Ferret Posted February 26, 2016 Share Posted February 26, 2016 So this friend I live with talks...and talksss and talkkkkssssss... its not just casual chat she will pin you into listening to her for hours if you allow it. I just sat here and listened to her latest "dream saga" for oh about 40 mins! she didn't get the hint when I said "you really remember all this from dream"? and im getting a head ake... It was like a marathon inside her head and she was hell bent on me hearing ALL OF IT so now here I am I feel emotionally drained and I do honestly have a head ake...I can some times cut her short but its getting harder and harder to do with out being blunt anyone ever deal with some like this before? any suggestions? thanks in advance.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphaa Posted February 26, 2016 Share Posted February 26, 2016 Ive learnt to deal with this in a few ways. sometimes i encourage the convo and take control of it and just make them fast forward it to the end. another way is to cu them off with a story while they say something, i know its rude but its just the best options sometimes. Like if she said that she dreamed about a dog and she keeps talking about a dog you say something about a dog or bring up a memory or something. Just to throw the convo off track because its impossible to deal with sometimes lol. I use to glance at my phone and even set an alarm like in 5 mins to distract myself for a while and just basically cut the convo. Hope his helps. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted February 26, 2016 Share Posted February 26, 2016 I tend to avoid them..... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
mikeylo Posted February 26, 2016 Share Posted February 26, 2016 Cutting them short and taking charge of the conversation and steering it in the other direction is sometimes the only option , though its rude but them making our ears and head hurt is worse than that ! Next time, you ' are in a rush ' to go to the toilet , or need to make an important call or some other excuse ready, depending on the situation.Soon they will find someone where they can dump their non stop chatting. These days its hard to find quiet people ! lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
losangelena Posted February 26, 2016 Share Posted February 26, 2016 I have a roommate who's a bit like this. I've learned not to respond to everything she says, because I find it invites more talking. People who don't know her find that rude, but she doesn't notice, because she's really just monologuing, and I just happen to be there. So when she starts to get long winded, I don't ask follow up questions or engage. I may let out a "huh," but that's it. Or, I stand up and say, "I gotta go, sorry," and then leave the room. Hope that helps. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ferret Posted February 26, 2016 Author Share Posted February 26, 2016 Thank you all for the awesome advice I guess really end of the day all I can do is cut her short or walk away causes shes obivisely not getting suddle hints last night as I was trying to eat my dinner I got treated to hearing how her tooth is cracked and hanging all over her mouth in graphic detail.. I said hey im trying to eat here she would stop then come back 2 mins later and continue. My bf actually growled at her to stop it then it stopped some what. Its like shes ether just that ignorant or just that pushy im not to sure witch! This girl has some mental issues so ive been so trying to be calm and helpful to her but I think my breaking point it close at hand... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ferret Posted February 26, 2016 Author Share Posted February 26, 2016 I tend to avoid them..... Its kinda hard when you live with them as it is I live in my bed room almost 24/7 these days... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mrs rubble Posted February 27, 2016 Share Posted February 27, 2016 Its kinda hard when you live with them as it is I live in my bed room almost 24/7 these days... Tell her you've figured out where she comes from- Babylon (babble on). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LydiaLong Posted February 27, 2016 Share Posted February 27, 2016 I've known several people like this, and the bad thing is that they never pick up on body language cues that you're bored. It's a tough situation. You might want to joke about how you don't have patience for long stories. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 27, 2016 Share Posted February 27, 2016 If you live with her, I'd just make it clear your bedroom is off limits and not ever let her follow you in there. That way you have a place to escape to. (Yawn) "Your story has put me to sleep. Going to go lay down." I had a bf who was like that. I'm a talker too, but most of the time I didn't mind listening to him. It was hard, though, if you were trying to do something at the same time and couldn't leave the room. You can also blame yourself and tell them they'll have to forgive you, but you have a short attention span and get very impatient with long narratives. I mean, it's a way to share the blame and also let them know they are longwinded. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ferret Posted February 27, 2016 Author Share Posted February 27, 2016 So I averted the second chapter of last nights dream saga..she started in with it and I was like im going to go take a nap it hurried her along nicely..sad thing is if I don't then go take a nap I feel bad..I mean I am going to take a nap I just came on here 1st..lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted February 27, 2016 Share Posted February 27, 2016 I have an endearing friend that is a chatty kathy. Its hilarious for about ten minutes. Luckily I understand that she has a medical (manic disposition) , and I tell her to adjust her meds. Not in a mean way... she sometimes forgets to moderate her chatter. She sometimes relies on ppl to gage her condition by her banter... She gets wayy to manic and a good source to help is a friend to remind her to take care of her ailment.. Overall A quick reminder to keep it readers digest brief does the trick! Link to post Share on other sites
LydiaLong Posted February 27, 2016 Share Posted February 27, 2016 Chatty Kathy!! LOL...you have dated yourself. I used to have one. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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