Fresh start tomorrow [UPDATE]

[sorano]

I understand what your saying. I was always the gentleman. The nice guy. The person who would go above and beyond for a person. I'm very giving, I'm very caring and I try to be the best person everyday and help others out.

 

I did what you said. I told her I will always love you, your smile and heart will radiate forever inmy life. I did. I did not bad mouth her. I prayed for her and asked god to fill her heart with love.

 

You know how she reacted? She didn't care one bit and made pretend she ever knew me. She didn't care at all. As if we never went out.

 

So you know what? I have every right to be angry now and say what I have said.

 

I am sorry that you went through what you did. You sound like a very strong and caring person. Each breakup ends differently. Each person is different. If you met my ex, and what she said , how she handled this and ehat she did, you. Would wish even more bad things. But I will continue praying.

 

Your words are inspiring and make sense. I know. I just don't feel that way with this person.

 

I'm old school italian. Reside in New York. I'm from a little town south of Rome where we help each other out, work hard, are very loyal people. We respect each other and are humble. We don't say things if we don't mean it and when we give you out word, it's a done deal. Respect and loyalty. Having morals. I don't act like some of these zombies and heartless people you see.

 

When you do me wrong, and I still come back with love, and you don't care or have no heart and don't want to hear it? Suffer. I will still pray for you. But suffer in a way so you can learn what you did wrong.

 

This is what's working for me. We all have different ways in coping. Right now I am not letting this best me to the ground anymore and I am taking charge. She ruined my life.

 

Yea we both lost. We both lost each other. But, how she spoke after, and seeing she didn't care? I won. I won bc I will make myself into a better man and take this negative energy for fuel.

[Murek]

Your absolutely correct in how your handling this.

 

But take what I say with a grain of salt as you're already doing.

I understand where your coming from, and what your going through.

 

Ah! but do not worry my friend my life is wonderful filled with ups and downs and fortunately I love it. You're on the right steps to moving forward with your life which is a fantastic viewpoint.

 

My sole point is do not let anger mould you into the person you become in the future that is all.

[Emaize3]

Sorano, I'm 5 weeks post bu and just suffering. I like the positive thoughts you are having. If you don't mind me asking, how long have you been broken up now? I feel like my ex lied to me too. Just up and gone. No closure and he won't let me get closure. I'm just getting worse, not better.

[Murek]

Sorano, I'm 5 weeks post bu and just suffering. I like the positive thoughts you are having. If you don't mind me asking, how long have you been broken up now? I feel like my ex lied to me too. Just up and gone. No closure and he won't let me get closure. I'm just getting worse, not better.

 

 

Closure comes from within. Literally nothing from what they say will really make you feel better. Think about it my friend, if you got so the called closure you wanted would you truly feel better?

[sorano]

Your absolutely correct in how your handling this.

 

But take what I say with a grain of salt as you're already doing.

I understand where your coming from, and what your going through.

 

Ah! but do not worry my friend my life is wonderful filled with ups and downs and fortunately I love it. You're on the right steps to moving forward with your life which is a fantastic viewpoint.

 

My sole point is do not let anger mould you into the person you become in the future that is all.

 

Totally agree. I try to put my anger into other things now. I actually prayed for her and asked god, to fill her heart with love. To also fill my heart with love as well.

 

what bothers me is, how can a woman, change her mind in two weeks! I am baffled. You take me to important places, invite me to your nieces baptism, meet the whole family, everything....... you name it!! Then just leave?

 

I had so many things planned out this year. so many activities, vacation, etc. murek, you seem very smart and experienced with this. any answers??

[sorano]

Sorano, I'm 5 weeks post bu and just suffering. I like the positive thoughts you are having. If you don't mind me asking, how long have you been broken up now? I feel like my ex lied to me too. Just up and gone. No closure and he won't let me get closure. I'm just getting worse, not better.

 

I am also 5 weeks just like you. Its not that long. I know how you feel and what you are going through. Many of us on this forum are. like murek said, closure does come from within. No matter what they say, it still won't be good enough for you. Then you start to think of ways on how you could have changed, or said something different, its crazy. You have to some how come to terms, its over. Its hard. I know.

