Weirdest Situation I have been in.

[RyanBeynolds]

I'll try to make this short as I am a poor storyteller due to my rambling:

 

I was at the bar with my friend about 2 weeks ago and I see a cute girl as I walk to the bathroom. She makes eye contact, I smile, and continue walking. I go back to my friend and see she is looking again, but I didn't pursue her. About an hour later, I was standing there watching TV and drinking beer while my friend went to the bathroom, and she approached me and said how attractive I was and asked who I was there with. I said Thank you, I'm with my friend, he just went to the bathroom. She says she was about to head out, I said my phone is dead so take my number down. She says to go charge my phone and walks off.

 

I kind of took it as a red flag that she approached me, but I kind of liked it as well. I don't get home until 3AM and send her a text saying hey I'm glad we met, I'm sure you're sleeping so we will talk tomorrow. We begin talking, and each text she sends a paragraph regardless of if I hardly say anything, so I know she is interested. We have a TON in common. She was making plans to hang out with me last weekend, but I had to house sit back home. She was pretty disappointed, but I let her know for sure I'd see her this past week.

 

I asked what she wanted to do on Monday, and gave her tons of options. She ended up choosing the bar, so we went and had a good time. She came back over and we hooked up a little bit and then she went home. I told her I really wanted to go to the pool, so she came over the next day and we got some drinks and hung out there. She gets tipsy and tells me some things, like that she told her friends and Mom about me already. I was joking and told her to send a pic of me to her Mom, and her Mom said "Wow he really is cute!" So she ended up telling me that her Mom wanted to meet me and would buy a hotel room for us back where she was from. I thought this was really awesome, and I have no problem meeting new people or parents, so I went ahead and said sure. She was skeptical about it because she says her family is "crazy", but I said no worries I'm sure I can handle it.

 

She gets a text from her friend and they say they are having a cookout and asked if I wanted to go. I said of course why not. We go over there and she kept saying we can leave if I felt weird and I said no I'm fine. We end up going to shoot some pool with everyone, and when we leave she tells me her friend liked me so all was good. We got home and watched TV and she slept over, still undecided if she wanted me to go to meet her family.

 

I get woken up to her cell phone blowing up. I ask why she doesn't pick it up, and she says it's her ex calling from a private number since she blocked it. She ends up leaving to go home and texts me later saying how mean he was and he left hurtful voicemails. I told her don't worry about what he says, it's just your ex. She gets back home and I get a phone call, and she is telling me to come because she wants me to stay at the hotel and see her family now. So I get up and go. We go to dinner, everything was fine. Her Mom was a bit mean to the waitress which was off-putting but oh well.

 

She kept asking what I wanted to do once I left dinner. I was exhausted so I just wanted to sleep, but I kept telling her I was up for whatever. She ended up taking me to a few bars and then we went back to the hotel. We were about to hook up an she bawls her eyes out on me saying how she was upset with what her ex said. I calm her down and then she ended up staying at her own house, which kind of was upsetting to me since I thought we had the hotel for a reason. She told me her Dad was hesitant since we just met, which was understood.

 

Her and I went to the beach the whole day the next day, then met her family for dinner. At this point I was already told that her whole family liked me, so I was feeling good. We ended up going bowling that night with her sister and boyfriend and it was fun. We went home and she slept over at the hotel this night since her Dad was fond of me now, and everything was good. I drive home and we were texting normally up until last night at about 9PM. I text her this morning asking if she was alright, and no response. Text her again later asking what was wrong, no response. Call her, no response. She has been active on social media though...

 

Sorry, I rambled on but I felt like it is needed to show how strange this is. Her whole family loved me, she clearly was interested... and then poof, she's gone!? The only thing I can put together is something to do with her ex. She also seemed to be texting a lot of guys while I was there with her. I'm not a jealous person, it just seems to be the only logical answer as to why she just up and stops talking to me? Her whole family wanted me to date her THIS SOON and now she's just gone?

Edited March 13, 2016 by RyanBeynolds

[preraph]

To me the fact that she came on to you alone is fine, but coupled with the fact that she was introducing you to her family within a date is alarming. Have you made sure she's not an illegal alien wanting to marry to have citizen status? Because it sounds a bit fishy. Like she's got a lot of lines out and having her parents appraise you. Did they ask questions about money?

 

The "ex" may be someone she ghosted on too. It sounds like for whatever reason she has a lot of lines in the water.

 

When you say you have lots in common, did she bring up the activity she enjoyed first or did you and she agreed with it? Because a ploy that it's usually men using is to act like you have a lot in common to get someone to fall for you. So think back. Who mentioned the activities you have in common first?

