unexpected call from the ex

[busylady]

wasnt sure where to put this but...........

 

 

 

So my ex bf called today.....i was really not expecting it. i guess its true that u get a call when ur not thinkin about it.

 

Well anyways he called and was all nice like askin me all about my life. i gave him an update, new summer job and everything. He was tellin me he was on his way to a resturant (one that him and i used to frequently visit) and he was like i alway want to call u and invite you along but all my buddies come along too and we wouldnt be alone. He was like but i was wondering if you woudl want to go get something to eat with me one day. i was like ok. and didnt say anythig else about it. He was like i havnt talked to u in a long time, blah blah.

 

As we were talkin he was talkin about him gettin a new car and i told him i did and he was like oh so ur not drivin ur old one? i would always see cars just like urs and look to see if it was u but it never was, no wonder. and im thinkin geez i thought only i did that like a crazy person (course i didnt tell him that haha).

 

He then said he had to go cause he just got to the place and he woudl call me later.........dont worry im not sittin waiting for him to call.

 

Its just strange cause a couple weekends he called me boht the friday and sat. of that weekend to try and get me to go to parties with him and the other weekend he sent me a hey sweetie, how are you text. i never responded to it.

 

i just wanted some thoughts on the whole thing we broke up about 8 months ago on his part. i just think an ex doesnt put that much effort into you if they broke up with you. anyone have anything to say about my situation?

[sleeplessincnd]

Well it is very simple to see that he wants you back. All the non-responding and such has made him realize that he can't have you - and that is what happens.

 

So you have to decide if you want him back. If you do then it looks like that is possible. Just play it cool - maybe go out with him once and then keep up the hard to get for a little while, then you will have him wrapped around your little finger. Make sure that he works for it and that he really proves that he has changed.

 

If you don't want him back then tell him to go f*ck his hat and don't let him mess with you!

 

You have to decide what you want - and it looks like you want to get back together - or you wouldn't have posted it here - you wouldn't have even been thinking about it!

 

Good Luck!

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Originally posted by sleeplessincnd

Well it is very simple to see that he wants you back.

 

I don't necessarily agree with this statement. I think that he is testing the waters. He is trying to see if he still has any effect on you, and I think you did the right thing by ignoring some of his calls. You are regaining power. That is good. The fact of the matter is that you have to enter this with caution. He might do the same thing again- get you on the hook and set you free. There was a time when I wanted my ex back, but then I met someone else and she can go f**k her hat. She calls and yeah, I might toy with her a little, but the fact of the matter is, they left you and there are plenty of people who won't.