Ex'es that you would like to erase from your memory?

[wlh22]

I was wondering, have you ever had that one experience/person that you wish just never happened in your life? Someone who emotionally played with you so much or had a side fling while saying they are committed or abused you or left you again and again and confused you?

 

I think I recently had one such experience. I never really figured out what went in her head even after a year and sort of feel like she played me. Looking back, I think I ignored some red flags/situations and also believed in her words instead of cross-questioning in a strong but not argumentative way.

 

Are there any such experiences you had? maybe others can learn from those?

[LivingDeadGrl]

Yes. I had an ex who was married at the time I met him but separated. I definitely jumped in too fast but he stomped on my heart over and over, went back and forth with her and I, cheated on me, was emotionally unavailable, talked to several girls behind my back, used me, emotionally scarred me for 4.5 years of my life. My self esteem was so low I didn't even recognize the person in the mirror anymore but yet I loved him through all of it.

If I could take it all back I would in a heartbeat. I would have left at that first red flag, but everything happens for a reason and I will never ever put up with the things I did in that RL again. I am so glad I left.

[Heatemyheart89]

I had an ex who abused me. He was seeing me and another girl (his girlfriend) he bullied me, lowered my self esteem and made me feel awful. I never thought I would get over it. BUT I have and he is distant memory. So if you let yourself you can forget.

[loveiswar101]

Would you call see, dating someone for 4 months an ex. Maybe! We had sex once and cuddled a lot. Hung out with her children alot. But were we in a relationship i don't think so.

 

I'll be honest I was going well in life not great by any means. But well. Over my ex of 3 years and moving on. Thought i'd date. Mistake.

 

One week she was to busy with studying and her girls and no time to see me the next she unexpectedly found someone else, the one apparently and cut me off instantly, I felt used as originally she told me she hadn't been close to a guy in 18 months after separating, she told me and I brought out of the gloom and helped her forward. WOW glad I could help!

 

YES i wish I could turn back the clock and wish it never happened, wish I could erase her from my memory asap !!!

 

It won't happen and I struggle again, I just hope only a few months. Getting use to rejection now.

Edited March 19, 2016 by loveiswar101

[TheBathWater]

I was wondering, have you ever had that one experience/person that you wish just never happened in your life? Someone who emotionally played with you so much or had a side fling while saying they are committed or abused you or left you again and again and confused you?

 

I think I recently had one such experience. I never really figured out what went in her head even after a year and sort of feel like she played me. Looking back, I think I ignored some red flags/situations and also believed in her words instead of cross-questioning in a strong but not argumentative way.

 

Are there any such experiences you had? maybe others can learn from those?

 

Yes to all of the above regarding my most recent ex. I constantly felt uneasy about her but ignored my intuition because she seemed "sweet". I hung on to any doubt I had whenever she fed me bull**** because I was tired of being single and really thought she was special and just needed someone understanding like me. In the end, she was sneaking behind my back with other guys, lying to me and keeping things from me, and overall taking advantage of my good nature. I'm 32, but never before have I had such a shattering of what I thought something was in my head. She was the worse thing that happened to me in a long time. I have been with a lot of women and always seem to find the good in them somehow, but with her I just can't. I wish I could erase her from my memory.