After 6 years MM behavior changing.what does it mean?

[Confusedwman1981]

I have tried multiple times the past 6 years to end things but can't seem to be successful. If anything it seems to be getting more intimate. Or am I reading too much into it? Three years ago we stopped using condoms it was his idea. He is the only man I have ever had unprotected sex with. The first time without a condom was not discussed. In retrospect I know realize he disrespected me. We were in the moment and I was trying to reach for a condom when he pushed into me. I was caught up with the new experience I went along with it. Afterward he told me he wanted me like that from now on. I had recently ended another relationship that he knew about. And wasn't seeing anyone else. Now if I bring up using condoms it's cause I am "cheating on him". I date and talk to other men but it never becomes sexual with them. Now all of a sudden this past year he has become more affectionate and started giving me oral sex. He now calls me every night on his way home from work. He insists that he is not jealous and is just playing with me. But on three occasions I have caught him "accidentally"checking my phone. I was showing him something and he supposedly press the wrong button. Taking him to my phone log and text messages. He is 15 yrs older than me and when I recently bought a car he of course didn't go with me but he would call and check in to see what the deal was and give his input. He is financially savvy. And after I worked out an awesome deal and purchased a car he said his own wife wants. His behavior again changed. Now he seems to bring up the fact that I am the my Dept shift supervisor. We work at the same place but in different departments. I make what he and his wife make combined. He often refers to me as the boss now. Jokingly telling my male coworkers they have to do what I say because I'm the boss. A female from a different department was flirting with him and making moves on him. I didn't like it. I didn't tell him that. Instead I told him if you like women like her there is no reason to be with me. I am in my 30's, childless, and raised middle class in the suburbs. She is in her early 20's with 4 kids, tattoos on her neck,arms and chest. All of which within the first week she showed him and the other Mexican men. They are not visible thru her uniform. She had to make a point to show them. He asked if I was jealous. I told him #1 I don't get jealous and #2 I can't be jealous over someone that doesn't belong to me. He got quiet then said that's good. He now avoids her. He also discusses more of his personal life with me. I even know all of his personal info like his social security number. I help him with most of his business matters because I am computer savvy. I don't know if our friendship is growing Or we are headed into even more dangerous territory. I keep telling myself it's purely sexual and nothing else but sometimes he talks about the future and includes me in it and himself in mine. I hope I'm reading to much into it. Or that he is just running game on me. What do y'all think from y'all experience. Especially the men. How do married men feel about giving the other woman oral sex? Doe that in itself hav meaning?

[imperfectangel]

There's so much going on I your post. First off I don't understand what difference tattoos make. They don't define someone's character or worth including how many children they have. It isn't relevant. Nor was he disrespecting you when you had unprotected sex. If you feel disrespected it's because you disrespected yourself.

 

If you want to end it, do so. But you sound very jealous and insecure

[elaine567]

Where does the wife figure in all of this?

[Ms. Faust]

Yeah, I remember your thread from earlier. IIRC you kept saying things like "I don't care" and "he's just a FWB" and something about you slapping a subordinate at work and having Kama Sutra sex at work.

 

Anywho, yes, sounds like you were jealous of the younger woman.

 

How MM feel about giving oral to a woman is going to depend on the man.

 

It's not purely sexual.

Edited February 26, 2016 by Ms. Faust

[sandylee1]

What's the attraction with a man who cheats on his wife for 6 years. More intimate..because he's used to you. Your safe.... you're not going anywhere. You need to use condoms..because he could have others...why trust a liar..and whose to say his wife isn't cheating. You just don't know.

 

 

No condoms...because 'your his'

 

What's the end game?

 

If you want kids..... stop wasting your best years with another woman's husband.

[imperfectangel]

It's actually more disrespectful to his wife not to use condoms than it is to ow who had a choice