Tinder

[soph-walker]

Starting to feel a backlash against this app now, from a mixture of my friends who use it saying they're fed up of it after using it for a year or so and even guys I'm swiping on it saying that they're not a fan of it.

 

Who uses it here and what are your thoughts?

 

I feel it's almost a joke now and I would think I've got more chance of being struck by lightning than ever meeting someone decent on it! There's no one I'd even hookup with if that's what I was looking for

[Lorenza]

Me and my boyfriend met through Tinder. I got tired of the app after about 2 months and started swiping right on every guy that would pop up. I thought - maybe if I won't be so picky, karma will reward me with an awesome guy I normally wouldn't notice? And so it did

[soph-walker]

Me and my boyfriend met through Tinder. I got tired of the app after about 2 months and started swiping right on every guy that would pop up. I thought - maybe if I won't be so picky, karma will reward me with an awesome guy I normally wouldn't notice? And so it did

 

Ah congrats, that's good to hear!

 

My friends' friend met her husband on it but I've given up hope personally:rolleyes:

 

I've definitely lowered my standards and had to be less picky whilst using it but it's done me no favours so far.

[Erik30]

People ruined it. A lot of men and women now just use it for fun, and don't have any intention at all to have a conversation with any of their matches. Sometimes they're also already in a relationship so they just use Tinder for an egoboost to see if they're still hot. Not to mention all the other rude and incredibly flaky people on it.

 

It's possible to find someone on it though, but you have to be patient and really lucky. I guess you should treat it like a game, not a serious dating site. Or else it will become frustrating very quickly.

[Erik30]

Me and my boyfriend met through Tinder. I got tired of the app after about 2 months and started swiping right on every guy that would pop up. I thought - maybe if I won't be so picky, karma will reward me with an awesome guy I normally wouldn't notice? And so it did

 

I also thought about swiping right on every girl just to see what happens... but I would feel bad about having to unmatch all the ones I'm not interested in, especially if they would try to talk to me. I've been on the receiving end of that so I know how much that sucks

[Jejangles]

I met my current boyfriend of two months on Tinder. I signed up, mostly because I needed an ego boost after things fell apart with a guy from OkCupid. I matched with about 30 guys, went on dates with around 5 and things worked out with my guy.

 

I have to admit he was pretty much the only quality guy I met from there (this was the second time I tried it). While sometimes I think traditional websites have too much information, in some ways Tinder has too little. I definitely found myself out with a couple of guys with dealbreakers I would have identified if I had known more about them.

 

Having said that, I actually think I matched with my guy because I didn't know much about him. There's a couple of things I likely would have thought I didn't want that would have been listed in a regular online profile. I gave him a chance based on photos, a tiny profile and a short chat and I'm so glad I did. He's intelligent, thoughtful, fun, likes lots of the same things with me and he's very relationship minded. It's early days, but so far it's been a great experience dating him.

[Lorenza]

I also thought about swiping right on every girl just to see what happens... but I would feel bad about having to unmatch all the ones I'm not interested in, especially if they would try to talk to me. I've been on the receiving end of that so I know how much that sucks

 

Nah, life is about choices and the app is design for you to choose on some criteria. But I'd suggest trying to respond to the majority of those who write to you, even though they're not very attractive looking/don't have an interesting presentation or none at all. Being completely open to anyone (except downright creepy and rude people) actually pays off.

 

When I started swiping right on anyone, I got a crazy amount of matches, as a decent looking gal with a catchy text that made it easy to start a conversation with me. I thought - why don't I give every guy who tries to initiate a conversation a chance, despite his looks and description (unless it said that they want to hook up - unmatch directly). So to make it easier for myself to sort it out I made a "5 chat bubbles rule" which meant that after we text each other 5 times I either unmatch or proceed having a conversation. It was like a fun game and I would come up with games within the conversation - like "weird questions and answers" etc.

[spriggan2]

For my age bracket it's definitely a bit of work. I swipe everyone right and get few matches that aren't bots or...sorry to say this.. very overweight. Takes a bit of time but I'm usually able to get a few quality matches and arrange a first date. From there I get ghosted roughly half the time.

 

I'd recommend combining tinder with another dating app like plenty of fish. Go extremely hardcore for a couple weeks. Get a large number of matches, get some dates in circulation then take a break from the app until you feel like you need to replenish.

 

But be very very relaxed. See a girl with an amazing profile and similar interests who you might be perfect for? Send her the first message that comes into your head, don't stress about her. Don't worry about messing things up you can't control what happens, just go with the flow

[hasaquestion]

Met my ex on Tinder, and I've gone out with a ton of people from it. I was never rolling in matches (I'm not one of "those men") but I've been generous with the 'likes' and met up with a larger percentage of my matches than most.

 

I think its great. It routes you directly to people who are ALREADY interested in you at some level.

 

Is it perfect? No. But it gives you 10% of the quality of meeting people in person.... for 10% of the effort. You don't have to have friends available, dress up cool, get an Uber, buy drinks, etc. Just swipe generously in a crowded area and wait.

 

An earlier poster said that Tinder has too little information and dating sites have too much information. I would argue Tinder gives you far more information - a swipe is more informative than anything you can find on someones' OK Cupid profile.

 

Dating sites are the worst of the real and virtual worlds in my opinion. They demand the time and attention of a real social life, while giving you the constrained experience of OLD.

