Light at the end of the tunnel...

[Michael 93]

For those that remember, I was a bit of a fixture on this site a couple of years ago, after going through what I thought was a terrible part of my life.

 

Its been a while, and for those of you who are currently battling with something that they feel is destroying them, know that the only way is up.

 

If you look through my story you will see that no matter what people would advise I would regularly go against it, advice from some of the kindest, knowledgeable folk (what's up Chi?) would register and I would constantly do the opposite. So know that you are not on your own!

 

I always promised that I would come back one day and show people that in time it will all get better and well here I am...Apologies for the absence but I've had some living to do.

 

The main thing I can say is strive to be the best you as possible, following on from a hard break up it is easy to lose yourself and forget who you really are.

 

A wise man once told me "you can never lose on an investment in yourself"

 

You need to keep yourself motivated and give yourself something to constantly look forward to and aim for, a goal, something to really get your teeth into. Build a foundation, a platform. Go to the gym, travel, weekends away with your friends, take up a sport, Follow a sport (preferably Walsall FC ) and work hard in your job. By becoming a better you, everything will become much more positive and your confidence will ooze out of you, people feed off of confidence, its what draws people together, its as if humans have a sensor for positive energy.

 

So if you are reading this from the depths and darkness of your bedroom, get up and go and do something, right now!.. Ladies, pop for a casual drink with a friend, go buy a nice outfit for a night out this weekend maybe? Men go and shoot a game of pool with the boys, get down local football ground and watch a game, have a beer? Whilst your doing so, discuss your next adventure, if not now, then when?

 

Life is too damn short.

 

Me personally, I'm not in a RS currently, But to be quite honest I don't really want one. I figure that Hey I'm 22, Now is the time to be working on building a foundation for myself before I even entertain the idea of building something with somebody else.

Over the past 2 years that thought has led me to live life and experience everything I possibly can, to enable me to be as cultured and experienced as possible.

 

My break up has led me to encounter numerous life experiences and accomplishments, some that I maybe would never had achieved had it not been for it. Some may call that a 'blessing in disguise'.

 

My past relationship was a distant memory when swimming in the blue caves in Zakynthos, and drinking red wine along the grand canal in Venice, saying a prayer in the Sagrada Familia in Barcelona and roaming around Parc Guell, completing a half marathon for a charity close to my heart was also a particular highlight and these are all things that would not have been possible without some of the words of wisdom and advice I gained over my mourning period. All of these things will enable me to become much more compatible with somebody in the future and also lead me to become a better man who is more knowledgeable.

 

Please trust me when I say if you can handle this, you can handle anything, and I strongly believe that. You become harder and stronger and all of these life lessons follow you and help you in the future. See it as an opportunity to develop and mould yourself into the person you wish to become, Life is for living, not for unhappiness and pain.

 

No matter how happy you may have been or what memories may have been made, there is always enough time to make more, and by investing in yourself they are sure to be much better, this is a blessing and you might not see it yet but look back on it in 3/4 years time and you will see what I am saying. That I promise you.

 

To all of you on LS that helped me when I needed it, I am forever in your debt and you have no idea how greatful I am for your support (you know who you are) . You are all wonderful wonderful individuals.

 

Chi, I know I said I would do this a lot sooner but my friend, life has taken the front seat for a minute! Rome is next on the cards Apr 28th looking forward to that one!

 

For those who are still battling. Get up. Make something of yourself. And show them exactly who you wish to become, you can do it.

 

thanks

 

Michael 93.

[Broken_Hearted1]

Really motivational message bro. I have just broken up with my best friend and its been only two weeks( during which I have broken NC a few times ). I am 22 too and I know its not the end of the world but I do feel alone and fear this hollow inside of me. I dont know why but I feel like life is meant to be shared with someone and not having that someone makes me real sad. Do you ever feel like that?

 

I have lost interest in my hobbies and not even studying for my graduation exam which is due next month. I feel lifeless and just keep thinking about how things could have worked out had I been more considerate. Its like a battle inside my mind.

[Rachel39]

I too have lost all motivation for my studies! And life In general!