toninvb Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 What should i do if I love my girlfriend very much but it is just so hard to be with her because her famly controls her so much. I mean i dont want her to not be close to her family but she will choose them over me, she will even cancel plans with me to do something for her family i mean ive started living an adult life pretty recently and i dont feel like this is an adult relationship. Should I stay with her because i love her or should i break up with her to make myself happy. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 Shouldn't you be happy when you're in Love with someone IF you're happier without a person in your life then you are with them there, this can't be a good thing. Link to post Share on other sites
JP166 Posted June 24, 2005 Share Posted June 24, 2005 Really, how can you "love" someone who completely throws you away when their family is involved? I mean, I know love is a strong thing and is completely blinding at times. But it is also about making differences work, communication and it's all give-and take. It's about compromising. Seems to me, in as least harsh words as possible, she's doing all the taking and not giving you anything in return but the cold shoulder. Really, though, it's you that has to make the decision because none of us that reply to this knows your relationship that the two of you share. If you think your love supercedes the fact that she sometimes abandons you, then maybe you can make it through. But maybe all you need is to sit down with her and talk. That may solve a lot of things. She may not even know she's doing it. Link to post Share on other sites
browneyes22 Posted June 24, 2005 Share Posted June 24, 2005 This may be a harsh angle on things but are you sure she is spending time with her family and not someone else? If not you might want to tell her that spending so much time with her family is almost the same thing. Her motives may be varied. For instance, her family may be really dependent on her, or she may be avoiding you for some strange reason. It's probably the former. Like JP166 said, have a sit down and chat with her. Link to post Share on other sites
kinder Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 If I were you I would move on to better things. I was in your situation once and I was left on my ass. It ended up bad and the whole family has left me in the dust as well. move on you won't regret it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author toninvb Posted June 29, 2005 Author Share Posted June 29, 2005 I have sat down with her and talked about it but your right that her family does depend on her for a lot of things but since ive sat and talked with her she has made an effort to make things better so at least now i know that she just isnt blowing my feelings off completely thanks for the advice. Link to post Share on other sites
MindNumb Posted July 6, 2005 Share Posted July 6, 2005 To be able to go home because I want to...not because I have to. Link to post Share on other sites
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