Author qaz123 Posted February 29, 2016 Author Share Posted February 29, 2016 Nothing helps, I told my family. I've been trying to take breathers ever since we broke up. She was my everything, she's all I had here. I live alone in a different state then all my friends and family. Every day gets worse. I get better then something happens and I get worse. I can't really deal with this, I feel she's worth every ounce of my being, it's what I gave to her. Apparently I'm not good enough or not worth it. To even think she'll meet somebody even as friends online and them talk to her and not me, and the way she treated me in the relationship, sex, etc with someone else. I can't take it. Link to post Share on other sites
brothers343 Posted February 29, 2016 Share Posted February 29, 2016 My brother........what is happening to you right now is a great thing. You are just not seeing it becouse your in your own world. This is a great situation for you, for one she did you the favor of leaving so you can find someone new. Number two is that while it may not feel this way right now she is making you strong. Both physically and most importantly mentally. Your heart hurts becouse your brain is sending a (bad) signal to the rest of your body. Go run, workout, go and have fun with your buds. Saying you want to commit suicide for this woman is rediculous. This is part of life, this are learning experiences that are valuable for your future. Sometimes I think of my first love and how she left and I also thought about committing suicide but I got through it and I think to myself of all the wonderful things I would have missed out. My wife and my two beautiful kids. Don't throw away your life on something that sooner or later will just be a memory. If I persevered and many in this forum have persevered than you can too. Good luck buddy. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 29, 2016 Share Posted February 29, 2016 Get some therapy. She is not your everything. You are your own everything. Call your friends & family on the phone & make arrangements to take a trip back home sooner rather than later. You opened this thread by saying that your "friends" told you to go on line. Talk to those same friends about what happened. Link to post Share on other sites
Author qaz123 Posted March 1, 2016 Author Share Posted March 1, 2016 I honestly don't think therapy will help, the hotline hasn't either. Link to post Share on other sites
ExtraSpice Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 I honestly don't think therapy will help, the hotline hasn't either. I am pretty sure that we could say anything right now or give you the best advice in the world but it won't matter because you just won't believe it. You have your mind set that she was your everything, that you will never get over her and things will get worse and worse. And that is simply not true. Nothing, absolutely nothing stays the same. Everything changes. Good things change and so do bad things. It is hard to accept that this rough patch will pass because you are so engrossed in it. It is normal to be engrossed in it as I have been in a similar state of mind. If you think this woman is worth pursuing then pursue her. This sounds harsh but chances are that it will not turn out well. And you will end up even more hurt and maybe even then you still wan't to pursue her. Well then pursue her. At one point or the other the cold truth will hit you in the face and you will accept it. But if you wan't to avoid all that hurt and drama then let her go now. Won't happen in a week, not even a month, maybe a year. But it will happen and when it does it will feel so good. You have to tread through a lot of sh*t to get better. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 I honestly don't think therapy will help, the hotline hasn't either. The hotline is a quick band aid. Therapy is a much longer term solution. Especially i fyou have never had therapy. Get some. You will be amazed how much better you will feel after a while (more than just 1 session) Link to post Share on other sites
notbroken Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 Suicide is a long term solution to a short term problem. DON'T DO IT!!! No doubt there are people in the world that care about you (family, friends, etc). Probably way more than you know. Look up 'oneitis' on the internet and study it. You are suffering because you are convinced this girl was 'the one' and you can't survive without her (that's incorrect on both counts). She wasn't - there are many 'ones'. She was just one of many possible girls for you. You WILL eventually be with someone you feel is good for you AND she will think you are good for her. You do NOT want to be with someone that doesn't feel the same for you. Life is too short. Wait for someone that wants you. Right now that may seem like no one - but there are likely lots of ladies that are dreaming of someone like you. Get some counseling. Just talking about it will help. Time sure will. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kztar Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 I feel your pain. I feel the same exact way. Except I don't want to commit suicide. They are not worth it but I FEEL your pain I'm right there with you. Feel free to pM me. You're not alone and there's others who feel like you. Cut Pershing this girl, been there done that and honestly a waste of effort. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sorano Posted March 3, 2016 Share Posted March 3, 2016 your not alone. Im in the same club. It hurts. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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