 

It is/was getting worse for me. I am going to bars every weekend and drinking. I don't drink. I hate alcohol. Its not the right way to do things I know. But it kept me sane. I am now changing and going back to my original ways before I met my ex.

 

we are setting up my nephews baptism ok. My brother is talking about it as we speak. I am going to be the god father. Do you have any idea how much it hurts that she is not there to witness this? To be there with me and my family? After all that **** she said, shes gone.....Ghost. Dropped me like a bad habit. why? I still have no clue!!!!

 

My brother trusted her, with his first new born kid. we all trusted her. This woman, held his child. Now she pulls this off. Ruined my life, dragged me along, and made my family believe her lies as well.

 

I was promised a family. Kids, house, we looked at wedding rings, she made herself at home in my house and with my family. Every single damn person believed her. They all said.....OMG. alex is getting married!!! Im 34. I was ready. I was putting my big boy pants on and getting ready to start a new chapter in my life. Those pages, were torn 5 weeks ago and she burned them.

 

Now this may sound mean, or maybe not the right way, or totally stupid. But hey, whatever works right??? If I am not hurting anyone, big deal. so how did I just change? Like I stated before, I am taking this hate, pain, suffering, the feeling of betrayal, this sickness, depression, and using it as my fuel. Just like putting race gas in a racing car.

 

some may agree and some don't. I understand mureks point of view. 100% But with this fuel, I am going to get a better job. I want to make more money. excel myself and do better. Get back my body that I had last year. I was a body builder. But I never showed off. I always covered up. This time? call me a guido, call me a douchebag, I am going to show off what I worked hard for. And I hope I see her in public. Dress better, look better, and have a great career. Buy a house. Those are my goals. I want to show her that I am a better person and doing better without her. I don't need her and I hope I am going to get there and make sure that I WILL BE BETTER THAN HER. Its almost like throwing it back in her face. But in a nice way. Humble. some agree some dont. But this is my fuel. This is what is making me get back on the horse.

 

I am NOT going to let another person bring me down and make me stay inside my room crying and feeling sorry for myself. No more. I do NOT deserve a person like her. I deserve better bc I am a better person. No more putting her above me or anyone else. Its about me now. Its all me. I need to take care of myself. I am not going to let anyone beat me anymore.

 

I take after my grand father and my father. we are straight shooters. No bs, no games, we don't like people blowing smoke up our ass. You show respect, we show respect back. we do NOT LIE, or tell people what they want to hear. we are straight, serious, no bs men. You come to me, lie, get my hopes up, and leave me and drop me? made me believe how bad your past was and how you were happy that you went through all those guys bc THEY BROUGHT YOU TO ME???? F OUTTA HERE. "oh but thats what I was feeling at the moment. people change there minds it happens." YOU CHANGED YOUR MIND IN TWO WEEKS? Get outta here with that ****.

 

Do not let anyone bring you down and make you feel like crap. Yes, grieve, take in the pain and accept it. let it out. cry. But after a while, put your foot down and just take control and say, ENOUGH, STOP! I GOT THIS. There nothing special. They breathe like you, bleed like you, and they get buried 6 ft underground in a coffin just like you. say a few prayers and make it happen.

[kztar]

Sorano im with you. Whenever people are speaking and getting into a relationship, they REALLY need to evaluate who they are getting in this relationship with. Some of us have CULTURAL values that are very important to us in a relationship. With that being said, my EX was the only man that ever came to my house. If you ever MEET MY FAMILY, attend family events, I assume that this is serious. You don't just DO THESE things when you are just dating for dating. In other words, when you are committing yourself to someone you need to know who your'e committing to because some of us take some of this serious.

I do not wish my ex bad but I also don't wish him well. There's no reason why I've been through hell and back to sit there and WISH someone well when thanks to them I have not been well myself. SORRY not happening. I don't cherish the good times because the bad outweighs it all.

Sorry I will not sit here and make pretend something im not. You've hurt me, ill get over it but and forgive but NEVER forget. EVER EVER EVER.

