E-Squared Posted February 28, 2016 Posted February 28, 2016 So I was told by a couple of female friends that referring to them as "honey" or "woman" as the female equivalent of saying "dude," "dog," "homie" or "man" is sexist. I mean it like when I say something, for example, like, "Dude, I know what you mean," or "Dog, you told me this." Now towards a couple of female friends, I have said something in the past like "Honey, you got it all wrong." I didn't call her honey because she is my girlfriend, by the way. I have also said "woman," and another female friend told me that is derogatory. What do you think? 1
ScentlessApprentice Posted February 28, 2016 Posted February 28, 2016 It comes across as condescending. 3
Author E-Squared Posted February 28, 2016 Author Posted February 28, 2016 So what should I say in their place? 1
basil67 Posted February 28, 2016 Posted February 28, 2016 I think it's far nicer to use their names. 1
Author E-Squared Posted February 29, 2016 Author Posted February 29, 2016 Really? That is the best you could come up with? 1
Grumpybutfun Posted February 29, 2016 Posted February 29, 2016 Nothing....btw, I hate being called "dog" or "bro" and would find it immature and disrespectful if my friends called me that. I'm not a frat boy or thug. Since they know me well, they wouldn't call me any of those things. They can call me "brother" or "man" if they want. They can use "dude" if I'm being obtuse. FTR, Women do not like flippant names as language has been used by men for too long to put them in their "place." Use proper names or nothing at all. Best, Grumps 7
whichwayisup Posted February 29, 2016 Posted February 29, 2016 So I was told by a couple of female friends that referring to them as "honey" or "woman" as the female equivalent of saying "dude," "dog," "homie" or "man" is sexist. I mean it like when I say something, for example, like, "Dude, I know what you mean," or "Dog, you told me this." Now towards a couple of female friends, I have said something in the past like "Honey, you got it all wrong." I didn't call her honey because she is my girlfriend, by the way. I have also said "woman," and another female friend told me that is derogatory. What do you think? It's disrespectful. And also sounds high school.
Author E-Squared Posted February 29, 2016 Author Posted February 29, 2016 I would consider "Goddess" acceptable. How so? How is it more acceptable?
thefooloftheyear Posted February 29, 2016 Posted February 29, 2016 I agree with Grump, but its been my experience that good looking/desirable men can usually say these things and its no problem...If you aren't then its likely they will have an issue with it...Simple as that... TFY
Grumpybutfun Posted February 29, 2016 Posted February 29, 2016 I agree with Grump, but its been my experience that good looking/desirable men can usually say these things and its no problem...If you aren't then its likely they will have an issue with it...Simple as that... TFY Well, he'll, FOTY, aren't we "hawt" enough for disparaging rhetoric? I'm completely gutted. G 1
lino Posted March 1, 2016 Posted March 1, 2016 Sounds like they just had nothing better to complain about. If someone called me dude or homie I wouldn't blink an eye. Been called a lot worse things. Tell them they're lucky they don't live in a culture where women are often called much more vile things than honey. I agree with Grump, but its been my experience that good looking/desirable men can usually say these things and its no problem...If you aren't then its likely they will have an issue with it...Simple as that... TFY Pretty much. Said guys could call them way worse things and they'll still follow em like a puppy dog.
Popsicle Posted March 1, 2016 Posted March 1, 2016 So I was told by a couple of female friends that referring to them as "honey" or "woman" as the female equivalent of saying "dude," "dog," "homie" or "man" is sexist. I mean it like when I say something, for example, like, "Dude, I know what you mean," or "Dog, you told me this." Now towards a couple of female friends, I have said something in the past like "Honey, you got it all wrong." I didn't call her honey because she is my girlfriend, by the way. I have also said "woman," and another female friend told me that is derogatory. What do you think? I am a woman and you couldn't pay me to be offended by this. No big deal. I might even like it even.
No_Go Posted March 1, 2016 Posted March 1, 2016 I think your friends are overreacting. If anything, it's just annoying. I btw find dude, homie etc equally annoying though. Ugh, why not just using people's names? So I was told by a couple of female friends that referring to them as "honey" or "woman" as the female equivalent of saying "dude," "dog," "homie" or "man" is sexist. I mean it like when I say something, for example, like, "Dude, I know what you mean," or "Dog, you told me this." Now towards a couple of female friends, I have said something in the past like "Honey, you got it all wrong." I didn't call her honey because she is my girlfriend, by the way. I have also said "woman," and another female friend told me that is derogatory. What do you think?
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