Metal_Muffin Posted March 8, 2016 Share Posted March 8, 2016 I want to start this off because I feel so consumed by all this and I have no one I can talk to about this! I'm married to a phenomenal man.. Who loves me! I've never been attracted to anyone else or thought about ever having a affair. I met someone at work who I worked with for a year before anything happened.. It's insane how similar we are and we had a total understanding of the other.. It became that I couldn't ignore the tension between us.. It was electric but we didn't act on it. We started talking about us.. Both agreed nothing could ever happen because of me being married and we didn't want to cause anyone any pain. Long story short.. We started having a affair.. I feel very strongly for him but we also could never work due to cultural differences.. Backgrounds.. All of it! He's since moved away.. And it's killing me. We agreed we aren't willing to not be in each other's life's as we just have too much of a connection and friends is better then nothing.. We've both helped each other a lot with various issues. We are talking a lot and we both want to make it work but I have become so anxious since he's gone.. I have no one to own this with.. I can't explain it to anyone.. I'm gutted.. It breaks my heart that I can't see him.. I never thought it possible to love two people.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted March 8, 2016 Share Posted March 8, 2016 Honestly this sounds like decision time. Keeping a friendship with this man, while staying married to your husband does not sound sustainable. The OM moving away is a great opportunity to cut things off with him if you want to move forward with your life. Affairs..... Are fantasy land. You haven't had to live with, pick up the socks of your other man etc, and like you said, for cultural reasons you can't be a couple. My advice? Rip the bandaid clean off, break it off with him. No more contact. The distance will make it easier, and time heals. Trying to keep a friendship with your secret lover isn't going to work. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Noideanow Posted March 8, 2016 Share Posted March 8, 2016 "ffair.. I feel very strongly for him but we also could never work due to cultural differences.. Backgrounds.. All of it!" where do you get this kind of thinking from? how do you know it could never work? they say love conquors all:) but if you really mean it i guess he did a very wise thing:( Link to post Share on other sites
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