[kztar]

I am also 5 weeks just like you. Its not that long. I know how you feel and what you are going through. Many of us on this forum are. like murek said, closure does come from within. No matter what they say, it still won't be good enough for you. Then you start to think of ways on how you could have changed, or said something different, its crazy. You have to some how come to terms, its over. Its hard. I know.

 

It is/was getting worse for me. I am going to bars every weekend and drinking. I don't drink. I hate alcohol. Its not the right way to do things I know. But it kept me sane. I am now changing and going back to my original ways before I met my ex.

 

we are setting up my nephews baptism ok. My brother is talking about it as we speak. I am going to be the god father. Do you have any idea how much it hurts that she is not there to witness this? To be there with me and my family? After all that **** she said, shes gone.....Ghost. Dropped me like a bad habit. why? I still have no clue!!!!

 

My brother trusted her, with his first new born kid. we all trusted her. This woman, held his child. Now she pulls this off. Ruined my life, dragged me along, and made my family believe her lies as well.

 

I was promised a family. Kids, house, we looked at wedding rings, she made herself at home in my house and with my family. Every single damn person believed her. They all said.....OMG. alex is getting married!!! Im 34. I was ready. I was putting my big boy pants on and getting ready to start a new chapter in my life. Those pages, were torn 5 weeks ago and she burned them.

 

Now this may sound mean, or maybe not the right way, or totally stupid. But hey, whatever works right??? If I am not hurting anyone, big deal. so how did I just change? Like I stated before, I am taking this hate, pain, suffering, the feeling of betrayal, this sickness, depression, and using it as my fuel. Just like putting race gas in a racing car.

 

some may agree and some don't. I understand mureks point of view. 100% But with this fuel, I am going to get a better job. I want to make more money. excel myself and do better. Get back my body that I had last year. I was a body builder. But I never showed off. I always covered up. This time? call me a guido, call me a douchebag, I am going to show off what I worked hard for. And I hope I see her in public. Dress better, look better, and have a great career. Buy a house. Those are my goals. I want to show her that I am a better person and doing better without her. I don't need her and I hope I am going to get there and make sure that I WILL BE BETTER THAN HER. Its almost like throwing it back in her face. But in a nice way. Humble. some agree some dont. But this is my fuel. This is what is making me get back on the horse.

 

I am NOT going to let another person bring me down and make me stay inside my room crying and feeling sorry for myself. No more. I do NOT deserve a person like her. I deserve better bc I am a better person. No more putting her above me or anyone else. Its about me now. Its all me. I need to take care of myself. I am not going to let anyone beat me anymore.

 

I take after my grand father and my father. we are straight shooters. No bs, no games, we don't like people blowing smoke up our ass. You show respect, we show respect back. we do NOT LIE, or tell people what they want to hear. we are straight, serious, no bs men. You come to me, lie, get my hopes up, and leave me and drop me? made me believe how bad your past was and how you were happy that you went through all those guys bc THEY BROUGHT YOU TO ME???? F OUTTA HERE. "oh but thats what I was feeling at the moment. people change there minds it happens." YOU CHANGED YOUR MIND IN TWO WEEKS? Get outta here with that ****.

 

Do not let anyone bring you down and make you feel like crap. Yes, grieve, take in the pain and accept it. let it out. cry. But after a while, put your foot down and just take control and say, ENOUGH, STOP! I GOT THIS. There nothing special. They breathe like you, bleed like you, and they get buried 6 ft underground in a coffin just like you. say a few prayers and make it happen.

 

AGREEEEE 10000000000000%

 

But the other thing is feelings change with time. Why Bullshiit and not bring things up as they are happening instead of allowing those feelings to change?.

[sorano]

Sorano im with you. Whenever people are speaking and getting into a relationship, they REALLY need to evaluate who they are getting in this relationship with. Some of us have CULTURAL values that are very important to us in a relationship. With that being said, my EX was the only man that ever came to my house. If you ever MEET MY FAMILY, attend family events, I assume that this is serious. You don't just DO THESE things when you are just dating for dating. In other words, when you are committing yourself to someone you need to know who your'e committing to because some of us take some of this serious.

