Turning 30

[youdunsay]

I'll be 30 in two years time but I don't find myself having achieved anything. I have no boyfriend since I came out of my mum's womb, no assets which I can proudly brag that I own and no beauty which draw men like butterflies to me. I am so trapped, so vexed and I can't find any solutions to resolve my troubles.

[basil67]

I'll be 30 in two years time but I don't find myself having achieved anything. I have no boyfriend since I came out of my mum's womb, no assets which I can proudly brag that I own and no beauty which draw men like butterflies to me. I am so trapped, so vexed and I can't find any solutions to resolve my troubles.

 

These so called achievements you are wanting are very shallow. Nobody likes a proud braggart and using beauty to draw men in is only temporary. The beauty might attract a man, but you need personality to keep a man.

 

As for the boyfriend, how involved are you in your community and friends? What steps have you taken to put yourself out there?

 

Now, what about achievements which relate to you being a good, caring and interesting person? Do you have any hobbies or passions? Do you help others? Are you good at your job? Are you a good friend? Do you volunteer?

 

Try and ditch the shallow goals and look for achievements which are actually worthy.

[BronzeAgeJaeger217]

I'll be 30 in two years time but I don't find myself having achieved anything. I have no boyfriend since I came out of my mum's womb, no assets which I can proudly brag that I own and no beauty which draw men like butterflies to me. I am so trapped, so vexed and I can't find any solutions to resolve my troubles.

 

So never had a boyfriend and you are in your late 20's? Well I guess it can happen to women too, I'm sorry since I can sort of relate

[truthtripper]

30 is still young. We live and learn and that takes time. Just appreciate who you are and others will appreciate you too. At the end of the day, looks and wealth are nothing.

[BronzeAgeJaeger217]

that's what it sounds like the OP is saying, I guess it goes to show that it can happen to women as well, because it seems women are less at risk than men are at becoming a 25+ year old single FA

[Otter2569]

Get out and enjoy life because you know what, with any luck you are going to be older before you know it.

 

Turning 50 makes turning 30 look like a sweet 16 party!

[blackbird_brokenwing]

I feel this way often. I'm 27, lesbian, never been married, have no kids, only hold a bachelor's, rent an apartment, and have a decent, but mediocre job. My looks are "unconventional" in that I have piercings and blue hair, tattoos, etc. I often see people (especially girls) that I grew up with in my church or at school who are married, on baby #3, have a nice house, a minivan, they are blonde and tan, etc. I don't even want those things, but sometimes I can't help but feel like a complete failure because they have everything that would appear like they've "made it."

 

But then I think of all I have accomplished. I haven't been married, but I haven't been divorced. I don't have kids because I am mature and selfless enough to know that isn't where my heart is right now. I haven't yet pursued a master's but I graduated from a prestigious university and have a pretty good job. My student loans will be paid off by my 30th birthday and then I'll be debt free. I 100% support myself and am not drowning myself in debt by purchasing a home right now, and I live alone in a spacious two bedroom apartment. And my looks are just me.

 

I don't say any of this to brag, believe me. Just that I understand the feeling. I often feel like a failure when I imagine where I "should" be at this age and where I feel like my peers are. It's so discouraging. But the good news is that it's in your control to do something about it if you're unhappy. It's also in your control to accept that where you are is okay and it's you.