stillafool Posted March 8, 2016 Share Posted March 8, 2016 I think you like this guy way more than you are letting on and he probably knows it. His friendship with your brother is more important than just having a shag with you. It would be incredibly uncomfortable for you both after it's over and I think you would be one to end up hurt because you already like him too much. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hhhhhhhhh7 Posted March 8, 2016 Author Share Posted March 8, 2016 My brother wasn't at the night out, but was aware that I went with him. He thinks this guy is a bit of a player but kind of assumes that our relationship is platonic. If he didn't want to take it any further why would he keep talking to me like nothing happened? He asked also indirectly to do something together (so where do you go dancing? I'm want a dancing partner). I didn't get back to him about seeing him for lunch the next day but now I regret it, shall I ask to meet up with him and talk about it? Shall I be really open about it and say "so what did that mean on Saturday?" Yeah maybe I do like him, but I'm not naive enough to believe he's looking for anything. I know full well that a lot of you will take this as me being "used" by him - but I've a very open view of connections between people. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Peach Posted March 18, 2016 Share Posted March 18, 2016 I guess I want some advice on how to tell him this without sounding aggression/confrontational and looking for a genuine answer; I know this guy is bad news, I'm not looking for a boyfriend. I want this guy to know that that he's talking **** and I'm not taking it You mentioned you both are poly. This doesn't sound like a man who can do poly in a healthy fashion. If you want to beat him just show the boundary calmly without wavering. Figure out what you want (friendship, him gone, etc.). If you want answers you can ask but you may not get them. INE the best way to get answer from a guy is when they know they won't hurt your feelings so if you go this route I would mention you want to know the truth and not all these excuses and that you're prepared to hear anything without getting upset. A lot of men will lie or say garbage to avoid hurting a woman's feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
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