I do not wish my ex bad but I also don't wish him well. There's no reason why I've been through hell and back to sit there and WISH someone well when thanks to them I have not been well myself. SORRY not happening. I don't cherish the good times because the bad outweighs it all.

Sorry I will not sit here and make pretend something im not. You've hurt me, ill get over it but and forgive but NEVER forget. EVER EVER EVER.

 

Ding ding ding!!!! SPOT ON!!! Let me touch on that bc WE, you and I know and share the same beliefs.

 

You probably read all my other posts and threads. But I will repeat it. so people know.

 

My EX CRIED AND CRIED. she said the word girl friend brought her back to bad places. Guy hit her, another guy cheated on her, and all the rest just treated her like ****. SHE MADE THE BIGGEST DEAL!!!! Alex omg, alex, men these days, oh man where are the gentleman!!!! I broke that wall down and made her say SHE IS MY GF. I did it. I accomplished that. which was huge!!

 

Accomplishment number two. Meeting the family. Made a HUGE HUGE HUGE deal on how family is important. she was sicilian. same values as italian right? You preached and preached about family and how NO man or a regular man met your parents and family because it was a huuuuuuuge deal. Her parents told her, when are we going to meet this alex boy. SHE WAS BRAGGING TO HER PARENTS HOW NICE OF A GUY I WAS. bragging!!!! I broke that wall down and met them. Her uncle, even told her, I WANT TO ADOPT ALEX ( ME) HE IS THE BEST!!!! Everyone loved me

 

Huge family parties I would walk around and shake hands and kiss every single one of her family members. One person said out loud, look at this gentleman, shaking and saying bye to everyone. Her great aunt said.......HES A MAN WITH RESPECT. HES ITALIAN. He was raised right.

 

I met her friends, they all approved. They texted her and approved and said when is alex getting you the wedding ring.

 

I broke all the walls down, listened to her stories, hugging her when she cried...........I broke it all down. I thought I was IN...... SHE SAID TO ME, I was the best man. SHE INVITED ME, to her nieces baptism which leaps and bounds for HER.......

 

Now she left me. Dropped me and left me to the curb with my heart open and bleeding. WTF KIND OF **** IS THAT. Heartless human being.

 

I will light a candle for her, say a prayer and hopefully god will remove any type of issues, problems or evil that is in her soul. Like you, I do not wish them harm BUT I DO NOT WISH THEM WELL. Not a flying **** is given

[sorano]

AGREEEEE 10000000000000%

 

But the other thing is feelings change with time. Why Bullshiit and not bring things up as they are happening instead of allowing those feelings to change?.

 

oh she tried to explain herself on why she wasn't happy. Thats a whole different story I have and wild. It went well, we tried to progress. But I wasnt satisfied and I said well we have to talk now. I told her, at times, you say mean and unfiltered things. you say stupid ****. which is true and I was right. come to think of it, I never felt any love back. I was at 10 and she was at a 6 with me. so that right there, throws off the relationship. I got flustered after a while and went off and said you say mean and stupid things. That was the second arguement and she left me. so when I say two weeks, she was happy happy happy!!!! Then hated me, made up all this ****, had a talk, had the second talk and she left. all within two weeks. sick in the head.

[sorano]

On that note I will return. Its gym time. I am going to eat the weights up

[Murek]

Totally agree. I try to put my anger into other things now. I actually prayed for her and asked god, to fill her heart with love. To also fill my heart with love as well.

 

what bothers me is, how can a woman, change her mind in two weeks! I am baffled. You take me to important places, invite me to your nieces baptism, meet the whole family, everything....... you name it!! Then just leave?

 

I had so many things planned out this year. so many activities, vacation, etc. murek, you seem very smart and experienced with this. any answers??

 

While I get the "your very smart" very often, Its simply something that I don't truly believe. Funny thing is, I'm just a small water droplet in comparison to lets say what you are in terms of experience - I am at a ripe ol' age of 20. I've just unfortunately gone through far to much in my short existence. Any whom!

