Seperated Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 Can someone tell me if they think there is a big difference between my wife and I. We both dated while seperated. I was with someone a few weeks. She went in some dates. I slept with someone and felt very guilty and told my wife everything even though we both agreed to divorce. This made me realize how much I love her and want to save our marriage. She was dating and saw people. She said it is different because all she did was kiss. I understand there is a difference, but they are both acts of intimacy and I don't think there is a giant difference. Both people had intentions with other people. Advice? I am really trying to fix things. I feel like the more I talk to her the more I push her away. So I am giving her space. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 Can someone tell me if they think there is a big difference between my wife and I. We both dated while seperated. I was with someone a few weeks. She went in some dates. I slept with someone and felt very guilty and told my wife everything even though we both agreed to divorce. This made me realize how much I love her and want to save our marriage. She was dating and saw people. She said it is different because all she did was kiss. I understand there is a difference, but they are both acts of intimacy and I don't think there is a giant difference. Both people had intentions with other people. Advice? I am really trying to fix things. I feel like the more I talk to her the more I push her away. So I am giving her space. "YOU did the same", is NOT a good bargaining position for you here. Going on a few dates and kissing someone is NOT the same as sleeping with someone else. Trying to equate the two will push her away as she will feel you are not trying to understand her POV. She will see you as trying to minimise what to her is a huge deal. She made tentative steps into the dating world whilst you essentially replaced her and to her that is not a good feeling. I don't know her, so "space" may be what she needs, but "space" may show her you have indeed moved on and do not care any more too, so be careful. Link to post Share on other sites
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