[Satu]

Seems very fishy.

 

Proceed with caution, if at all.

[RyanBeynolds]

To me the fact that she came on to you alone is fine, but coupled with the fact that she was introducing you to her family within a date is alarming. Have you made sure she's not an illegal alien wanting to marry to have citizen status? Because it sounds a bit fishy. Like she's got a lot of lines out and having her parents appraise you. Did they ask questions about money?

 

The "ex" may be someone she ghosted on too. It sounds like for whatever reason she has a lot of lines in the water.

 

When you say you have lots in common, did she bring up the activity she enjoyed first or did you and she agreed with it? Because a ploy that it's usually men using is to act like you have a lot in common to get someone to fall for you. So think back. Who mentioned the activities you have in common first?

 

 

First, I'd like to thank you for reading my novel. Haha.

 

The questions you asked just goes to show how strange this whole encounter has been. Her parents are actually police, so I think that can be thrown out the window. Her father is retired military. Her sister is about to marry an international student, so I think I'm fine with the idea of citizenship!

 

The question about money is definitely a good point. I am about to attend Med school in the Fall. I told her when we were at the pool that I'd be moving over the Summer, and she looked so taken back and was upset that I mentioned it.

 

She definitely mentioned everything about her interests first. For instance, she told me she had many tests this week, and I asked what courses, and it is in the same field of study as me. I slightly mentioned what music I was interested in, and we have the same sort of taste on that as well. She definitely isn't just a "yes man" because I basically had to beg her to play pool or go bowling.

 

But back to the money idea. Although she is in the same field of study as me, apparently she isn't doing so hot. I just don't feel like they could be in it for money, since I am just a young man as of now. They actually paid for just about everything when I was there. She even slid the bill her way when I didn't notice so she could pay!!

 

Perhaps when she mentioned her family being "crazy" she was correct? Because I'm at a loss for what is going on here. I'm definitely aware of the fact that many females play the field (as many males do), but I'm puzzled as to why she would take me on this little "vacation", meet her family, pay for me... and then poof?

[preraph]

Okay. With this new very pertinent information, both her parents are police. Police see the bad in people every day. Police can background check you and have done by now. Her parents are overprotective. That pretty much explains meeting them right away.

 

 

Now, whatever is going on with her ex is a matter of concern. Why she hadn't texted back is the real question now. Was she busy? Is she multi-dating (nothing wrong with that). Her parents being cops could even account for why she made the moves on you, because it's safer to do your own picking statistically when you're a woman than to let random guys come up and take you out.

 

I wouldn't write her off yet. And I wouldn't be pushy about needing to hear back from her promptly, because to a police mind, pushy jealous guys are always trouble.

 

Be patient. Wait and see if you hear back. Stop texting until and unless you do. Would a background check bring up any red flags on you?

 

If you hear back, take her out, and just have a good time but ask if she's still seeing her ex or having trouble breaking away or whatever so you know what you're getting into.

[angel.eyes]

She just met you in a bar!! Why is her mother buying a hotel room for a random stranger and her daughter?

 

There are so many red flags in this story, I would count my blessings that she ghosted. No doubt she'll eventually be back when it suits her, but this is going nowhere but drama city and mind games.

 

I would move along.

[RyanBeynolds]

Thanks for the responses! I'll try to combine both of your advice into one: I'll move on and enjoy the vacation I had, and if she contacts me and has some sort of explanation on what exactly is going on, I'll take it from there.

 

Thanks again everyone

[GunslingerRoland]

Good for you moving on... sounds kinda nuts. I'm guessing she wasn't over her ex yet, and wanted to rebound as hard and fast as she could.

 

 

I'm sorry, police for parents or not, adults don't take the person they've dated one time home to meet the whole family.

[Carpe Diem]

I too see many red flags. You moved way too quick; hooked up on the first date, met her parents after the second date, drama with the x, emotional ups/downs, etc etc.

 

For most people all these things would play out over a period of many weeks, most likely months. You did all of this in the first week.

 

Learn your lesson, and move on. As someone else said, now that she's playing the "I'm not going to answer the phone," game, be grateful to get out.

 

PS: this sounds terribly terribly sexist, but unfortunately its a true story. I worked with a woman whose son was in his third year of medical school. He told her that in his class, which was split evenly between men and women, that not a single female doctor in training accidentally got pregnant in the first three years of the program, unfortunately that wasn't the same with the men. By third year, 13 of them had girlfriends that "accidentally" got pregnant.

Edited March 21, 2016 by Carpe Diem

[LivingWaterPlease]

Who gets their daughter a hotel room for her and a guy she just met? Doesn't sound as if they think very highly of themselves.