Not meant to be, destiny, fate, blah blah blah

[phyrespryte]

I'm so frustrated. Has anyone ever tried to start something with someone and circumstances beyond your control keep on interfering?

 

I've been trying to go out with this guy for some time now and crap just keeps happening. And it's not like he's not interested. For example I'll say hey let's do something tonight and he'll say, "I'm hanging with Bob we're going to a game want to come"? I'll say no because Bob is a slime ball who tried to hit on me and did some not so nice things to a friend of mine. Then he'll say hey let's go out this weekend and I'll say yes, but then I end up with strep throat and have to cancel. Or some jerk spreads rumors and causes unnecessary drama. It just goes on and on. I'm getting so annoyed.

 

I wonder if God is telling me to leave this guy alone. Do you think that's possible? That some people you're just not meant to be with?

[RoseyLife]

sometimes when you just leave things be and forget about it, it comes to you.

[whichwayisup]

Rosey is right.

 

I think if you're really into him and he's into you - IT WILL HAPPEN.

 

My motto, never rush a good thing...

 

But, if you aren't sure if he's into you anymore then be honest and come right out and ask him. Better to know how he feels than play the guessing game.

[logos]

Sit in silence for a few minutes and just concentrate on what you feel to be right. If your heart is telling you, and you will know it if it is telling you, that this person is someone you feel a connection with then patience is what is called for. But if your heart is telling you are forcing something, then leave it alone. Trust me, you have it inside of you to know your answer, following what it is telling you is the hard part.

[phyrespryte]

Thanks so much for all the advice I really appreciate it.

 

RoseyLife: sometimes when you just leave things be and forget about it, it comes to you.

 

You're so right. It's just so hard trying to forget and be patient. I feel like I've been waiting for so long and I'm just afraid I'll miss my opportunity.

 

whichwayisup: But, if you aren't sure if he's into you anymore then be honest and come right out and ask him. Better to know how he feels than play the guessing game.

 

I'm sure he's still into me. The other day he said he heard my favorite song and thought of me.

I just don't want to come across as just a flirt with no interest in him. But I agree with you about not rushing a good thing. I guess that's what I've been doing. I feel like Murphy's Law has decided to get involved and everything that could go wrong has gone wrong and I need to correct it. I really hate not being in control of what's going on.

 

logos: Sit in silence for a few minutes and just concentrate on what you feel to be right.

 

I actually tried that. I feel like there is a connection with this person, but I also feel that I'm forcing things. I guess I should just step back and see what happens.