oldlion Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 Young sir, if you are having all this trouble after only one and a half years of marriage, stop and really consider how it will be after 5 years or 10 years, with maybe even children to consider. Do not stay with someone that loves someone else. That is a set-up for misery. You have basically been "fired" as her husband and she is trying very hard to replace you with someone else. There are over 3 billion women in this world. Many of them would be glad to be with you. My advice...."Run Forest run". Then go pick one that will love you as much as you love her. I wish you well. Link to post Share on other sites
aliveagain Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 Friend, she is the aggressor, she is the one chasing the other man. Fire her, she's a real sh*tty wife. One and a half years of marriage and she's openly dating, what's to decide? Stop trying to convince yourself that what you have is a marriage and it needs saving. Don't let someone who makes bad decisions have this much control over your future, she's all in or kick her cheating a$$ out. Link to post Share on other sites
BrownHairedGuy Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 Mnek, I hate to see that after a month this is where you are. Although I'm glad to see that you've at least met with a divorce lawyer. As others have said, usually when the WS moves out it's to make it easier to continue the affair. From the sound of it her AP wants nothing to do with her. So she most likely is using the apartment as a way to slowly detach herself from you. If she really loved you and wanted to work on your marriage she would stay in the house and BE WITH YOU. "I have met with a divorce lawyer and there is no benefit to filing right now". Actually there is a huge benefit to filing right now. Instead of waiting and dealing with this situation any longer, you can begin the healing process that much faster and be that much closer to moving on with your life and going on dates and finding someone that actually loves and respects you. Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 Why have you agreed to take divorce off the table if she is still pursuing the OM? Why have you agreed to "date" her if she she is moving out? Why have you agreed to not date other people when she is clearly still try to get with OM? Why are you not moving on with your life while she is moving on with her's? Why are you accepting the terms and conditions of a known cheater who is exiting the marital home? As the betrayed party, Why are you not stating YOUR terms and condition for you to remain in the marriage and then for not divorcing when she doesn't meet them? Why are you holding on to a toxic and exploitive marriage that is less than two years old with no minor children and no joint property? Please answer these very legitimate and valid questions. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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