 

Let me tell you something, people will do things that will continue to shock, awe and crush you with the most irrational, ill-planned, emotional filled decisions in a span of milli-seconds and stand at with more bravado than a ww2 Japanese solider defending Iwo-Jima.

 

Point being, my ex told me a day before she loved me, a week before i was perfect, after the breakup admitted to being in love, still loving me etc. However, actions speak louder than words - and it is not what you say but rather what you do which is truly a reflection of ones.. self.

 

At the end of the day, this is all speculation to guess what she truly meant or even what the **** she did, nobody knows but her and its savage. Which is why I say, its her loss for not noticing what you bring the table.

 

Women, girls - men, boys. We're all mixed up.. nobody knows what the **** their doing, or truly why most of the time.

 

Patience is of virtue my friend, and with that maybe one day you will find out - maybe you never will, but it doesn't matter if you do or do not for what has happened has already occurred and it is a matter of the past now.

 

Wipe the table clean, own up to your mistakes realise that nobody is perfect. People are idiotic when it comes to emotions, and will react irrationally with emotional filled decisions which can lead to a self destructive path. Today, you're a new man if sometime in the future she comes back then and only then it is time to deal with it, but for now focus on yourself, enjoy your new found life for it is so much better to realise how much you truly are worth - than to settle for something less than what you believed was so much before.

 

Do not worry about wither she meant what she said or not for it is not the time or place to figure this out any more.

[Emaize3]

Sorano, I understand the whole family thing. I'm Italian too and he knew my whole family. Everyday is an adjustment because he was part of my life and now gone. My family loved him and thought he was great and he faked everyone, just like your girl. He won't even respond to me now. So, yes I have to forget closure from him. I'm trying really hard to be positive like you but it sucks. I have lost 20 lbs., - 9 since before the breakup. So, hopefully my new body will make me more confident.

[sorano]

While I get the "your very smart" very often, Its simply something that I don't truly believe. Funny thing is, I'm just a small water droplet in comparison to lets say what you are in terms of experience - I am at a ripe ol' age of 20. I've just unfortunately gone through far to much in my short existence. Any whom!

 

Let me tell you something, people will do things that will continue to shock, awe and crush you with the most irrational, ill-planned, emotional filled decisions in a span of milli-seconds and stand at with more bravado than a ww2 Japanese solider defending Iwo-Jima.

 

Point being, my ex told me a day before she loved me, a week before i was perfect, after the breakup admitted to being in love, still loving me etc. However, actions speak louder than words - and it is not what you say but rather what you do which is truly a reflection of ones.. self.

 

At the end of the day, this is all speculation to guess what she truly meant or even what the **** she did, nobody knows but her and its savage. Which is why I say, its her loss for not noticing what you bring the table.

 

Women, girls - men, boys. We're all mixed up.. nobody knows what the **** their doing, or truly why most of the time.

 

Patience is of virtue my friend, and with that maybe one day you will find out - maybe you never will, but it doesn't matter if you do or do not for what has happened has already occurred and it is a matter of the past now.

 

Wipe the table clean, own up to your mistakes realise that nobody is perfect. People are idiotic when it comes to emotions, and will react irrationally with emotional filled decisions which can lead to a self destructive path. Today, you're a new man if sometime in the future she comes back then and only then it is time to deal with it, but for now focus on yourself, enjoy your new found life for it is so much better to realise how much you truly are worth - than to settle for something less than what you believed was so much before.

 

Do not worry about wither she meant what she said or not for it is not the time or place to figure this out any more.

 

I honestly applaud you. Your answers are always precise and spot on. I will take your advice and learn from this. I am sure I was at fault to at one point. No one is perfect.

 

I will enjoy my new found life like you said. Knowing my ex, and I wish you did know her to see wht I am talking about hahaha, she will never return. she was alpha female. I never meet a woman like her ever. Im 34. she will never come back and I will just keep pushing and make myself into a better person.

[sorano]

Sorano, I understand the whole family thing. I'm Italian too and he knew my whole family. Everyday is an adjustment because he was part of my life and now gone. My family loved him and thought he was great and he faked everyone, just like your girl. He won't even respond to me now. So, yes I have to forget closure from him. I'm trying really hard to be positive like you but it sucks. I have lost 20 lbs., - 9 since before the breakup. So, hopefully my new body will make me more confident.

