MM supposedly texted in error..... [updated 2016-06-27]

[privategal]

Why do they do this? Another ego stroke? What do they get out of tormenting people?

I dont think they consciously say "let me torture her/him today" I think it could be a need for validation, often times AP's role in their life was emotional support aswell as sexual fantasy and both are powerful drugs to let go of.

Men and women feel the void and some days that fear and insecurity that the AP has moved on and is letting you go wins and in weakness they reach out.

It may not always be for devious reasons, sometimes it is.

This is key though...even if you care about exap, loved them, or thought you loved them, miss them...still...the only way forward IS to let go, to stay silent, to wish their marriage and family well, to try and forgive your half of the responsibility.

True healing comes from fighting through our selfish needs and realizing if we just keep in NC healing and indifference are possible.

Its the only way to reclaim your life as an xap is to say...no matter what I will not do this to myself again for a lose lose situation. I will be tough and strong and heal.

[Juno]

He is at it again.

 

I have been ignoring all of his attempts to contact me, but late last night he texted me just to say "he was at a great concert and wished I was there"

 

Instinctively I responded back and said "Enjoy"

 

Well an hour later at 1:00 in the morning he replies "we will...."

 

Ugh! I know this is deliberate attempt to get me jealous. I just don't know why he won't stay gone. I'm sure this married man has found another victim, so why flaunt it in my face. He should just do what he wants and leave me alone. I am so angry today and trying to process my emotions constructively.

[MidnightBlue1980]

He is at it again.

 

I have been ignoring all of his attempts to contact me, but late last night he texted me just to say "he was at a great concert and wished I was there"

 

Instinctively I responded back and said "Enjoy"

 

Well an hour later at 1:00 in the morning he replies "we will...."

 

Ugh! I know this is deliberate attempt to get me jealous. I just don't know why he won't stay gone. I'm sure this married man has found another victim, so why flaunt it in my face. He should just do what he wants and leave me alone. I am so angry today and trying to process my emotions constructively.

 

It's not often I read something that makes me think the xMM is worse than mine - that is really mean and cruel. There is no justification. Horrible. I am not a fan of blocking, but I would block his number. Who needs that?

[Juno]

It's not often I read something that makes me think the xMM is worse than mine - that is really mean and cruel. There is no justification. Horrible. I am not a fan of blocking, but I would block his number. Who needs that?

 

 

Yeah...It's like he wants me to know he is on a date and about to get laid.

[MidnightBlue1980]

Yeah...It's like he wants me to know he is on a date and about to get laid.

 

Is he married and with his wife, or a new OW? I am not familiar with your story.

[ChickiePops]

Why haven't you blocked him?

[Juno]

Is he married and with his wife, or a new OW? I am not familiar with your story.

 

He is married, but at concert with OW (I am assuming since they don't do anything together).

 

Either way...with wife or OW...not cool. There was absolutely no reason to share this with me.

[Juno]

Why haven't you blocked him?

 

I haven't blocked him because I think it shows the person has some affect on you. Although he has, I don't want him to know it. Besides I have been pretty good at ignoring his attempts to contact me for the past year.

 

In light of what he has just done, I may have to block him now.

[loveisanaction]

I haven't blocked him because I think it shows the person has some affect on you. Although he has, I don't want him to know it. Besides I have been pretty good at ignoring his attempts to contact me for the past year.

 

In light of what he has just done, I may have to block him now.

 

How can he be at a concert with his other woman and send you a text message wishing you were there too? Is he off his rockers?

 

I can't even call him cruel or wicked. All those medical names i see thrown around here, Sociopath, Narcissist and such i think one of them must apply to him.

 

Juno, Girl, block this good for nothing embarrassment and find yourself a single man.

 

This is one of those rare occasions where i feel outing is appropriate. His wife is married to a monster.

[ChickiePops]

I haven't blocked him because I think it shows the person has some affect on you. Although he has, I don't want him to know it. Besides I have been pretty good at ignoring his attempts to contact me for the past year.

 

In light of what he has just done, I may have to block him now.

 

Indifference is the opposite to love. He wouldn't know you blocked him, he would just think you stopped caring.

 

You're making silly excuses.

[Lobe]

I haven't blocked him because I think it shows the person has some affect on you. Although he has, I don't want him to know it. Besides I have been pretty good at ignoring his attempts to contact me for the past year.

 

In light of what he has just done, I may have to block him now.

 

I don't believe that - the only reason for not blocking is to make sure that line of communication is open. Even if it hurts you, it's an ego kibble for you, that he is still thinking of you.

 

If you block him, he will think you are ignoring him (which you are) and in the great words of MidnightBlue "Tis better to ignore than be ignored."

 

What a POS.

 

If you're not going to block him, at least start forwarding the texts to his wife...

[Juno]

Indifference is the opposite to love. He wouldn't know you blocked him, he would just think you stopped caring.

 

You're making silly excuses.

 

Maybe so...I guess.

 

My emotions have me all twisted.

[Juno]

I don't believe that - the only reason for not blocking is to make sure that line of communication is open. Even if it hurts you, it's an ego kibble for you, that he is still thinking of you.

 

If you block him, he will think you are ignoring him (which you are) and in the great words of MidnightBlue "Tis better to ignore than be ignored."

