ZA Dater Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 I am sure at least one poster here is going to laugh but came across this site the other day, in theory it seems to be a good solution for guys like me who simply cannot find anyone to go on a date with. Sure its a pay scenario but in theory at least it allows one to choose from a higher level of person than can be found on dating sites, at least in the SA context where dating sites seems to be the haunt of everything with issues, kids, failed marriages. Anyone tried it? Link to post Share on other sites
PacMann87 Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 We'd need to know more about the site to give you an opinion. It sounds like an escort or fee for service type dating site tho, correct me if I'm wrong. Have you ever been in a relationship/had sex? The thing about sites like this is that you need to go in knowing that you're not going to end up in a long term committed relationship with these girls. They will do a fantastic job making you feel and think that they are your girlfriends, but that ends after they leave. The time they spend with you can be amazing tho so if you want to start having days/nights like that to experience positive female companionship, then go for it. What's the worst that can happen? You're out a couple hundred bucks and get to have sex with a gorgeous girl? Not a bad risk in my mind. The fact that you're looking at sites like that and considering it should tell you that it's something you might as well try sooner instead of later so that you can stop guessing and wondering what if and know if it's something that works for you or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ZA Dater Posted March 4, 2016 Author Share Posted March 4, 2016 We'd need to know more about the site to give you an opinion. It sounds like an escort or fee for service type dating site tho, correct me if I'm wrong. Have you ever been in a relationship/had sex? The thing about sites like this is that you need to go in knowing that you're not going to end up in a long term committed relationship with these girls. They will do a fantastic job making you feel and think that they are your girlfriends, but that ends after they leave. The time they spend with you can be amazing tho so if you want to start having days/nights like that to experience positive female companionship, then go for it. What's the worst that can happen? You're out a couple hundred bucks and get to have sex with a gorgeous girl? Not a bad risk in my mind. The fact that you're looking at sites like that and considering it should tell you that it's something you might as well try sooner instead of later so that you can stop guessing and wondering what if and know if it's something that works for you or not. Its not my preferred method of dating. I have been forced to start to look at other ideas. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ZA Dater Posted March 4, 2016 Author Share Posted March 4, 2016 What sites? seekingarrangement.com Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 I am sure at least one poster here is going to laugh but came across this site the other day, in theory it seems to be a good solution for guys like me who simply cannot find anyone to go on a date with. What solution are you looking for? Is your end goal just to simply "go on a date with someone?" Because if that's the extent of it, sure, spend half a day's pay for some girl to sit at a table and pretend to like you for 90 minutes and maybe give you something extra (I'm not sure how this stuff works). But if you're looking for something meaningful and substantial, this is definitely not the way to go. My guess is you'll be just as unhappy as before, but with less money. I wouldn't call that a "good" solution, as you did. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 Sugar babes... Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 Still escorts no matter what the name. I still think you need to work on yourself and go out and work the women that you meet in real life for a real relationship. A paid for date is expensive. Eventually you will be feeling empty and so will your wallet. Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted March 5, 2016 Share Posted March 5, 2016 It is used by guys to hook up with women for sex. Men who have alot of money can either hire a girl for a longer time or a shorter time. If you want a business arrangement with nothing long term, then go for it. Having said that, I have no doubt that a few men and women have found long term happiness, but I suspect they are the exception rather than the norm. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ZA Dater Posted March 5, 2016 Author Share Posted March 5, 2016 What solution are you looking for? Is your end goal just to simply "go on a date with someone?" Because if that's the extent of it, sure, spend half a day's pay for some girl to sit at a table and pretend to like you for 90 minutes and maybe give you something extra (I'm not sure how this stuff works). But if you're looking for something meaningful and substantial, this is definitely not the way to go. My guess is you'll be just as unhappy as before, but with less money. I wouldn't call that a "good" solution, as you did. I'd like the bold but really I explored this idea simply because in the last 5 years I have maybe been on 3 dates. I am not really meeting anyone either and when I do its just there is no connection at all. The older I get the worse this problem seems to get. Link to post Share on other sites
