I have decided to fall for someone I barely know

[youknowsomethin]

So I met a girl about a day ago, we hit it off and ended up sitting outside together talking, we naturarly kissed. The followig day I wanted to see her to talk, eventually I concinced her to go. It was pretty weird and quiet, but we did talk and whilst talking, she would go from almost kissing me to making excuses in a matter of minutes.

 

But when we went home she texted me saying she doesn't want anything to do with me. Load of horse****. She likes me and she knows it.

 

I know she is the one. By know I mean I decided that she is. If I could just see her once a week I would not ask for more.

 

So I am taking matters into my own hands and am gonna make this stupid thing in my head a reality. So I am asking for genuine help to make a plan how to let her know how serious I really am. I have my own Ideas but don't want to freak her out or anything. Just to gradually build up from scratch.

 

I do have only several months before she leaves to another country, where who knows if I will ever find her. I will sure regret it if I don't go look for her.

 

Just seeing her her today made me unable to speak sensesible sentences.

 

She said we would only be able to meet "some time" which is basically never. So where do I even start.

 

 

Thank you

[preraph]

So I met a girl about a day ago, we hit it off and ended up sitting outside together talking, we naturarly kissed. The followig day I wanted to see her to talk, eventually I concinced her to go. It was pretty weird and quiet, but we did talk and whilst talking, she would go from almost kissing me to making excuses in a matter of minutes.

 

But when we went home she texted me saying she doesn't want anything to do with me. Load of horse****. She likes me and she knows it.

 

I know she is the one. By know I mean I decided that she is. If I could just see her once a week I would not ask for more.

 

So I am taking matters into my own hands and am gonna make this stupid thing in my head a reality. So I am asking for genuine help to make a plan how to let her know how serious I really am. I have my own Ideas but don't want to freak her out or anything. Just to gradually build up from scratch.

 

I do have only several months before she leaves to another country, where who knows if I will ever find her. I will sure regret it if I don't go look for her.

 

Just seeing her her today made me unable to speak sensesible sentences.

 

She said we would only be able to meet "some time" which is basically never. So where do I even start.

 

 

Thank you

 

Doesn't matter how serious you are since she has told you she doesn't want anything to do with you. She has her own mind, you know. The fact you think you know her mind better than she does is delusional. All people do not think alike and there is no one right way.

[Satu]

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*I know she is the one. By know I mean I decided that she is. If I could just see her once a week I would not ask for more.

 

 

**She said we would only be able to meet "some time" which is basically never. ***So where do I even start.

 

 

Thank you

 

*Delusional.

 

**She is absolutely not interested in you.

 

***Start by leaving her alone, because thats what she wants.

 

 

Take care.

[RecentChange]

Ummm, you don't decide for her. Honestly I find your tone a bit troubling, and if someone was speaking the same way about me, I would be quite concerned.

 

Leave her alone.

[mrldii]

OP, you want advice on how to be a stalker and/or how to force yourself upon a girl who's told you she's not interested, without "freaking her out"?!?

 

You ask for the impossible. It's probably best that you just move it along

 

 

before the police tell you to...yanno?

 

 

Best of luck to you...

[youknowsomethin]

I don't expect anything of her. I made my peace with the idea of nothing ever happening with her.

 

I am crazy, but I am not a stalker. All I want to do is stick around for a little longer. To melery maintain my presence. And maybe get to see and talk to her again. This includes waiting for a while, to get some air, forget about what happened, and start from close to 0.

 

What I am asking, is when/if I do get to see her, is how not to make it all weird and overly attached again. But still to make progress.

 

Meeting her the second time, she talked about her past boyfriend, how it didn't work out. And basically she is afraid to loose people. I just think it is a little bit odd she couldn't tell me that she doesn't want anything when I was there with her talking exactly about that. Only when she was away she texted me that. That leads me to believe she has afection towards me, and it is something else that is keeping her away.

 

I am very likely completely wrong. Which I am okay with. Not trying and not taking my chances. I am not okay with

[preraph]

What part of "I don't want anything to do with you" don't you understand? You're crossing a line if you don't respect her wishes to not deal with you anymore.

[MidwestUSA]

 

1) I made my peace with the idea of nothing ever happening with her.

 

2) Not trying and not taking my chances. I am not okay with

 

 

Stick wth option one. Number two might lead to a restraining order.

[youknowsomethin]

I just don't believe in putting everything on a single coin. Where one side she likes me and the other she doesn't. it is simply not that simple. Even if she sais she doesn't want to see me and so on, doesn't mean there is no way it can be different. From what we talked about, the reasons for not wanting anything right now, is her fear of comitment, loosing people, bad time. Unless she was making it all up hoping I'll just take it and leave it at that. Well if what she said is true, all of these issues can be dealt with. I will wait, till she is ready to put these things aside. If I find out that these were actually just bull**** excuses, then good I'll leave her alone.

[SunnyWeather]

If I find out that these were actually just bull**** excuses, then good I'll leave her alone.

 

am I understanding you correctly by what you mean by this is that you will NOT leave her alone then until you are proven otherwise?

 

 

that is a very slippery slope, borderline criminal, you do realize this, right?

[preraph]

She was trying to soften the blow by telling you "it's not you, it's me," but for a woman to say it at all, that's a no. She's not interested in you. If she was remotely interested in you, she wouldn't have told you to go away.

[youknowsomethin]

I meet her be honest tell her what I think(didn't say I love her or nothing too serious), and she tries to soften it by hiding whats real, confusing me with random kissing, and then dropping then dropping the truth through a text.

Good job. Well played!

[NinjaX]

You chased her right out of your life. It's over.

 

Basically, she liked you at the beginning. She was comfortable enough to kiss you. Then you became a pussy boy by falling for her immediately. I can tell you became clingy.

 

In your own words, you had to "convince" her to come out with you. When you start forcing yourself into her life, naturally she is going to back off.

 

The more you continue to try and "convince" her, force yourself upon her, the likelier you are to never see her again. Realistically, you had a shot, then you shot yourself in the foot.

 

Your best move is to never contact her and hope she reaches out to you. If she does, make a date, and don't be a clingy creeper.

[Methodical]

So I met a girl about a day ago, we hit it off and ended up sitting outside together talking, we naturarly kissed. The followig day I wanted to see her to talk, eventually I concinced her to go. It was pretty weird and quiet, but we did talk and whilst talking, she would go from almost kissing me to making excuses in a matter of minutes.

 

But when we went home she texted me saying she doesn't want anything to do with me. Load of horse****. She likes me and she knows it.

 

You are very presumptuous and know nothing about her. She may have had an inkling of interest, but my guess is you came on too strong too fast and creeped her out. There is no mutual interest here. If there were, you wouldn't have had to convince her to talk to you the next day.

 

I know she is the one. By know I mean I decided that she is. If I could just see her once a week I would not ask for more.

 

How do you talk to someone for a couple hours and decide they are the one?

You don't know each other.

 

So I am taking matters into my own hands and am gonna make this stupid thing in my head a reality. So I am asking for genuine help to make a plan how to let her know how serious I really am. I have my own Ideas but don't want to freak her out or anything. Just to gradually build up from scratch.

 

Assessing what you have posted, you have already freaked her out. You can create a fantasy scenario, but you can't make her play the part you are creating in your head.

 

Leave her alone, as she requested.