Can't decide.

[futurehistory]

Move if in the wrong thread.

 

I've been with my current partner for just under 10 months now, before we got together we were really close and everything was great, even when we got together but they would always bring up my ex and I hated that, before we got together though I always thought about him up until I got with my partner. We were goin out for a month but she always wanted to get back with me and that was over 2 years ago. We would speak to each other on and off for a while but nothing relationship wise and because she wasn't doin anything to annoy me, until one time I found out she was talkin to people about me behind back so I deleted her from facebook but I didnt block her so I thought nothing more of it and all messages were ignored.my partner about a month after we were goin out found out I didn't block her and went crazy, fell out with me because I didn't block although I already deleted. A few months into goin out with my new partner,they started acting different to when we first were goin out for example alot of the time speaking and acting like a child, gets really annoyed when the dog goes up on the couch and sometimes the bed and then saying one minute they want to be with me next they don't. Don't get me wrong shes a wonderful person and so kind hearted, really would give u her last penny and would look out for u but I'm starting to feel like I'm controlled, like if the dog goes on the couch they start shouting and I just feel responsible and guilty. I say things and then it gets taken out of context.

The problem I'm having is I'm not sure I want to be with her anymore because of how different she acts and the childlike things really drives me crazy, I've spoken to her about it and she says she does it cos she feels comfortable and then I brought it up again and she said obviously u dont want me to feel comfortable with u and then went in a mood, I'm the only person she'll act like that with. I'm making her sound really bad, she really does encourage me alot and tells me how proud she is but then it feels like she can disconnect so easy.

I see my ex every week but I ignore her and have done but I don't know if I still have feelings for her after all this time, a part of me still wants her and a part of me says no. They're the opposite. She can be so tight and act selfish but there's good aswell and after all this time I shouldn't be feelin like I want to be with her. I know how much she feels about me still, even checking her Facebook and the things that gets said after all this time ( Facebooks on public). Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[13Hearts]

Facebook causes a lot of problems for couples. People see their partner interacting with others and get jealous, or fearful. It's not uncommon. One of my XBFs closed his Facebook account because of something I had a problem with when we were together (I can't remember what it was but I do know it concerned other women and the things they were saying to him on Facebook).

 

As for talking like a child when with you, why does it bother you? I've heard other couples talking like that to eachother when in love. I think it is a gentleness or something that they feel toward their mate. Would you prefer she scream and yell at you? There are much worse things that could annoy you or make you angry about someone you are in a relationship with. That she changes her demeanor around you to be childlike may be weird to some, another person might think it's cute.

 

Anyway, your post probably doesn't belong in OW/OM, but the moderators will move it for you.