PegNosePete Posted April 7, 2016 Share Posted April 7, 2016 Please base your answers on the fact that she is an honest genuine person. You can't ask for advice and then impose such a restriction. We will give advice based on what we think. Don't you want honest answers? Or do you just want us to tell you what you want to hear? My opinion is that she's saying whatever it takes, to get you to "play nice" during the divorce. And as soon as it's signed and sealed, you'll be dust in her rear view mirror. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted April 7, 2016 Share Posted April 7, 2016 My opinion is that she's saying whatever it takes, to get you to "play nice" during the divorce. And as soon as it's signed and sealed, you'll be dust in her rear view mirror. YES, I think she perhaps gave it away by saying "Why can't you just try to be my friend right now". OP But, I do not know her, you do, and if you feel she is not leading you down the garden path, then great. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted April 7, 2016 Share Posted April 7, 2016 (edited) Also just to be clear I'm not saying that she's not a genuine, honest person. She may well honestly believe that maybe one day in the future you could get back together. She's not necessarily being dishonest with you, but for now she just wants the divorce, and she has no desire to rekindle the relationship. And she wants you to go along with that without making waves, which is why she wants to be "friends", go to movies etc, and not talk about the relationship. To her the possible future reconciliation is just a vague maybe, we'll see, if the stars declare it so, 0.00001% chance. Whereas to you it's all you're living and breathing for. You're taking her "maybe" and converting that in your mind to mean she actually intends to work on making it happen. What she means, and what you understand her words to mean, seem to be very different. Neither is necessarily dishonest... just different. Edited April 7, 2016 by PegNosePete Link to post Share on other sites
Author Seperated Posted April 7, 2016 Author Share Posted April 7, 2016 She wouldn't do that. She would just say it's over if it's over Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted April 7, 2016 Share Posted April 7, 2016 Okay, what are you looking for here OP? You seem to dismiss any answer that isn't what you want to hear. Can I have some opinions on if this sounds to you like we have a real chance here to fix This? My opinion: no. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Seperated Posted April 19, 2016 Author Share Posted April 19, 2016 Ok so another update. I know I have asked for opinions of what people thought would happen. The last few weeks have been great. Her and I have been spending a lot of time together. I know she is still hurtnornuoaetnibwas with someone else but we have been hanging out a lot. We've gone out to eat, I've helped her shop for a car, even took her to her dr appt. we've gone out to eat a couple times and one time last week after a couple drinks we started kissing , it got very passionate. We kinda joked about it a little after and she said we need to keep it friends right now and take it slow. Since then though we have been spending s lot of time together. I even asked her about me re establishing a relationship with her son and I met them at the gym (coincidently) her and I knew but he didn't. So I spent some time with him there. I am really hoping we are heading down the right path. Link to post Share on other sites
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