whitetailh Posted March 6, 2016 Share Posted March 6, 2016 Hello all, first let me say that i'm the only one in this fight, and i'm not sure why, but i still believe when your in a marriage you have to be willing to work on any issue.I've been married a little over 16 years and we've been together 17. Anyways me and my wife separated around January 10th this year when she moved to her mom's. This all happened because i caught her sexting other guys on her fone, and facebook. All heck broke loose that day, and she said she wasn't in love with me anymore. Well we both let each other down in our marriage, and i do remember the thing i did wrong, and how she tried to get through to me on them, but it fell on deaf ears most of the time. At that time she wasn't talking divorce, and she stayed at her mom's until she found a place of her own at the end of January. During this whole time she asked for space, and i just could not leave her alone. I was like a baby crying for a nipple, and i know it pushed her further away. I texted her everyday. Dumb i know! She just kept telling me that she didn't know if we were ever going to be together again.. When she got her own place and moved everything out she told me it was over and didn't talk to me for a week. Then after that she told me to keep praying and she didnt know what the future may hold. Now a couple weeks ago she told me when she gets the money she's filing for divorce. Said she would have it in april. I asked why all the sudden you decide this and she said closure for the kids. Closure? I'm thinking really. Well i come to find out she met someone and is going out with this guy.I have stopped texting her since thursday. So i guess it's save to say i pushed her into his arms, or it was going to happen anyways? Is it time for me to give up on fighting for this marriage? Thanks for reading. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 6, 2016 Share Posted March 6, 2016 She was at least emotionally stepping out on your for a while. Now she is physically in another man's arms & bed. There is nothing left for you to fight for. Your only concern at this point should be getting a good lawyer & doing what's best for your children. If you are having trouble accepting her decision, consider therapy for yourself. You need to be strong for your kids. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author whitetailh Posted March 6, 2016 Author Share Posted March 6, 2016 Thanks for the reply. The kids are all grown. 2 boys and a daughter. The youngest son is mine and the other boy, and daughter are her's. We have 2 grandchildren from our daughter. She seems pretty happy now, and i guess i keep hoping she changes her mind, but i think it just might be wishful thinking. I also keep thinking maybe this was her plan all along being she didn't love me anymore, but she didn't want to hurt me IDK Link to post Share on other sites
brothers343 Posted March 6, 2016 Share Posted March 6, 2016 Im sorry for what your going through my friend. People get complacent with each other and after a while that thing that brought you guys together starts to fade away. It's a good thing that your kids are grown up and probably able to understand whats going on. It seems that the road to your marriege is the separation one. You need to let her go and you need to reboot yourself and your life. Think of the things you did wrong and the things that got you here and throw them away or burn them in your mind. You need to focus on you and how you get better.....physically and most importantly mentally. Life goes on and you must follow that process. In time something new will come. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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