I cried, i feel naked...and now i dont know how to act

[SmilingMartin]

Last night, what was supposed to be a fun night ended up being a disaster.

Last night was my friends 19th b-day, his parents were out of town and he decides to throw a party

It was just among close friends and we all decided to drink that night

My ex gf was there, but that didnt really matter because i was over her or atleast i thought i was.

We were hanging out drinking, taking shots together

I walk upstairs to the bathroom to take a pee and i see her making out with some guy.

I shrug my shoulders and pretended i didnt see it but quickly ran downstairs and took as much shots i needed

to erase the image and forget about it.

I ended being dissapointed in myself to use alchohol to get over my problems, so i ended up outside with my of my good friends, Bernard who told me everythings okay.

As soon as he said that i started to cry...i let everything out, i told him what ive been holding in for so long and everything that ive been holding just came out that night. Everyone at the party saw me cry, and im the guy who is always happy and doesnt have any problems.

 

Now i dont know how to act around my friends because of the incident. Its like i feel naked because my deepest feelings were revealed that night. My pride has also been hurt in a way, and i dont know why.

 

Any suggestions or comments?

 

Thanks-

Martin

[Merin]

Martin, you're not the first to drink to much and have an emotional moment and you won't be the last..

 

These are your Friends.. and even though you might feel wierd about what happend trust me when I say most everyone who's ever drank to much and ended up doing something they probably wouldn't have had then been sober all feel the same way you do right now.

 

Don't feel like you need to now do a lot of damage control.. again these are your friends.. if you feel you need to do/say anything, then thank your buddy for being there to listen to you, apologize if you made a scene and in the future don't drink to the point you're feeling out of control.

 

Hang in there

[HoneyWheat]

Hi Martin,

 

I'm sorry about what happened.

 

I had a dream about this kind of thing...i was cheated on betrayed...caught em in the bathroom in the dream...i was back-up girl!!! what a thrilll

 

 

and i felt naked in the dream too

 

and in the dream i had a friend to talk to but i was too upset i walked out and never came back

 

that's when i saw i was naked

 

so embarassing

 

 

very weird

 

i can relate to how you felt and people

 

its not the alchohol

 

its that he feels ashamed which is why he turned to the alchohol

 

but he didn't do anything wrong

 

that's what's weird and makes absolutely no sense

 

am i right, Martin?

[whichwayisup]

So what? Everybody knows you and your girlfriend aren't together anymore. ANYBODY who makes fun of you, or says anything negative is not your true friend to start with. They must know how much you're hurting. If you can, all you have to say is, "How would you feel if you and your girlfriend broke up and then you walked in on her with someone else? Think you'd be happy? Ha, I bet not..." and walk away.

 

Trust me on this one Martin, your friends will understand. Take the bull by the horns and just come right out and tell them, Man, I really lost it the other night didn't I? Make a joke of it - see how they respond. I bet you tons of hugs that they don't think it was as a big of a deal as you may think it is...

[CrazyAmie19]

Don't be embarassed about crying in front of your friends! It's okay to cry..holding it in isn't okay..trust me I learned that a long time ago! Holding in all your feelings just builds up to one big huge problem and then you'll just explode! Friends are there to help you through times like that!

 

Happy 19th!

[ConfusedInOC]

Martin, it's OK to cry. The advice above is pretty good.

 

Let it out. It will help you get over it.

[millefiori]

Yes, there's no need to feel embarrassed to cry when you're heartbroken and sad. I'm one of these people who hate crying when other people are there, I even feel embarrassed to cry in front of my mom, but I know it's what makes us human.