GOSSMAN Posted June 14, 2005 Share Posted June 14, 2005 My girlfriend broke up with me 9 days ago. We were together for 2 years and she said that the feeling just faded towards the end. She said we are perfect together and wouldnt be suprised if we got back together in a couple of years when we finish uni. I'm not waiting for that but do you think that there is anyway I can get her back? Link to post Share on other sites
willduggan Posted June 14, 2005 Share Posted June 14, 2005 well the way its going to work is its got to be her decision, you cant push her, and the more you push the more she will run. so your best bet is to act happy, enjoy your freedom, and stay busy, but be emotionally supportive of her decision. try your best not to beg if you can, begging looks really bad. i promise she is second guessing her choice in her head, she does think about you, havent faded. so you have to master being patient. she will come looking in a while i promise. when that happens, come off looking like a million bucks:) Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted June 14, 2005 Share Posted June 14, 2005 Hey GO$$MAN, Do you ever listen to people's advice? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?threadid=64608 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?threadid=64511 Regards, Hopeless Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted June 14, 2005 Share Posted June 14, 2005 Originally posted by GO$$MAN My girlfriend broke up with me 9 days ago. We were together for 2 years and she said that the feeling just faded towards the end. She said we are perfect together and wouldnt be suprised if we got back together in a couple of years when we finish uni. I'm not waiting for that but do you think that there is anyway I can get her back? Give her time and space to miss you. Don't call too much unless it's important. Let her come to you. Link to post Share on other sites
miss-gonewest Posted June 14, 2005 Share Posted June 14, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer Hey GO$$MAN, Do you ever listen to people's advice? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?threadid=64608 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?threadid=64511 Regards, Hopeless The advice not to contact her and to move on is obviously not what he wants to hear, so I'll break the record and say the following. Contact her, tell her you love and you can't live without her. Tell you can't eat, or sleep and have spent the last 9 days crying over your ended relationship. Tell her no other girl will live up to her and you don't know how you are going to get through this heartbreak... Cos that's what you want to say - right? Then of course she will reply saying that she made a mistake, that she now sees that you are the only man for her, that your relationship is worth her own life, and that she is coming around right now to reconcile.... However, just before you do that, I suggest reading damndd's post here -> http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?threadid=64463 If you still go ahead, and she doesn't say all those things, then you need to tell yourself that believe it or not, you will survive. Tell yourself how lucky you are to have had a relationship that gave you love. That you will learn lessons from this and go on to have another relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
BLF04 Posted June 14, 2005 Share Posted June 14, 2005 do not beg! give her space. be a man. dont do anything stupid. make it look like your having a good time (even if youre not). you'll be fine. she'll come back in 6-12 months. enjoy it! Link to post Share on other sites
Author GOSSMAN Posted June 15, 2005 Author Share Posted June 15, 2005 I don't know if she'll come back, maybe, she called me for my b'day and i was very strong and said that we can be friends cause i think i'll be alright with that. She said will it take you time before we can be friends and I said no not too long, cause i honestly think it won't. She is only young and things will be alright. There will be more chance of us ever getting back later down the track if I am friends with her than if i never speak to her again, as long as I'm right to handle that. Thanks for the words of advice guys. Link to post Share on other sites
strange love Posted June 15, 2005 Share Posted June 15, 2005 You know Heres my thoughts on tactics that worked to get girlfriends back But keep this in mind I was always the first to suggested breaking up, Sometimes even after a few days. Ok one time I had this girlfriend and we had a fight and I knew **** I better do something. So I showed up at her work and I told I would wait outside for her and I had a rose.. and I said what a dick I was. I gave her the rose. Then we went for a walk I bought pizza.. and by the end of the walk she was still my gal. In fact I remember the classic line she gave me... "im glad you came to see me cause I was checking out people all day.. potential new boyfriends or girlfriends. Hmm ok Then I had this british girlfriend. She broke up with me on my birthday.. and I spent most of the day trying to calm her down on the phone until finally I said dont call me , my assitant has been advised not to pick up the phone if he sees your number and I whipped my cell phone at the wall instead of hanging up. Oh yes I remember threatening to call the cops if she called or something like that. In any case I called a few hours later and she admitted to wanting to call... after talking calmly presto girlfriend back. But if someone tells me not too contact them or they say we are broken up I dont push it. In fact i probably wouldnt call her. But then some women are different and they would like a bit of effort. Now that doesnt mean getting on your knees, it might mean. I dunno sending them something sweet out of the blue, or... listening to her talk for a while about whatever. The ex I have now is sort of like this she has said stuff like u dont contact me or shes seems more interested when i seem to take an interest in what she is doing etc.. NC only goes so far, and if he/she is calling you why do u need NC. Maybe nc is meant for people who were to clingy, but if hurt their feelings then how does NC fix that? Maybe sometimes you have to say your sorry a million times, or maybe something else. I think i would go the friends route with her. If you out having fun, make sure you try to fit in romantic interludes. And dont mention anything about the 'relationship" let her do that ok? Link to post Share on other sites
Sal Paradise Posted June 15, 2005 Share Posted June 15, 2005 oops double post Link to post Share on other sites
Sal Paradise Posted June 15, 2005 Share Posted June 15, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer Hey GO$$MAN, Do you ever listen to people's advice? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?threadid=64608 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?threadid=64511 Regards, Hopeless Thats a good question...... Some people don't want to face reality, and would rather live in the fantasy world called denial. Link to post Share on other sites
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