how to cope with mental and psychical abuse, and recover from being raped.

[audreydash]

Hi everyone I'm just trying to find some advice on how to cope and recover from dealing with an emotional and physical abuse, and rape.

 

I dated a guy from age 15 to 18 who constantly be littled me, screamed at me, was overly jealous and protective, and became physically abusive with pushing me, choking me, and throwing things at me.

 

After that relationship I decided to be single for a long time to recover and be okay with being alone. I became friends with a guy when I was almost 19, we would hangout in a group of our friends all the time and party. He took me back to my place one night after partying saying he'd get me home safe and put me to bed.

 

All I remember (which isn't a lot, I was extremely intoxicated) is him starting to undress himself and make me touch him I kept saying no, then he started undressing me and I said no repeatedly and I was half passed out, and he got ontop of me and I kept trying to push him off but I wasnt strong enough, and he raped me.

 

I didn't tell anyone except my friends, who thought it wasn't a big deal and said it was my fault because I had kissed that guy before, they continued being friends with him anyways.

 

I dealt with everything decently I guess at first. But I now just turned 20 and I feel like I numbed myself with alcohol for so long, I just can't stop thinking about everything now and I feel so anxious and depressed all the time I don't know how to heal from all of this.

[Fruitee]

Rape support group. Therapy. Contact the police. Report him.

[TaraMaiden2]

Rape support group. Therapy. Contact the police. Report him.

 

This, double this, then treble it.

 

You have to do this.

[turnera]

I'm so sorry you've had to deal with all this. Nobody should have to.

 

The most important thing you can do is seek the help of a therapist. Please trust me, they will help you immensely.

 

Are you close with one of your parents? A sibling? Talk to them.

[audreydash]

I just really want to thank all of you honestly, for taking the time out of your day to not only read what i wrote, but to respond with all of your kind words, Thank you !

[carhill]

How's the alcohol thing now?

 

My exW had a similar issue at about your age, though a stranger rape, and an abortion was involved, and she said a few years of talk therapy and a then-new drug called Prozac snapped her out of her funk and she was able to go on and have successful relationships and had, by my observation, no issues with alcohol.

 

One thing to watch for though is a numbing down of emotions; it's a normal psychological response to trauma but also can interfere with healthy attachments to people one loves or is loved by. Therapy can help with that, as can appropriate brain meds if indicated. Nowadays support groups are more common and easily found so that suggestion would be a good long-term treatment. Keep it real and know you're not alone.