Beyond me

[KARI223]

I really need help with this because I'm at my breaking point. A little over a week ago I met this guy and we hit it off. He got my number and we talked all day everyday, about everything. I've been hurt and treated really bad in the past so I kept my guard up even though he's liked me since he first saw me. He would ask me to hang out and I would say no, but we continued to talk. 2 days ago we hung out for the first time one on one and it was so great. We talked about everything and even though we are opposites, we click. It was an instant connection. He didn't grow up the same way I did. Different beliefs. But I've never felt instant chemistry like that with anyone. All we did was eat and talk... He texted me the next day and said he wanted to see me. He's in the army so I ended up going to his base in the barracks and I hung out with him where he lives. His apartment thing is very little, he literally only has a bed and a TV and a tiny kitchen he shares with someone. So there wasn't a lot to do. We sat in his bed and watched TV, talked about life. He knew I didn't want to do anything sexual because I told him I wasn't like that and I really didn't want someone to use me like that again. So he never tried anything, but once we kissed I let everything happen. We hooked up without having sex. I felt like he was so much more experienced than I was. After it was over he told me he wanted to date me, that he could see himself with me for a long time. He always takes care of me when we're together. I told him I didn't want to be his girlfriend just yet, that there was a lot we still needed to work out. I was worried maybe he only used me to hook up but he talked to me right after I left like he always does and into the night. I knew he was going to drink with his friends so I wasn't worried when he didn't text me back last night after we talked for a little while. Imean everything was normal and he assured me that we were going to be just fine.

However we made plans for him to come to church with me today and even talked about it before I left his place.

I wasn't mad this morning when he didn't wake up for it or come. But it's been all day and I haven't heard anything from him. I usually hear from him no later than 10 in the morning. It's 7 at night and not a word.

He's shared posts on facebook today. Not posted anything but shared things, so I know he's been on. I've texted him twice to see if he's ok but this has never happened. I was going to call but I thought that would be even more clingy even though we talk on the phone often. I still feel like 2 texts is clingy but I don't know why he would just ignore me out of nowhere.

I feel like if things weren't ok he wouldn't have texted me like normal after I left. Or even asked to date me after it was all over.

I can't understand the silence today when he knows I can see his Facebook and he knows I'm trying to check on him. I can't understand his behavior because he's wanting to date me so bad.

What do you think I should do or can anyone think of a reason why he would be silent to me today but still post on Facebook? I need help because I went into this with my guard up and the more I got to know him and the more he told me to trust him because he wanted things to work with me, the more I began to like him and my heart is hurting right now. I don't want to go through this pain again, I just want to know what's going on. Like why would he ask me to be his girlfriend and then not talk to me today? Please help me.

[preraph]

Gosh, it could be most anything. If you can tell he was online, then there's no excuse for standing you up. Was he so trashed he may have forgotten the conversation? Even if so, he should have responded to texts if he is online anyway.

 

Maybe he had second thoughts and decided he didn't want to be patient with you and wait and all that. That's all i can think of. And he ghosted. All I know is he stood you up after getting sex. And yes, just because it's not intercourse doesn't mean it isn't sex. Foreplay is even more intimate in many ways. So he got sex, sweet talked you, and then ghosted on you. You could hear from him for a booty call, but since he stood you up, you should blow him off now.