Prodigy2828 Posted March 18, 2016 Share Posted March 18, 2016 So my mother has a friend that lives in a city about five hours away from where I live. He set me up with a young girl (18) that works at his carwash. What I know about her -She is a shy girl -She has only had one boyfriend -She has a lot of the same qualities that I do; smart, responsible, very hard worker. He told her about me and she was very interested in me, so my moms friend gave me her number. We started texting and things were ok. I was able to make her laugh on the first text, but the text just seemed to be plane and not very engaging. We just talked about what we like to do outside of working and what music we like. We made a connection on traveling and classic rock. So what I am worried about is that she might have lost interest because our conversation was kind of stale and plane, but we also got to know a little about each others interest. We were texting sort of late, like around 9ish-10ish Am I over thinking this? Do I try and me more interesting next time we text or is it natural for the texting to be strange when we haven't even met yet? Will she lose interest before we even meet? When we do meet, will it be much easier to talk to her. Note that this would be my first relationship I am going into. It is not because anything is wrong with me (lol), it is just this is the first quality girl I have met. Please give me your thoughts on this. Thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
Aika Posted March 19, 2016 Share Posted March 19, 2016 LDR is extremely difficult. At 18 years old, I don't think it's really wise to get into one. It will be very difficult to see eachother, and that is very hard to deal with. Just my 2 cents. Link to post Share on other sites
Itsjustadream Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 I have to say I've been with my boyfriend five months now, its complicated at times. You're going to want to see her and its not always going to be possible, so you'll have to be able to handle it and be supportive of each other knowing you'll meet and its worth it. As for being 18 that's not a big deal. Your maturity level is, I'm 16 my boyfriends 17 its worked for us so far. As for stale conversation, it does get dull sometimes. Common interests are important so are different interests. I enjoy painting so I show my art to him, I even sent him something I painted while he's not into art much he appreciates it and I talk about it. While he is into motorcycles, guns, the army, photography etc. and such which I have little knowledge about but I enjoy listening to what he likes. When we can't think of much to say I talk about interesting things in my day or ask about his, I'm really random so it works out where I send a funny picture or something like that also pictures are great I love seeing him so its nice. common interests, we play video games together but not always since he's more into it than I am but its fun to chat about. Probably typed a lot. Anyways if you really like her go for it. We also send songs to each other occasionally. Link to post Share on other sites
Steven1 Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 LDR can be extremely extremely hard. You have to have a high level of trust in one another that when a person says they are out shopping or busy with friends/family, that that is exactly what they are doing and not what you my first think they are lol. It really depends on both of you. Obviously there is probably no harm in possibly meeting in a while and seeing how it goes. Don't worry about a stale convo via text, happens to everyone at some point. Maybe see if she want's to talk via call one night and then see how you both manage to keep the convo going and if you both seem interested in one another, if so then see in time if you want to meet and see where it goes from there. Link to post Share on other sites
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