 

I feel your pain. Its very difficult to get over. My ex was was everything to me. Her family adored me. as my family did with her. she used to make home made pasta with my mom sunday mornings. she would eat with us every sunday, our sunday dinner at 1pm. 5pm we would be at her parents house, also eating another sunday dinner.

 

The weekend was ours. Now? The weekends feel empty, lonely, and sad. I still have trouble with weekends. Im sure you do to. But you have to be strong. Fight the urge to contact him, know that it will get better, and focus on you only.

 

Im glad you are working on your physique. Trust me, a new body, even new clothing or hair style, will make you more confident. That's the key right now. confidence, being happy again and living a normal life. It won't be easy.

[Emaize3]

Thank you. I'm really going to try. I'm so sorry for all your pain too. It's the worst kind of pain there is- to feel abandoned.

[sorano]

I appreciate that very much. we are all in the same boat. we were just left out in the cold. some with no answers, leaving us in awe. Right now I got my friends, the gym, my hobbies, my mustang, my new life, new start, and yes, I wear my rosary beads everywhere I go now. They are on. I pray at night and go to bed. I have no idea if anyone out there in the heavens listen, if its real, I dont know. But you do have to believe in something, and believe it or not, it helps. whatever helps you get through this, do it. as long as your not hurting yourself or others.

[Emaize3]

Maybe I need to get my rosary beads too. I tried praying but am angry. I've prayed so hard for the right guy to come along (I'm a little older than you) after so many failed relationships. Then I met my ex and he was the dream man I had asked for. How do you continue to have faith? I feel like even God let me down. Any thoughts on that?

[Murek]

"if this is real it should last us for an entirety"

 

I mentioned this earlier, I struggled with depression for 2+ years easy. Months ago I was in the worse stage of it as well, Dumped, in the hospital for a fever that could have potentially killed me, broke, remorseful, feeling like crap that I can't give my ex at the time what she deserves can't take her out, I couldn't do jack **** in the reality of it. Found my job absolutely draining, massive back injury ( muscularity wise ) - the **** list goes right on. Guess what? she dumped me, for reasons I don't believe but it no longer matters. School, pressure.. who knows I've been given numerous reasons all half assed, all half assed "move on, dont wait for me, talk to me in a couple months etc, i still love you, I'm in love with you. I miss you etc." Thing is she left me at the worst portion of my life, after she found out I had depression there was no offer in help from her end. I put aside my feelings to help her through her own pain, I get pushed aside.

 

"I love you in person, made that the clearest. I know I'm busy, but not to busy for you. If I set the table I always set it for two and if I make a promise I'm always seeing it through."

 

I'm not angry, I literally have no feelings other than regret that's it. You both need to realise that your ex if they truly loved and cared for you, they would be there for you through thick and thin. You both deserve someone who will be there despite the bull**** you pull. You deserve someone who you can say you hate them and they'll look at you with a goofy smile and say " I hate you too ". Its self worth, you both have it but its clouded right now. Don't go out and shout and scream about their name and how badly they treated you - all that **** has come and gone. Wipe the table clean.

 

Love yourself, treat yourself with dignity - because the only person who is going to be there for you through absolutely anything is YOU. Do not hold yourself hostage from what ifs, and's or buts. Release yourself from this.

 

We all make mistakes, own up to them. Learn, grow, and one day someone will come along and show you what the true definition of love really is.

 

Sincerely, a love that was never meant to be.

[sorano]

Maybe I need to get my rosary beads too. I tried praying but am angry. I've prayed so hard for the right guy to come along (I'm a little older than you) after so many failed relationships. Then I met my ex and he was the dream man I had asked for. How do you continue to have faith? I feel like even God let me down. Any thoughts on that?

 

I was single for a very long time. I could not find anyone. I prayed. Then I met my ex. same as you, I thought she was the one. I was so happy. Everything was falling into place, I was back out dating, I wasn't single anymore, and that talk came up. FAMILY. I was so excited.