LivTheDream Posted March 5, 2016 Share Posted March 5, 2016 Honestly if you're going to pay a girl from a site like this you might as well choose the ones where intimacy/sex is part of the deal. Why spend the money and not get any of the perks? Imo it would be more bizarre to spend money to have a new friend or go to get coffee than it would be to pay and have a fun dinner and sex after. The compliments, visible interest, and attention that you would likely get with a higher class "companion" will also probably give you a much needed positive experience interacting with a girl. Even if it's paid for, it's good to get that feeling to know what it's like. Part of you will doubt the legitimacy behind her words/actions, but you'll quickly get lost in the moment and end up having fun. The toughest part is getting up the nerve to call and schedule it. Just do it. It'll be over before you know it and you'll be fine Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted March 5, 2016 Share Posted March 5, 2016 I worked in Guam for a few months and they have "Buy me drink" bars where dudes just sit and talk with a girl as long as he keeps buying her drinks. That's it. There are prostitution/strip/"massage" places, but these places, you just sit, buy a girl a drink and talk. They didn't seem to be lacking customers. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ZA Dater Posted March 5, 2016 Author Share Posted March 5, 2016 The funny thing about this is I am getting more interest on this site than I did on any dating site..... I don't want my first time to be paid for so sex is not on the agenda at all. I'd just like some attention for once, even if it is fake but I will always know its fake so the allure of the idea is somewhat less. I'll see but so far this isn't offering what I really want. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 5, 2016 Share Posted March 5, 2016 IMO, just think of it as a different attraction milieu and enjoy the time. No one is holding a gun to your head and whatever you do is completely free will so accepting your choices, completely, and moving forward with them should bring you personal satisfaction. If not, make different choices or adjust your thought processes surrounding them. Seeking an arrangement can be today's solution. Tomorrow, who knows? Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted March 5, 2016 Share Posted March 5, 2016 If you can afford it, and you want to do that, go for it. You're aware that you're going to be paying for companionship so there will be no illusions for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Summer3 Posted March 11, 2016 Share Posted March 11, 2016 I worked in Guam for a few months and they have "Buy me drink" bars where dudes just sit and talk with a girl as long as he keeps buying her drinks. That's it. There are prostitution/strip/"massage" places, but these places, you just sit, buy a girl a drink and talk. They didn't seem to be lacking customers. I wonder how much the girls get paid for sitting, drinking and talking? Cool job. Link to post Share on other sites
WaitingForBardot Posted March 11, 2016 Share Posted March 11, 2016 I worked in Guam for a few months and they have "Buy me drink" bars where dudes just sit and talk with a girl as long as he keeps buying her drinks. That's it. There are prostitution/strip/"massage" places, but these places, you just sit, buy a girl a drink and talk. They didn't seem to be lacking customers. Hostess bars like this are quite popular in Japan as well. Very expensive though. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted March 11, 2016 Share Posted March 11, 2016 I wonder how much the girls get paid for sitting, drinking and talking? Cool job. They get a percentage of the cost of the drinks. The girls get drinks that have little or no alcohol in them so they can drink a lot of them. Even at that they usually have potted plants around so the girls can pour the drinks out into them, even without the booze all those drinks can be quite filling. I know someone who did this in Japan. It wasn't a "cool job" at all, at least not for her, she didn't enjoy spending her time sitting there with super boring guys who wanted to have sex with her just because she was a blonde American. She went over there to dance in a touring show from Vegas. She didn't know about the "hostess" requirement. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Peach Posted March 11, 2016 Share Posted March 11, 2016 OP - You might want to check out the sex forum. There are a few threads on these types of sites there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ZA Dater Posted March 18, 2016 Author Share Posted March 18, 2016 Some feedback on this. For me this has been by far the most successful medium of actually getting some people interested in me. The significant downside is the fact its all very superficial, based on purely on how much they think you will pay. I have chatted to a few people on the site and sure its nice but ultimately as someone said its very false and no matter how much I try I cannot overlook that. If you have lots of money, few morals and plenty of time I guess you could have lots of fun on a site like this. In short this idea isn't for me, I'd rather not have to pay for my first time. Link to post Share on other sites
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