 

What a POS.

 

If you're not going to block him, at least start forwarding the texts to his wife...

 

I am seriously thinking about blocking him today.

I am hurt and angry.

[Lobe]

I am seriously thinking about blocking him today.

I am hurt and angry.

 

If he was already blocked you'd be blissfully unaware of his lame attempts at sucking you back in... just sayin'

 

Block him. Do it. You won't regret it. Repeat after me:

 

"Tis better to ignore than be ignored."

[Juno]

How can he be at a concert with his other woman and send you a text message wishing you were there too? Is he off his rockers?

 

I can't even call him cruel or wicked. All those medical names i see thrown around here, Sociopath, Narcissist and such i think one of them must apply to him.

 

Juno, Girl, block this good for nothing embarrassment and find yourself a single man.

 

This is one of those rare occasions where i feel outing is appropriate. His wife is married to a monster.

 

I have thought about outing him. But I would have way too much explaining to do. Besides I'm sure she knows what a monster he is as she is one herself.

 

She was married to someone else when they met at work an carried on a 4 year affair before she divorced her husband to marry him.

 

So yeah...she cheated on her husband with him and now he is cheating on her with someone else.

[Juno]

If he was already blocked you'd be blissfully unaware of his lame attempts at sucking you back in... just sayin'

 

Block him. Do it. You won't regret it. Repeat after me:

 

"Tis better to ignore than be ignored."

 

 

Ha...repeating.

 

This will become my mantra

[Juno]

Yikes...he just text me asking "how's your day?"

 

I am losing my mind.

[Lobe]

I have thought about outing him. But I would have way too much explaining to do. Besides I'm sure she knows what a monster he is as she is one herself.

 

She was married to someone else when they met at work an carried on a 4 year affair before she divorced her husband to marry him.

 

So yeah...she cheated on her husband with him and now he is cheating on her with someone else.

 

Kinda sounds like they deserve each other, and you deserve better.

 

mantra it up, sister...

you've got this.

[Lobe]

Yikes...he just text me asking "how's your day?"

 

I am losing my mind.

 

BLOCK. DELETE. BLOW OFF THE SMOKE SIGNAL. ABORT, ABORT, ABORT!!!! lol

 

Don't let him take up real estate in your mind. He's not worth it.

[loveisanaction]

Yikes...he just text me asking "how's your day?"

 

I am losing my mind.

 

Juno, what are you losing your mind over?

 

Hear yourself...

 

This man is married, he went to a concert with his other or should i say, his other other woman, during the concert he texts you saying he wishes you were there. He was purposefully letting you that he was with another woman (not his wife btw) whilst he was texting you. This man isn't stable.

 

This is the man you are losing your mind over? For the life of me please tell us why?

[Juno]

Juno, what are you losing your mind over?

 

Hear yourself...

 

This man is married, he went to a concert with his other or should i say, his other other woman, during the concert he texts you saying he wishes you were there. He was purposefully letting you that he was with another woman (not his wife btw) whilst he was texting you. This man isn't stable.

 

This is the man you are losing your mind over? For the life of me please tell us why?

 

Basic...I enjoyed the attention and was dyckmatized.

[MidnightBlue1980]

Basic...I enjoyed the attention and was dyckmatized.

 

It's not good attention though. You are angry. Good attention is him contacting you about how much he misses you and you smiling, thinking "loser". This is bad attention, telling you he is with another woman. That is cruel. I'm all over good attention and ego boasts. This is not that.

[Juno]

It's not good attention though. You are angry. Good attention is him contacting you about how much he misses you and you smiling, thinking "loser". This is bad attention, telling you he is with another woman. That is cruel. I'm all over good attention and ego boasts. This is not that.

 

 

I'm just having a very bad week. It seems all the men I attract are married and unavailable to give me what I want.

 

One minute I am hearing all sweet/loving stuff and the next minute I am hearing nothing but praises about their wives and home life.

 

The manipulation and mind games are too much.

[loveisanaction]

I'm just having a very bad week. It seems all the men I attract are married and unavailable to give me what I want.

 

One minute I am hearing all sweet/loving stuff and the next minute I am hearing nothing but praises about their wives and home life.

 

The manipulation and mind games are too much.

 

It's not manipulation nor are they mind games; it's simple and straightforward.

 

When they are sweet and loving it means they are horny.

 

When they are praising their wives they are no longer horny and are now thinking logically.

[MidnightBlue1980]

I'm just having a very bad week. It seems all the men I attract are married and unavailable to give me what I want.

 

One minute I am hearing all sweet/loving stuff and the next minute I am hearing nothing but praises about their wives and home life.

 

The manipulation and mind games are too much.

 

If you are dealing with a married guy, it's all manipulation and mind games. If you see the thread I post on, I just got an email from xMM. I'm currently in NC with him as he agreed to respect that I can't be friends. He sent an email anyway and put someone else on it (we are in a mutual business thing). So I think, is this to try and force me to respond? Or is because he doesn't trust that I will do my assigned task?

 

See, its all about making you crazy. I'm just laughing on my end. See it from a different angle - the guy is going nuts trying to get to you. Just ignore him. It makes them nuts.

 

Tis better to ignore than be ignored.