Author Caseycar Posted March 2, 2016 Author Share Posted March 2, 2016 Who told you this? Yes, breaking NC puts you back to square 1. Don't do it again! There is a very simple test to determine whether that's true or not. Look at your phone. Does it have a message from him saying "I miss you, I was a fool, I want you back, how can I fix this?"? ... I'm guessing there is no such message, right? Then that is proof that he has not changed his mind. Remember when you wrote this? Did you print it off and stick it to your fridge like I advised? His best friend told me that they broke up, and about how she didn't go to see him..and both his and the girls Facebook profiles say they are single. I know I shouldn't have broken contact but to be honest I was scared and wanted to know he was ok.. I know it's no excuse but won't it happen again. And I don't plan on messaging him again. No he hasn't sent me any messages like that yet so I'm being smart and I'm not going to show any interest or pursue him at all. I don't know I just feel like I am still invested in this man and it's not a good idea to be hopeful but I can't help it..I know it's toxic but I honestly can't help it..I love him so much. (And no I didn't print it out but I screen saved your message on my phone) I'm so confused and still unsure. I'm trying not to think about it but it just seems like too much a coincidence. And he's sick due to stress related issues. Apparently he's been drinking heavily since our breakup and has been talking about me non stop to his best friend. So his friend has come to me to spill the beans about it out of concern. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Caseycar Posted March 2, 2016 Author Share Posted March 2, 2016 It's almost like all sense flies out the window when it comes to him, I feel like we should be together but there is just so much about him that is damaged and I just can't seem to find anything to remedy it. Loving him is the toughest thing I've ever gone through. And I've gone through a lot in my life. It's just so complicated and hard to wrap my head around it. My head says no but my heart is aching. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted March 2, 2016 Share Posted March 2, 2016 His best friend told me that they broke up, and about how she didn't go to see him..and both his and the girls Facebook profiles say they are single. Why is his best friend talking to you? Why does his best friend think you need to know that she didn't go to see him? Why are you looking at his and his gf's facebook profiles? (These are rhetorical questions. Don't answer them.) You're really shooting yourself in the foot here. You're doing the opposite of healing from the break-up. You are keeping yourself very much involved in his life by communicating with his friend and facebook stalking him. Apparently he's been drinking heavily since our breakup and has been talking about me non stop to his best friend. So his friend has come to me to spill the beans about it out of concern. Tell his friend that you don't want to know about your EX and his drinking problems, they are not your problems because you are not his girlfriend and then BLOCK his friend too! Come on. You know better than this. Do you really think talking to his friend is a good idea? NC is the ONLY way you will get through this. You need to start today, and not break it again! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Caseycar Posted April 2, 2016 Author Share Posted April 2, 2016 A lot has happened since I first posted on here but what I can say is all hope for reconciliation with my ex has gone out the window. I've given up on ever even hoping to be his friend. In the six months we have been broken up I have felt nothing but unloved and hated by this man. Subconsciously he has been acting on impulse asking personal questions and prying into my personal life to try to manipulate my feelings and control my emotions about him because he is terrified I have moved on as he isn't ready to yet. He doesn't want me back he is just using me to justify his reason for breaking up with me as he doesn't really have one. So instead he ignores me on purpose to make sure I still pursue him. Makes me work harder doesn't it? No one likes to feel rejected after all. After recent events involving rumours he has started and trying to turn my friends against me and to side with him on all of this I've finally decided enough is enough. I do not deserve this. And further more it's just down right hurtful. I could never want to be with someone who could be this hurtful. I'm ready to move on. Finally. He's on his own. NC couldn't feel better now if I tried. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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