lostinmyhead Posted June 14, 2005 Share Posted June 14, 2005 I posted earlier, but nobody responded, it was probably just too long. I'll try to keep it short this time, I just have so much to say... My ex was super sympathetic when she first initiated a break between us. She called me for months and we even got back together like everything was ok for a short period of time. She wanted the break because she didn't know what she wanted, she wanted to "be young, make mistakes, have flings, see other people". She said she loves me, but can't give me the commitment I am willing to give her right now. She said she wanted a break because she didn't trust herself and didn't want to make a mistake that would ruin us for good. I pestered her (too much) with questions and it eventually pissed her off. She now is mean and condescending to me and thinks everything I do now is an attempt to win her back. I stopped calling her about 4 days ago to let her cool down, when we do start talking about I am not going to bring 'us' up at all. We have to remain friends (at least) because we both want to and we will be living across the hall in apartments next year in college (her idea earlier this year). I guess I can't see us living so close and something not happeneing between us again, but I don't want it to be for the wrong reasons. Recently she jumped on the first chance she got to 'date around' and has been hanging out with this new guy. He's a jerk and I hear he has a new girl every other week, and has no personality at all. He invited her to spend 3 weeks in another state with him only a week after they met. (creepy...i hope she doesn't go) Since she met him she has started being more distant from me. She has also started dressing more sexy, wears more makeup, flirts with every guy she comes in contact with, and is acting EXTREMELY fake, it's like she is trying too hard. She is a kind, caring person and I love her with all my heart. Why is she acting so different suddenly? Is she really confused like she says she is? What should I do? I HAVE to get her back, but I am willing to wait and have fun in the meantime. She used to act like we would get back together but now she acts like it's a complete unknown. Is it normal for people to go through a weird phase like this, or has she just decided she wants to become a completely different person now? Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted June 15, 2005 Share Posted June 15, 2005 Dude, she's your ex, and she ain't coming back. There is no status, because there is no relationship. Better get over her, because she's playing you. I know you don't want to hear this, but the truth hurts for a reason. Mostly because it's true. Stop kidding yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
willduggan Posted June 15, 2005 Share Posted June 15, 2005 hes absolutly right, even if your goal is to reconcile getting over the past relationship is a must, for many reasons. first it opens you to a new relationship you might not expect it could be better. second it lets you put everything you had with your ex in the past, so in the chance things do start again it will be a new relationship, which is ideal compared to living with the mistakes hanging over your head. let me give you an example ive been broken up now for 3+ months, i still talk to my ex and she would always call to lay her problems on me, say hurtful things to me etc. well last week i decided to finally let everything go, she called today and i didnt let any of it get to me, and she noticed, she IMMEDIATELY turned around, was nice, etc. when you show your moving on, not on their leash, they think theyre losing you and they will try to real you back in. lol ok im rambling, goodluck! -will Link to post Share on other sites
aares Posted June 15, 2005 Share Posted June 15, 2005 I agree with western, but I also think you should just give it time if you really want her back. Would you get back with her after knowing she was with another guy/guys, especially when you two live next to each other in college a year away? If you two dont get back together before next year, I highly doubt you will have feelings for her like you do now. If I were you, I would give her like two-three weeks and see how she acts then. Dont call her, and if she calls you dont act all nice and crap, and do not say anything about your relationship. Since she is having fun, you go and have fun too and dont be afraid to let her know you are having fun. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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