 

I did so much for her and put 101% in that relationship. I went ALL OUT. But, if she really did love me or had any feelings, she would have stayed. Facing the thought that she wasn't meant to be, is hard. In our mind, our ex's are still the ones for us, even though they did wrong and in some way weren't compatible. This is the hard part.

 

I think god put these people in our lives for a reason. chance at love, or maybe change us? teach us something? I don't know. The first two weeks I was praying all hateful things on my ex. I wished karma on her, I prayed that she would suffer, etc. Now I pray to god to heal me. I am using prayer not for her, but for me. so it makes it better. I did say one for her, bc she needs it. she needs it more than me.

[sorano]

"if this is real it should last us for an entirety"

 

I mentioned this earlier, I struggled with depression for 2+ years easy. Months ago I was in the worse stage of it as well, Dumped, in the hospital for a fever that could have potentially killed me, broke, remorseful, feeling like crap that I can't give my ex at the time what she deserves can't take her out, I couldn't do jack **** in the reality of it. Found my job absolutely draining, massive back injury ( muscularity wise ) - the **** list goes right on. Guess what? she dumped me, for reasons I don't believe but it no longer matters. School, pressure.. who knows I've been given numerous reasons all half assed, all half assed "move on, dont wait for me, talk to me in a couple months etc, i still love you, I'm in love with you. I miss you etc." Thing is she left me at the worst portion of my life, after she found out I had depression there was no offer in help from her end. I put aside my feelings to help her through her own pain, I get pushed aside.

 

"I love you in person, made that the clearest. I know I'm busy, but not to busy for you. If I set the table I always set it for two and if I make a promise I'm always seeing it through."

 

I'm not angry, I literally have no feelings other than regret that's it. You both need to realise that your ex if they truly loved and cared for you, they would be there for you through thick and thin. You both deserve someone who will be there despite the bull**** you pull. You deserve someone who you can say you hate them and they'll look at you with a goofy smile and say " I hate you too ". Its self worth, you both have it but its clouded right now. Don't go out and shout and scream about their name and how badly they treated you - all that **** has come and gone. Wipe the table clean.

 

Love yourself, treat yourself with dignity - because the only person who is going to be there for you through absolutely anything is YOU. Do not hold yourself hostage from what ifs, and's or buts. Release yourself from this.

 

We all make mistakes, own up to them. Learn, grow, and one day someone will come along and show you what the true definition of love really is.

 

Sincerely, a love that was never meant to be.

 

100% In our minds, we think our ex's were IT. But like you said, one will come into our lives and show us what love really is. we haven't found it yet

[Emaize3]

That does help me Sorano, knowing that you prayed too. However, my ex was the best man I ever had! Very healthy happy relationship. I know he's great. Great family, job, friends. Apparently, my son scared him away. Very upsetting to lose my Prince Charming. Believe me, I finally DID find him.. And I have to let him go. I'll never find that again. It's probably impossible

[sorano]

That does help me Sorano, knowing that you prayed too. However, my ex was the best man I ever had! Very healthy happy relationship. I know he's great. Great family, job, friends. Apparently, my son scared him away. Very upsetting to lose my Prince Charming. Believe me, I finally DID find him.. And I have to let him go. I'll never find that again. It's probably impossible

 

I don't know what happened and how you guys split. can you give a brief story on what happened? Id like to know and maybe we can learn something from each other.

[Emaize3]

I original post is called "so much pain". Let me know if you can't find it and I'll write my story again

[kztar]

Ding dong. Same thing happened to me. I was single for four years although living my life to the fullest. Yet I was hoping to meet someone special one day and I thought he was IT. And he was the IT that o didn't want to bump into. I know these people come into our lives for a reason but to me, this is just unnecessary pain. I don't need it to grow or learn more, I don't care what so ever. I wish God just stops placing all these idiots in my life and just sending me the one. I'm tired of hurting over people who are not worthy. Maybe it's just me. I look back at my exes and I feel like they really didn't teach me crap. They taught me that love is non existent these days, very rare for some. Other than that, what I want in a person has not changed. I don't get why daring has to be so difficult.