solo mom- kids- safety

[ddf44]

I am a solo working mom of two, one is three year old and the other one is 5. It is tough to manage both children and office. I have hired a maid but I am not really sure of how she takes care of my children when I am not home. One of my friend asked me to install cctv camera surveillance system for a better assurance and safe. What other measure do you take to for the welfare your children when you are at the office apart installing cameras? Are keeping maids safe?

Edited March 6, 2016 by ddf44

[Tayla]

You're keeping a maid hostage? Well umm.... send her over to my place! It needs a good cleaning.

 

Consider a day care. the staff is held to higher standards.

[preraph]

You should invest in a system like was suggested to you, one you can check from your smartphone or computer at work. It's probably $500 or something like that, but it's peace of mind. Humans are humans. They sneak around and do things when you're not around. They sneak in boyfriends or get absorbed in a soap opera. Put up hidden cameras. They're easy to hide these days. Don't let her know. You'll soon find out if she's good or not.

[anika99]

Play close attention to your kids for any out of the ordinary behavior or moods, pay attention to what they say.

 

I think at their ages they would be better off in a daycare. Not just for safety purposes but also for their personal development. Daycares give kids early lessons in socializing, resolving conflict and learning autonomy. Also a good day care will sometimes give kids a head start academically as well. They teach the kids songs, letters, and numbers through fun activities.

[Miss Peach]

Play close attention to your kids for any out of the ordinary behavior or moods, pay attention to what they say.

 

I think at their ages they would be better off in a daycare. Not just for safety purposes but also for their personal development. Daycares give kids early lessons in socializing, resolving conflict and learning autonomy. Also a good day care will sometimes give kids a head start academically as well. They teach the kids songs, letters, and numbers through fun activities.

 

Often daycare for two kids is a lot more than hiring a nanny.

 

OP - It's up to you how comfortable you feel with the person you hired and how much surveillance you want to do. Generally I have always used either relatives or group care (i.e., day care, camps, etc.) so it wasn't an issue.

 

Since the oldest kid is 5, are you able to enroll him'her in Kindergarten? Many also have before/after school programs. In my area they are free but you have to enroll early to get a spot. You might also be able to put your kid in a public preschool when the younger one turns 4. Again you would often have access to before/after school care for free.

 

I'm not a believer kids have to be in groups of kids to learn to be social, etc. It depends on how much you are able to take that on, what types of activities are planned, etc. Some kids don't like or do well in larger groups. I will say that mine improved a lot in language skills but I saw other things regress like their ability to eat healthy foods (since there is a lot of processed and junk food in these places).

Edited March 7, 2016 by Miss Peach

[GunslingerRoland]

Maybe it's a regional terminology thing though, but I've never heard a nanny referred to as a maid before... to me a maid is just someone who comes in and cleans...

 

Also is she live in? Nice thing with live ins, is that you get to see more of them when you are at home, and can better judge their character.

 

You're keeping a maid hostage? Well umm.... send her over to my place! It needs a good cleaning.

 

Consider a day care. the staff is held to higher standards.

 

I'm not sure I'd agree with that, typically nannies give better care than a daycare does.