest.......be confident....treat women with respect......and the world is your oyster....good luck....deb

[alphaa]

Hey dude thanks for the reply. I understand that, im not out to use women or anything. Im already established career and business wise, i wont speak of this before i come off as more vain.

 

I just really enjoy spending time with them, they dont talk all day about idotic things or obsessed with social media and all the latest trends. Alot of them are so cool and just fun to be with id be happy with establishing some good friendships with nothing sexual at all. \

 

So yeah man appreciate it.

[alphaa]

I'll be honest. I respect women and people all the same, i never judge because you have no idea what people go through, i understand that more than anyone because of how i grew up and because of who i am today.

 

I had some bad experiences with girls using me, treating me like crap, putting me down on my knees and making me miserable. and all i ever did was be the nicest guy ever, love them respect them and cherish them, all that to be dumped and cheated on and just forgotten. And i learnt from those experiences and i appreciate everyone i come into contact with.

 

Im not categorising women on the way they are or the way they act or age or whatever, I just choose to have nothing to do with bad people, and i categorise those bad people and choose to have nothing to do with them.

[CarrieT]

any tips on how i can start this ?

As an older woman who has more sexual partners than most people on this board, I would suggest you start by learning better punctuation and grammar.

 

We who have engaged in dalliances with you young bucks don't do so just because you are young, but usually because you - and I mean that in a very general sense - have something to offer; preferably intellectually as well as physically.

 

The biggest turn-off are you young'uns who are just hankering for a pound of flesh with a MILF because we can teach you a thing or two in the bedroom (and believe me, I could!).

 

One of the best lovers I ever had was twenty years younger than me but was able to have an intelligent and insightful conversation as well as treat me like a lady.

 

OP, your attitude and the way you write displays a personae that would make me question your ability to attract an older woman. I think you need a bit of maturity that doesn't necessarily come with age, but with experience, patience, and education.

[alphaa]

I'm not out for meat. I'm not out to experience women. I speak 3 languages I have recently learnt English. I did not know i had to be an english scholar to write a piece on the internet.

[William]

Well, our threads are about interpersonal relationships so we generally don't police the minutiae of the written word but we do have language rules here so no profanity please. Paragraphs are helpful. Focusing on the topic of having a thing for older women is valid so let's consider the other matters resolved and move on. Thanks!

[alphaa]

I understand and I apologise.

[alphaa]

Allow me to say this over if I may. I have hung out with women older than me before, the youngest usually being 29 or 30. Forgive the bad english and grammatical errors because I have learnt english recently. I hung out with women in there 30s and 40s and I enjoyed it very much. Either it be women at work or friends or from mutual people ik.

 

Im not out for there money, i have alot of that. Im not out for them as sex objects, i just enjoy there company very much and by saying that i also have no problem if it develops into something more..

 

So if you think I'm a young couch I'm sorry. I hope this clears things up a bit more. What I'm really seeking here is to find out how I can meet more older women and develop some good relationships.

 

I jist dont know a whole lot about women who are in there 30s and older and how to really approach them.

[Emilia]

Not sure why you got all the flaming. Older women can look after themselves.

 

It's harder to meet us because many of us are married, in relationships or not interested in big age gap.

 

I'd say if you share any interests with older generations, it's worth checking out meetups. Some of us as we get older step up self improvement. I go to debate society meetups for example, various talks. There is always drinks afterwards at the bar when you can talk to members.

[EatYourVeggies]

Not sure why you got all the flaming. Older women can look after themselves.

 

I was thinking the same thing.

 

When i was 24, I did the double whammy. I was dated my boss who happened to be 38.

 

Lasted a few months and I think we broke up when she meet someone around her age or maybe I did, I don't even remember. Point is, neither one of us went into it thinking we were each others life partners or expected a long term relationship or marriage. No harm, no foul. I continued to worked there for quite some time no problems and even attending her wedding.

 

I also dated several other women where there was age gap of 15 or so years both younger and older. With one of the younger age gaps, I would have liked a different outcome and was disappointed that I had to end it but I knew going in what to expect. Still, all in all great experiences, always learned something new about myself or woman and glad I had the opportunity to get to know them.

 

OP, quite possible you might share the same experience(s) I did and be better for it. If you meet someone that you are interested in and want to get to know better or even if you just want sex, go for it. As Emilia stated, they are quite capable of handling themselves and don't need you treat them any different than you would any other woman.

[todreaminblue]

Hey dude thanks for the reply. I understand that, im not out to use women or anything. Im already established career and business wise, i wont speak of this before i come off as more vain.

 

I just really enjoy spending time with them, they dont talk all day about idotic things or obsessed with social media and all the latest trends. Alot of them are so cool and just fun to be with id be happy with establishing some good friendships with nothing sexual at all. \

 

So yeah man appreciate it.

 

i am not a dude.......deb

[SmartDude]

 

so thats basically it. any tips on how i can start this ?

 

You can start by not talking to older women because they hate you as evidenced in the comments here.

 

Older women think of most younger guys as super horny and not that good at decision making. There is only a small niche of older women who are in to younger men in general.