Ferret Posted February 27, 2016 Share Posted February 27, 2016 (edited) My friend is starting to [complain] that shes feeling like she has no social circle except for me and my bf now mind you that's a reality since she just moved out here from another state two month's ago and ever since has pretty much done nothing but stay up all night and sleep most of the day... Now ive been trying to suggest ways she can kick start her social circle and everything I bring up she shoots down! I say hey take a class at the community collage "oh that costs money"...I say hey would you like to join a gym with me? "oh that costs money and I had a bad experience with that gym" I say hey lets go to Bingo once in a while and nada happens.. And the weird thing last night she actually asked me if I want to go clubbing..now I am a hard core introvert its not that I don't know how to soicalise its I choose when and were and "clubbing or bar hopping" have never been on my list of things I enjoy doing and she knows that all to well. I guess its a good enough activity for some once in a while but to me its not as enriching a experience as the others I mentioned..this chick is like 8 years younger then me too im almost 40 now maybe that's got something to do I don't know.. But I just don't get her and I know when her benefit rolls in she will be right up in Walmart buying all kinds of **** and crap mostly IE candy and other crap foods..yet she doesn't do anything productive for herself cause "it costs money"...last night really made me scratch tho my head like do you even know me? Edited March 1, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Language Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 27, 2016 Share Posted February 27, 2016 Then ignore her -- in one ear & out the other -- or buy her a gift certificate to something. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ferret Posted February 27, 2016 Author Share Posted February 27, 2016 I thought about that heck I even thought about paying her tuition for a class but yeah then I was like na she could apply for finical aid but shes choosing not to for kinda lame excuses..so I guess ignore is going to be the way to go its just sad its like watching a friend rinse and repeat her life and then complain that nothings changing >.< Link to post Share on other sites
Methodical Posted February 27, 2016 Share Posted February 27, 2016 IIRC, this is a person you met thru online gaming, yes? And out of the kindness of your heart, you helped facilitate a move, offered her a place to stay "until she gets on her feet," etc. I hope you haven't gotten yourself into a situation with a leach who'll mooch off you until you finally blow a gasket. Ppl like that are never thankful for how you've helped them. Instead, they vilify you once you've reached your limit. And, depending on how nefarious she is, she might refuse to leave siting her tenant rights. Because she pays a small fee for rent, she might have a leg to stand on, depending on where you live. Many states require written notice ranging anywhere from 7 to 30 days before that person has to vacate the premises. She is staying up all night and sleeping all day, which translates to she isn't actively seeking her own accommodations. It may serve you well to look into the laws in your area in case this situation gets worse. Good luck! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 27, 2016 Share Posted February 27, 2016 If you are housing her out of the kindness of your heart, then you need to really do her a favor and tell her she's got one month to either get a job or enroll in school or find another place. All she wants to do is bar-hop. So tell her to go get a job as a cocktail waitress. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ferret Posted February 27, 2016 Author Share Posted February 27, 2016 IIRC, this is a person you met thru online gaming, yes? And out of the kindness of your heart, you helped facilitate a move, offered her a place to stay "until she gets on her feet," etc. I hope you haven't gotten yourself into a situation with a leach who'll mooch off you until you finally blow a gasket. Ppl like that are never thankful for how you've helped them. Instead, they vilify you once you've reached your limit. And, depending on how nefarious she is, she might refuse to leave siting her tenant rights. Because she pays a small fee for rent, she might have a leg to stand on, depending on where you live. Many states require written notice ranging anywhere from 7 to 30 days before that person has to vacate the premises. She is staying up all night and sleeping all day, which translates to she isn't actively seeking her own accommodations. It may serve you well to look into the laws in your area in case this situation gets worse. Good luck! Yeah we met her via a on line game we all use to play together and I have considered what your saying. She really hasn't put up any red flags of that kind of mind set other then when she showed up she was upset she wasn't already on our lease..We have since decided shes not going to be added to the lease and once she gets a few issues sorted with her benefit we are going to start steering her towards getting low income housing of her own.. If you are housing her out of the kindness of your heart, then you need to really do her a favor and tell her she's got one month to either get a job or enroll in school or find another place. All she wants to do is bar-hop. So tell her to go get a job as a cocktail waitress. Shes on disability I guess she could get a small part time job least it would get her out of the house..I mean I go out once in a while but I don't make it a everyday thing unless I have a reason to or I have a little extra spending cash and I want a nice day out.. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 28, 2016 Share Posted February 28, 2016 If she can bar-hop she can work. Link to post Share on other sites
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