jonwashington Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 So I haven't been in a relationship since 2012. I recently started working at this new place. When I first started working here I just wanted to do my job and just focus on myself even though there were a couple cute girls here. After a few months went by I noticed a girl she's probably the most beautiful girl ever seen in my life. Every time I see her I would say hi, how are you, nice to see you etc. things like that I would never go out of my way or try to follow her see what she's doing or bother her because I think that's kind of weird to do and it's a turn off so I would just do my work and be nice to her when I saw her. She would give me this kind of fake smile which I couldn't tell if it was a fake smile or if she was just nervous so I kind of forgot about her and I saw a new girl. (Girl 2 well call her) oh that was just as beautiful. every time I would say bye to her she would look back at me and smile and give me obvious signs. turns out that she's really nice. I got her number and began talking with her and I took her out she is pretty much the perfect girl she's nice sweet has manners she's very shy with me I don't know how a girl this beautiful can be that shy but she says it's because of me. She does not go out she does not drink she just spends a lot of time with her family and works and that's it. I feel like I hit the jackpot because girls like this don't really exist. But the other day I saw the original girl. I said so how are you how is everything and she looked very shy and nervous and then I said well it was nice to talk to you and I went back over to my workplace. Next thing I know there's a guy tapping me on the shoulder asking me " hey that girl that you just talked to she wants to know your Instagram " and when I looked over at her she was looking at me smiling so I said "you tell her that she can come and ask me herself". I went back over to her I started talking to her but turns out that she has a kid. She also has an on and off boyfriend she has problems with. She says she thinks about me all the time and really wants to learn about me. I really like her because she is the one i always wanted. Seems like she has alot of baggage and i dont like drama. Most of you would say..you have the perfect girl(girl 2) already so why mess that up? Because im young and i want to have fun and mess around with this girl i originally liked. But i dont want to hurt the girl i already have. Shes amazing. She loves me. But the man in me is saying "come on man heres your shot at the first girl ". All her friends keep saying cmon man she wants it bad. What do i do? I know if i hurt girl 2 i will not find another like her. But the devil on my shoulder is saying go give it to this first girl i liked. Ahhh. this gay friend she has keeps coming up to me and saying "dude be a man show her your a man and dont be scared" and its not that im scared. Its just i dont want to hurt the girl i have. Advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Captivating Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 Hi, I would stay with girl #2 for now. Why would you give up a secure girl for an insecure situation? How long are you guys dating? Do you know girl #2 well? Girl #1 has a kid and a boyfriend on the scene. Tell the "gay friend" that you are dating someone as well, just as girl #1 does....but if you would be single you would absolutely invite her out. So that it is not her whom you are rejecting but the situation is not ideal for dating girl #1 at the moment. Or you can directly tell girl #1 this instead of her friend. This way she will understand that you are in a pickle and that there might be hope for the future. Also, she will respect you for not being the guy who cheats. I'm glad that you have a conscience and that you don't want to hurt girl #2. That is the right route. The world is full of tempting opportunities that you must ignore if you are in a relationship that you should be grateful for. Once trust is undermined it's hard to gain it back. Always be true to yourself in a relationship, make decisions that you can be proud of later on. Look at the situation as what can you gain or what can you lose with each decision. Let us know how you decided and how things are. Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 No age is too young to have morals. Decide who you want to be with and go with that choice. Girl #1 has too much baggage and I see so much drama for you there. If you are hell bent on being with her... then end it with girl #2. Just don't dabble with the both of them. There's nothing attractive about double dipping at all. BTW ... none of this is Love. Girl #1 doesn't know you... it's all crushes at this stage. How old are you and these girls? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author jonwashington Posted March 16, 2016 Author Share Posted March 16, 2016 Girl #1 does not have a boyfriend anymore. This was all from two weeks ago when she told me she had a boyfriend. Now i have girl #1s number and i feel like im digging myself a hole and falling for the devils tricks the devil on my shoulder.just by getting her number i feel terrible. I feel like even getting her number is terrible of me to do. But i always liked her. Ahh i dont know what to do. I feel like this is all going to blow up back in my face and will lose the perfect girl #2. But this girl #1 is on the bucket list. Ahhhhhhh man. Girl number 2. The perfect girl. She is so nice. Honest. Beautiful. Calm. Loving. I have been with this girl for 3 months. She never wants to fight. She will say sorry all the time even she says something or asks me a question. She thinks shes being bad and saying the wrong thing. Omg so cute. Im dead Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 My advice for you is to close 1 door before opening another. If you like #1 then you have to dump #2 first. Yes, you may hurt her. But cheating on her will hurt her more. So if you want to go for #1 then end things with #2 first. Yes this may mean you dump #2 and #1 isn't interested after all and you end up alone. Such is the risk of playing this game. Alternatively play it safe and stick with #2. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 Seems like she has alot of baggage and i dont like drama. Repeat every 10 minutes till it permeates your brain and wakes you up to reality. "Seems like she has a lot of baggage and i dont like drama." She has an on/off bf and a kid and apparently no qualms about trying to steal other women's bfs. Trouble with a capital T. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 Repeat every 10 minutes till it permeates your brain and wakes you up to reality. "Seems like she has a lot of baggage and i dont like drama." She has an on/off bf and a kid and apparently no qualms about trying to steal other women's bfs. Trouble with a capital T. Grow up first. Both girls unbelievable hot. Except girl #1 had a BF that knocked her up and she did not dump until she knew she had you interested is a bad sign. She should of dumped him a long time ago. Also that child is baggage. The chance are that ex is always going to be around. You do not need this. Tell girl 1# that she is nice but the timing is wrong and you have just started a new relationship and do not multi-date. I would not mess things up with girl #2. As you said girls like this are very hard to come by. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 17, 2016 Share Posted March 17, 2016 it's fine to multi-date, but you do owe it to your dates to let them know, Hey, I'm dating around a little. Just wanted to let you know. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted March 17, 2016 Share Posted March 17, 2016 side note: "children are not baggage". Please be a bit respectful to single parents. Op: A bucket list ? You objectify these conquests . Step back and be a bit more mindful, these are people, not projects or trophies. Link to post Share on other sites
HereNorThere Posted March 17, 2016 Share Posted March 17, 2016 (edited) Screwing over your for sure girl trying to get with more girls... You'll end no girls... No girls Here, let Devin the Dude explain it, I'm tired... https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=NfeKewY6yz0 Edited March 17, 2016 by HereNorThere Link to post Share on other sites
Rumely Posted March 17, 2016 Share Posted March 17, 2016 (edited) Girl 1 has no idea what she wants and for that matter neither do you. It would not be surprising to me at all, if Girl 1 isn't even interested in you once you dump Girl 2. And there you sit with Girl zero. Edited March 17, 2016 by Rumely Link to post Share on other sites
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