[truth_seeker]

Tinder I would say more negative than positive. Someone on here told me about Bumble and in one day I connected with 21 women. lol. This app gives women the power. They have to open the channel of communication first. There's a time limit, too. So if they don't say hello within 24 hours, they're gone.

 

I'll see how this works out.

[Tressugar]

I know this post is old, but wanted to add my experience to the mix. My daughter introduced me to Tinder. She met someone who's she's serious about and now I've met my guy on there too. There's a lot of fakery folks on there according to me and my beau.

[Mccoy321]

Tinder is just all online dating taken to the extreme. If you're a man and not good looking then you have virtually no chance. All the good looking men are just pretending to be after a relationship, hooking up, then ghosting. I would feel sorry for the women this happens to, but it's just reward for their initial shallowness. Same with women who get catfished - if you're so shallow as to fall for a nice photo, well you get what you deserve.

[LookAtThisPOst]

People ruined it. A lot of men and women now just use it for fun, and don't have any intention at all to have a conversation with any of their matches. Sometimes they're also already in a relationship so they just use Tinder for an egoboost to see if they're still hot. Not to mention all the other rude and incredibly flaky people on it.

 

It's possible to find someone on it though, but you have to be patient and really lucky. I guess you should treat it like a game, not a serious dating site. Or else it will become frustrating very quickly.

 

Yeah, if you think getting lack of responses and attention seeking-only types are bad on dating sites, Tinder just enables it all 10-fold.

 

Why read someone's profile, when you can only swipe picture?

 

Can you imagine before Tinder when people were complaining that online dating was just like browsing through a magazine of products.

 

When Tinder came out, it made that statement, in retrospect, and understatement.

[whyno]

Tinder is so screwed up that I accidentally right swiped my 1st cousin. Totally not weird.

[GunslingerRoland]

Tinder is so screwed up that I accidentally right swiped my 1st cousin. Totally not weird.

 

Hah, you have a lifetime of awkward looks at family functions ahead of you.

[SmartDude]

I have always kind of despised online dating sites. Tinder is the only one that I find is easy to use and get dates from. I swipe left most of the time and rarley swipe right. Still get plenty of matches. I am a tall good looking guy though, so yes the initial matching and meeting is pretty easy for me. I am there looking for hookups AND potential relationships. Not exclusivley looking for something serious or casual.

 

I think there are plenty just like me on Tinder. Looking to have fun but will get serious if the right person comes along.

[Inflikted]

As a 27 year old, extremely introverted, socially inept guy that's never been on a date, I figured I'd give Tinder a try. Never cared much for online dating; tried it many times, but couldn't ever really get anything going with anyone. Figured I'd give Tinder a try, since it's the "hip" thing these days. Didn't really have any expectations going into it.

 

At the start, I pretty much tried to "like" (I don't use the swiping, too much margin for error, I just use the buttons) every girl, figuring I'd get at least some matches. But, of course, I was wrong. There were a couple of times where I did get a match, but I didn't write right away, simply because I wasn't sure what to say, but when I went back a little later, they were no longer in my matches. So, I assume it was either accidental swiping on their part, or they just realized they didn't like me after all.

 

I still kinda jump on, but it seems like I've already gone through everyone local to me, as it now either shows me people that are too far away, or it just constantly says there's no one new around me.

 

Can't really say I'm surprised, though. I'm not attractive or likable in any way, so it certainly makes sense that I don't get any matches. Just kinda had a sliver of hope that there'd be some opportunity for me. Ah well.

[Mccoy321]

As a 27 year old, extremely introverted, socially inept guy that's never been on a date, I figured I'd give Tinder a try. Never cared much for online dating; tried it many times, but couldn't ever really get anything going with anyone. Figured I'd give Tinder a try, since it's the "hip" thing these days. Didn't really have any expectations going into it.

 

At the start, I pretty much tried to "like" (I don't use the swiping, too much margin for error, I just use the buttons) every girl, figuring I'd get at least some matches. But, of course, I was wrong. There were a couple of times where I did get a match, but I didn't write right away, simply because I wasn't sure what to say, but when I went back a little later, they were no longer in my matches. So, I assume it was either accidental swiping on their part, or they just realized they didn't like me after all.

 

I still kinda jump on, but it seems like I've already gone through everyone local to me, as it now either shows me people that are too far away, or it just constantly says there's no one new around me.

 

Can't really say I'm surprised, though. I'm not attractive or likable in any way, so it certainly makes sense that I don't get any matches. Just kinda had a sliver of hope that there'd be some opportunity for me. Ah well.

 

If you're not good looking, or have a really great and successful career, you are essentially playing the lottery if you try to find a woman on a dating site. You might really luck out and come across that one lady who suddenly tires of chasing after the good looking profiles just as she's clicking on your profile but the chances are very slim.

 

 

If you're unattractive, all OLD sites will do is wreck your confidence and make things difficult IRL as you will begin to think that you are completely abhorrent to all women.

[Inflikted]

If you're unattractive, all OLD sites will do is wreck your confidence and make things difficult IRL as you will begin to think that you are completely abhorrent to all women.

 

Heh, well, luckily for me, I already felt that way to begin with, given my experiences trying to meet people "offline".

[Mccoy321]

Heh, well, luckily for me, I already felt that way to begin with, given my experiences trying to meet people "offline".

 

Yes it's tough. You grow up believing that in the Hollywood fairytale that it's your personality that will win through no matter what you look like. The reality hits all of us pretty hard.