Want 2.nd chance

[sinbadd]

Hello all,

 

GF broke up with me 17.february and today is 15.march. So almost a month.

First of all she broke up with me with a text message. I guess that's her way to go as she may find it easier that way. Easier to hide feelings. Out of sight ,out of mind.

 

Anyways the day she broke up with me I did sendt like 3 messages, nothing too much. But normal stuff that people do when they are left, love you, please and so on...

 

Sendt 2 messages between break up and 1.march. Nothing much, nothing heavy... just polite messages. Then on 1.march I appologized about what happend between us and said that I've been thinking and learned on what went wrong. Told her that I still love her.... then i didn't send anything for 15 days. During all this time since breakup she never responded.

 

So now i'm still thinking that we should have a 2nd chance. HOW ?? What can I do to make her talk to me?? I feel like sending new message but at this point I don't know if she will respong as she didn't respond earlier and she didn't send anything since breakup that was on 17.february... so It's been almost month since last time i heared anything from her.....

 

Please if anyone got any suggestion on how i should approach this help me.

[benB]

Unfortunately it appears that she is moving on and wants nothing to do with you anymore. There is nothing you can do to force someone to talk to you. I am in the same boat with my ex. She either responds with short, cold answers or doesnt reply at all. She is moving on and doesnt want me in her life. We both have to just sack up and move as hard as it is. Sorry man.

[forgetmeknot12]

If she is the one who broke up with you then it's on her to approach you about getting back together unfortunately. Continue the NC, and don't send her anymore texts. You may have learned on what went wrong on your behalf, but people can't change in less than a month. Focus on yourself now to heal and to move on. If she by chance comes back to you later on down the road, it will then be YOUR choice to take her back or not. Good Luck!

[Zahara]

So now i'm still thinking that we should have a 2nd chance. HOW ?? What can I do to make her talk to me??

 

You can't do anything. All those messages you sent her and she never responded -- can't you take a hint?

 

I feel like sending new message but at this point I don't know if she will respong as she didn't respond earlier and she didn't send anything since breakup that was on 17.february... so It's been almost month since last time i heared anything from her.....

 

That's because she does not want to talk to you. What aren't you getting?

 

Please if anyone got any suggestion on how i should approach this help me.

 

You should approach it by accepting the ending and that she is moving on. If anything, your pestering is only pushing her further away.

 

Imagine if you had no more feelings for someone and they kept contacting you and even after ignoring them, they still kept contacting -- you'd be turned off by their behavior. You may feel pestered and annoyed. Now, imagine how she's feeling by your persistence.

[swang]

Take it as a blessing that she is clear about it, because you can move on and heal faster. Many dumpers will string you along out of guilt or whatever reasons.

 

Go no contact, and chances are she will reach out. However, be careful of what she says and your response. Try not to respond to meaningless messages, use the time to reflect on yourself and your last relationship. Figure out what you need to do to make yourself a better person. If you can't do that, even if she came back to you, you'll fall back into the same reasons why you broke up in the first place.

[Satu]

She's made up her mind and only she can change it.

 

The best thing you can do is to just get on with your life.

 

If she does change her mind she'll contact you.

 

 

Take care.